Parent away 48hours a week

[4ormore]

So I am a mother of 4.
I love being a mum, love family life. I don’t often get a break which is fine. But my other half’s hobby now takes up 48hours a week.
Leaves early hours Wednesday morning back late Thursday.
I wish he’d use that time to spend extra with me and the kids.
Am I being unfair?

Wow that’s a funny time for a hobby! When i hear ‘hobby’ I instantly think cycling but 48 solid hours midweek? I need to know what the hobby is 😄

YANBU at all by the way. Sounds crazy!

I’d be pissed off too. How old are the children?

You sure it’s not an OW

Of course you're not BU. 48 hours a week? Seriously? Is that every week?

What hobby means overnight stays and 48 hours away from home. Is he in the TA (though I'm not sure if even they demand this)?

When does he work?

What kind of hobby needs that much involvement?

Way too much for someone with commitments

Fishing 🙄
He’s just got back from 8 days in France during half term might I add.
Children are 2,4,12,14.
I just feel a bit resentful I think.
Happy to take time off work for himself but not for us.
I could definitely do with a hand once a week.

Fuck that! What is this mysterious 'hobby'?

48 hours is equivalent to a full time job!

Why is he so detached from family life? I'm agog at these men who I read about regularly on here who appear to have missed the memo that procreating involves more than just ejaculating!!!

No chance. Once every blue moon is one thing but not weekly.

Book yourself a 48 hour break and leave him to it

And works 40 hours a week? And sleeps for c49 hours a week? That means he has 31 hours a week for commuting, eating, washing and home life. That can't be true surely...

X-post. Completely selfish.

You say I don’t often get a break which is fine.

It's not fine at all!!!

Can’t he fish more locally?

How do I approach this?
It just gets thrown in my face because I’m a SAHM. “He needs the break”

I'd happily wave him off and enjoy hogging the duvet and watching what I wanted on tv not a big deal for me but can understand it would be for others

He takes two days off from work.

How do you approach it?

You tell him that fathering 4 children and being absent and asleep for over 120 hours of a 144 hour week makes him a selfish arsehole.

He is extremely selfish, I'd be sitting down to discuss this isnt happening weekly, and see if we could come to a fair compromise.
It doesnt sound like you can be spending anytime together/as a family/ him helping out and being part of the family.

I must say the maths skills on some of you is super impressive

You are just as entitled to a break as he is. Being a SAHP is no holiday.
He sounds selfish

What job let’s you take two days off every week?

Something isn’t adding up here. Are you sure he is being honest with you ?

48 hrs a week?? He spends more time on his hobby than most people do at work, that's completely excessive. He can't possibly think this is normal someone with young children.

Im sure as a SAHM you need a break as much if not more than him, after teafing your ipdate, id be considering whether its worth being in this relationship

He takes 2 days a week off work every week?!

Does he work over the weekend?

Whatever the maths that is totally unacceptable. Do the younger children ever see him?

And you definitely need support, even if you don't want an actual break. Very selfish.