To expect a nanny/babysitter

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To entertain an 8 yr old boy and not just let him listen to music, read and play Lego by himself the whole time? This is all after school.

I would be delighted with this! Means the baby sitter has not just gone to electronics to entertain him.

Asking your babysitter to do house work is out of order, and the person above saying they are unlikely to be paying tax and it’s cash in hand is a bit of a presumption if this has been a permanent arrangement over the years! Yabu - baby sitter is doing nothing wrong

A good few years ago I ended up trying two new babysitters out, both 6pm to midnight.

Dcs went to bed at 8. They liked both babysitters equally. When I got home from first one, the house was as I left it, except from 2 used tea mugs in the lounge. No problem. From the second one, there'd been a little pile of ironing in the laundry. She'd done it. No expectations from me.

But guess which sitter I chose the next time, and the next, and the next?

Any employer is going to choose the person who returns them the best value. There's a few very bitter posts on this thread 'they're not fucking maids' etc etc but there are plenty of people who take pride in their job, like to go the extra mile, and actually feel a bit guilty sat on their arse when kids are asleep and they're getting a tenner an hour for it. These are the people who will get asked to return.

If your DC is happy playing alone then the nanny/babysitter's only role is to collect him, supervise him (and feed him if you've asked her to)

Maybe you should try to look for a part-time mothers help.....that way you will have someone to look after your child and help with household stuff. You will have to pay more that £10ph though.

Babysitter not after school activity provider.
Sounds like yourDC is getting the downtime they need after a busy day at school.
You are paying for the sitter's time.
If you want activities, choose another method of child care.

What do you want her to do?

Agree with others. If she is doing nothing of use in your eyes, give him a key and get rid of her.
I think he'd miss her picking him up from school, getting after school snacks, giving him space to wind down after a day at school, keeping him company though don't you OP?

Mothers help is a great shout. I think these will overtake babysitters in the future. Round my way they charge about £12 an hour.