What if it isn’t “Harry” per se that’s controlling Meghan, but more so he is enabling his family (her in laws) to control her and being their gateway, because he can’t put proper boundaries in place...
Technically it will be a tough dynamic for Harry and he is bound to expect Meghan to bend backwards instead of his nanny to not interfere when she is the queen... or more like, his sister in law is the next queen and I dare think he finds it difficult to have conversations about boundaries when it comes to his wife and might instead expect Meghan to fall in line with their expectations...
And Meghan is perhaps desperately trying to push back?? As we all do with interfering in laws to place some healthy boundaries ?? And perhaps, errrrrr, she isn’t finding it easy at all that her husband and her aren’t able to be a team since he is being pulled by his family who are much more powerful in this dynamic?
Perhaps Harry has some time to mature before he can handle a dynamic like this... and it’s his responsibility to “find his balls” and step up. Instead of passive aggressively making his family bend backwards..
Perhaps Meghan is making bold statements because.... she is the new one in the family and still had her healthy boundaries which all humans do and it is Harry who never had the chance to develop them and is struggling.. and so as a mother she is trying to protect her family.
I mean... who knows? Maybe she has been here posting about in law issues and maybe WE gave her the advice on how to set up boundaries and how to go low contact...
Maybe her and her husband aren’t on the same page on issues to do with their relationship with the royal family.. or their position as royals. Maybe they have a lot to still work through as a new couple in a high profile marriage..
Maybe it’s just none of our business to analyze what we see on the surface because there are sooo many maybes that can change the context of what we see..
At the end of the day, no money, no fame, is worth ruining a marriage and a family over.. she has the right just like everyone else to make sure her marriage works and there is nothing to suggest that she is the problem in the marriage. I’m sure there are pressures on them from many angles and I’m sure both of them are struggling and not yet perfected their coping mechanism...
He could rub off on her the wrong way.. she could rub off on him the wrong way. Such is life. Tolerance and communication is key, and very private so it’s not for us to see.
What’s important is to see both of them working on it... while being themselves.. and it’s not easy to be yourself while you have a million people around you scrutinizing everything you do and hence enabling an imbalance of power in the marriage.
It makes me happy to see Meghan being confident, having her friends around her, not scared of being herself.. and it makes me happy to see the couple attempting to carve their own lives, and setting boundaries, even if those boundaries are at times questionable...
At the very least, it means they’re attempting to be a team and communicating and soon they hopefully will figure it out. They’re only been married a year for God’s sake... only together for few months more than that!!! Their focus now is them becoming a team and not how to give back..
So yeh.. If she was posting innocent AIBU, or Relationships, I’m sure we would’ve told her to do exactly what she is doing.. anonymously. Money doesn’t entitled us to expect people to give up their rights within a marriage. Boundaries are needed