To not want health visitor in my bedroom

[Babybrainfail]

So my health visitor did a antenatal visor today, she seems very nice and it was a flying visit as I work in a similar role so I am up to date on latest guidelines and advice and it’s also not my first baby, but she mentioned that they like to view where baby sleeps to make recommendations, I said it wasn’t actually set up yet when she first mentioned it but Aibu to think that it’s intrusive to be wandering into my bedroom when my baby is a few weeks old?

Nope just genuinely can't see why you don't get it. It's not an unusual concept.

Nope just genuinely can't see why you don't get it

Same reason you don't get why I don't think it's a big deal I expect.

But I'm not trying to convince you to bar people from your bedroom. I don't care whether you let people in or not.

I wasn’t offered an antenatal visit but she asked to see where the baby slept on her first visit after and I took her up, she peered into the bedside cot, nodded and we cake back down.

I’m sure she was ticking a box, she was pretty hands off generally. But she made a couple of extra visits to weigh DD as she’s local and I couldn’t drive post CS which was kind so felt happy to let her tick away.

I found midwives much more friendly and helpful than my HV but they’ve all been pleasant and left us to it.

My HV, who came round twice in four years, never asked to go to the bedroom, she just wanted to know how we were doing and to offer advice. My baby had colic, on her first visit she told me hers had too and she found giving up cheese helped immensely, advising me to do the same.

Much as I usually love cheese, I went off it the moment I was pregnant and didn't eat it again until he was six months old!

When I moved to where I live now, someone knocked at the door in the morning. I opened it and it was a health visitor. I thought it was odd because they usually only visit until a child is four and mine was nearly give, however I asked her in as I thought maybe there were different protocols in different areas.

She sat down and observed me and my son, chatting, for a little while.
Then she asked me how my pregnancy was progressing. I told her I wasn't pregnant and she was quite confused. Then she called me by a different name and I said I wasn't that person, it was the woman who had lived in the house before. She said she was sorry and that the other person was EIGHT MONTHS pregnant. I was there before her - skinny as a rake!

I don't give HVs a lot of credit.

Strange . Neither midwife or health visitor has ever been in my bedroom . Stitches can be shown on the sofa in the lounge

I generally give SIDS guidelines from the sofa but offer to have a look at sleeping area if the parents look unsure.