Nasty

[Snooky84]

Aibu to think mumsnet is getting nastier and crueler. When we should be supporting each other or giving well meant advice.
Also what's the worst thing you've ever read on mumsnet?

Just think more people are intolerant of other people’s opinions tbh. Also I get the feeling sometimes that a poster may be in a crap mood/had a crap day and literally comes on here to pick a fight, because it’s easier to have a rant at a bunch of online strangers than someone IRL. Hiding behind a keyboard mentality. On the other hand I’m pretty thick skinned and don’t take anything to heart; but if you’re a more sensitive soul AIBU is definitely not for you.

If you never venture out of AIBU to all the other topics you aren't going to get an overall picture. I don't understand why posters never look elsewhere for threads.

This topic was literally just done. We get it

When we should be supporting each other or giving well meant advice.

Surely you are free to do just that?

i always laugh at these ridiculous threads.

Everyone is so mean, except me. Oh yes I'm empathetic and lovely and always nice to everyone.

A forum is made up of the members of the forum. If you want to change it be that change. Stop moaning that other people aren't doing what you want them to do. They are just as free to type what they want as you are.

Yes it can be mean spirited. If a thread starts receiving nasty comments it tends to become a free for all and they all pile on op.

I read and re- read everything I post to try to reduce negative response. I’m all for healthy informed debate but mn regularly is more bear bating.

Hide AIBU and feminism and you’ll find it much more fragrant.

Exactly NoSauce, I have loads of topics hidden I think I have 11 not hidden. I hid AIBU for a while when it all got a bit but I unhid it and see it as a joke topic now.

A transwomen told me my sadness about my infertility wasn't as bad as theirs because at least I had a womb.
They had fathered a child.

Didn't we have this only a couple of days ago?

the worse ones are the posters who want to label every single thing.

Completely agree with OP.

For some users apparently every thread is just an excuse to judge other parents. I've just started a thread asking a specific question about dummies and have received a barrage of passive aggressive comments about why I might want to give my daughter a dummy, how ugly they look etc., which completely overlook the original post.

I'd heard MN was a wealth of support, but frankly won't be staying long based on what I've seen

Didn't we have this only a couple of days ago?

Yep, this topic is on a loop.

Been on almost 10 years or so now, it's got horrific in the last two.

The double standards are terrible here. When a man does not want children, the advice from MN is simple - he should keep it in his pants. Recently, there was a thread where the wife wanted another DC, the husband didn't. So the husband kept it in his pants. He got called every name under the sun.

Are we only allowed one thread per topic? I haven't seen the other threads. I'm not on here every day

Yeah I notice a lot of users sometimes gang up on single people because of a difference in opinion. They get ridiculed. It's horrible.

Cobblers! I rarely see any real "nastiness" on here. Maybe pop over to Reddit or Kiwi Farms for some perspective. THAT'S nasty!
Also no Transphobia that I've seen. Unless you subscribe to the "wah wah wah! A woman DISAGREED with me" definition of Transphobia. As some clearly do.

Don't be so wet!

There is no transphobia just TRAs/MRAs saying there is. Mumsnet has been at the forefront of protecting women's spaces and keeping sports sex based. The recent success in halting GRA reform in Scotland and likely in England too has got certain people rattled and their usual silencing tactics aren't working. And don't even start with pushing 'born in the wrong body' crap onto children. No child needs puberty blockers, hormones and surgery to 'fix' them. If that's your definition of hateful give your head a wobble.

Odd how it’s a supposedly tiny minority defending women’s rights, but 99% of the votes on a recent thread were in favour of keeping women’s and girls’ sport for women and girls.
Are we changing the meaning of the word “minority” as well now?

These threads are so tiresome, if the site doesn't suit you you don't need to be part of it.

The worst thing I've read on MN? OPs and threads like this.

There is plenty of support and well meaning, usually woefully incorrect, advice to be found on MN, however, AIBU is a topic asking for opinions as to whether someone is being reasonable or not.

A lot of posters proving the OPs point here

Let’s be honest, the nastier posters of mumsnet will never admit it, because if they actually realised how nasty they were being, they would probably stop being so nasty! They think they are completely correct and justified in what they are saying.

My, what a big wooden spoon you have OP.

All the better to shit stir.

I disagree. I've been here for a few years (I NC regularly) and it's always been shitty. It wasn't nice 3 or 4 years ago and it's not nice now.

But I like it because it feels more real. If you want sugar-coated bullshit then hop on over to NM and sign off every single post with xx.

MN represents stronger women's opinions. It is a safe haven for women to vent about real issues that they find upsetting, whether it be a MIL, cheating spouse or the trans agenda.

Just because the issue doesn't bother you doesn't make it less important. Plenty of women rely on MN for support and validation and I personally think it's the best women's site out there.

Being nasty to others doesn’t make you a ‘strong woman’ just like being kind doesn’t make you a weak woman...