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About being told to grow up

149 replies

Stripyseagulls · 04/07/2019 07:07

I went to Glastonbury at the weekend! It was brilliant and I had a great time. I was fortunate enough to ‘glamp’ in a bell tent so it was lovely.
I am in my 40’s with 2 kids and a demanding full time career. I haven’t been away from my kids at all in over 3 years and only maybe 4 times for a couple days since they were born- they are 8 and 12.
I really needed a break actually and to have a bit of fun- I needed to feel myself for a few days & its done me the world of good- life had really got on top of me.

I got told yesterday I needed to grow up by a close friend & it’s really upset me. That it’s not adult appropriate behaviour to go to Glastonbury. It’s made me feel shit and guilty for leaving my kids now.

Aibu to be upset by it? I feel like telling them to fuck right off

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Boysey45 · 04/07/2019 08:28

Shes totally utterly jealous, I had this when I went to New York. A couple of colleagues made nasty comments.
On the T.V I could see it was for all ages and there were a lot if not more older people than teens etc. Not surprising given the cost.
Shes not a friend really is she?

pinkyredrose · 04/07/2019 08:28

She's an idiot. 'Adult appropriate' indeed. What did she even mean by that?!

onalongsabbatical · 04/07/2019 08:29

Randyraver 4 posts in - the kids were with their dad!

Sakura7 · 04/07/2019 08:30

Where were the kids while all this was going on

Read the thread. You don't need to go very far to see that the OP explained this already. Even if she hadn't, it's fair to assume they were with their Dad or another family member, not abandonned and left to fend for themselves FFS.

Boysey45 · 04/07/2019 08:32

Out of interest how much does Glastonbury cost for 1 person all in? I mean, the ticket, food,drinks travel etc for the weekend. I bet its about £500 plus.Hope you had a great time OP. Just ignore this spiteful person.

Mix56 · 04/07/2019 08:33

"Oh I'll stay home & hoover next year, .....or Not", hahahahahahahaha

MsTSwift · 04/07/2019 08:33

Unless you left under 12s to fend for themselves with a pot noodle which you obviously didn’t she is very unreasonable and jealous as hell!

Ohyesiam · 04/07/2019 08:33

Glastonbury is full of us oldies, you must have noticed, especially if you glamped in the Love Fields! No on under 40 that I noticed.

Happy lives come from shouldering our responsibilities while following our hearts.
The” friend” could do with learning that.
If she were in my life she’d have one less friend though.

redcarbluecar · 04/07/2019 08:34

People of all ages go to Glastonbury. Just shrug at your silly friend. 🤷‍♀️

Fluffymullet · 04/07/2019 08:35

It's that sort of thinking that ages you before your years. I think a huge part of growing older is your attitude towards life. Trying new experiences and being curious and interested in the world keeps people young at heart! Your friend might not be jealous ( although I am!) But just stuck in a closed mindset

Loveislandaddict · 04/07/2019 08:35

Two friends in their fifties both want to go to Glastonbury next year. Too busy for me, although I am going to a smaller festival later this year.

She’s the one that needs to grow up, and develop some manners.

Hope you had a great time. It looked fab. Who did you see?

(Loved watching it on tv)

CuriousaboutSamphire · 04/07/2019 08:36

Where were the kids while all this was going on FFS! That's as bad as the so called friend! ARE you the friend Randyraver ? What an appropriate name for this thread Smile

Obviously OP left them in a cardboard box, tucked under the bed so nobody would hear them!!!

BykerBykerOoh · 04/07/2019 08:36

Why would she say that? Did you ask her? Was she joking? Because it seems like such a nasty thing to say. I can’t imagine saying that to any of my friends. I have called a very good friend out on really bad behaviour - once - but I agonised over how to word it and to make it clear I was worried about her. Your “friend” sounds like she was just trying to make you feel bad.

MrsRussell · 04/07/2019 08:37

I'm a re-enactor, OP. I'm 47 and at weekends I dress up as a Roman lady and sleep in a van.
Actually going to Glastonbury in a tent, where you've planned where you're gong to sleep and what will happen if it rains and what you're going to have to eat and all the things, sounds remarkably adult.
If you'd just decided to go on Friday night, left a note pinned to the front door for the kids, and hitch hiked down with only the clothes you stood up in and not a penny in your pocket - that'd be immature.

Bumholes to your friend.

WinterRose92 · 04/07/2019 08:37

Don’t let it ruin the great time you had - tell them to fuck right off!
You needed and deserved the break, don’t feel guilty!

Foxglove18 · 04/07/2019 08:40

What a dick!

My parents are in their late 50s/60s and still need to grow up then as they’ve been to more festivals than I have in the last few years... Hmm

Sandybval · 04/07/2019 08:40

Your children were safe at home with their father, assuming that the ticket cost didn't put you into debt, and you are still your own person as well as a mother. Glad you had a good time, and never feel bad for taking time to do something you want to if situation allows.

coffeeaddiction · 04/07/2019 08:45

Festivals are not just for teens or twenty somethings , I'm very envious of you !
I hope when I'm 40 I can go and enjoy myself !

Gatehouse77 · 04/07/2019 08:47

Bollox to that!

DH and I have been to all sorts of festivals and outings without the kids.
If you had a great time that's what counts - ignore them. They're knobs.

PerfectionistProcrastinator · 04/07/2019 08:50

Glastonbury is for everyone, which is why there’s such a broad selection of bands and music. Your friend is being ridiculous.

LoveofAvalon · 04/07/2019 08:51

Tell her to fuck off. I went to my first Glastonbury at 39, just back from my 9th aged 50. Friends were there also minus their kids as I'm sure were an awful lot of others.

WhyTho · 04/07/2019 08:55

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Geminijes · 04/07/2019 08:59

Sounds as if your friend just wanted to burst your bubble.

Ignore her. You had a great time and your children were looked after with their Dad...nothing else matters.

Oliversmumsarmy · 04/07/2019 09:08

That it’s not adult appropriate behaviour

😂😂😂

Wtf is appropriate adult behaviour?

Sitting in the corner knitting and waiting to die.

pictish · 04/07/2019 09:10

People can be so short sighted and vitriolic can’t they? Unless it taps into their own personal area of interest, they not only fail to see the appeal but will actively heap scorn on that which they don’t understand, even if it doesn’t impact on them at all. It comes from a place of insecurity believe it or not...it’s a drive to undermine another to elevate oneself.
I’m not surprised you feel like telling her to fuck off but I’d be more inclined to sit on it and formulate the perfect, polite but icy response. Revenge is a dish best served cold after all.

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