DH made a woman cry - wtf

[parkedonthestreet]

Cars park on our street and it's a free for all. We noticed a car parked behind ours with a flat tyre on friday. DH has been going on about it. Today as we were going to our car he saw a woman walking to it and said "oh is this yours? Thought it was abandoned." She looked startled and said no ... why. He said because it had a flat tyre and she said something like oh, it'll be ok. Dh repeated it'll be ok and laughed loudly. She looked uncomfortable, then started crying, got in it and drove off.

@Hadalifeonce i think she was saying no to him asking if it had been abandoned

Anyone else waiting on a punchline? 😀

I read it than when ha asked her if it was her car she said no

He asked it was her car...thought it was abandoned

And she said, no.

As opposed to "no, you dick, it's only been parked here for two days, what are you being weird"

So he’s been on about it since Friday? He needs a hobby- maybe car maintenance?

He sounds like a tool.

Maybe she thought he deliberately flattened the tyre because he was annoyed it had been there for 2 days.
I hate people like your DH who think they own public roads and then try to intimidate people who have parked legally.
No idea if that means I vote YABU or YANBU since you didn't ask a question.

Ridiculous over reaction from the woman unless there is more to this.

Your dh sounds like a bully. His reaction would have been totally different had it been a big bloke. I can understand why she cried, tbh, she probably felt embarrassed and humiliated.

Thank you, both.

Even if she hadn't cried he's still an ignorant pig for trying to make another person feel bad for no other reason than because 'he can'.

'ridiculous overreaction unless there is more to this'

Exactly. Point being you never know what 'more' anyone has going on. So best not to laugh at strangers unkindly in a public setting, eh?

l once burst a tyre just after l'd left my very ill rabbit at the vets. l was also nearly mad with the pain of a dental abscess.
When the rescue man arrived l was so relieved to see him, l nearly cried. l don't think l'd have appreciated someone laughing at me.

Your DH sounds like an obnoxious arsehole incapable of logical thought. It’s very unlikely that a car would simply be abandoned due to a flat tyre, it costs far less to replace a tyre than a car and drawing this conclusion after two days is utterly ridiculous. To then be such a twat as to mock her on top of this, well, big slow clap for him.

The flat tyre obviously posed some kind of issue for her as she wouldn’t have left it for two days otherwise. Maybe she couldn’t afford a new one, maybe she didn’t know how to change it and couldn’t get anyone to help or afford to pay someone. Maybe she was crying for an unrelated reasons, we simply don’t know.

My DH would have offered to change it for her because he isn’t a prick.

Right now a man laughing and micking me and a flat tyre, would be enough to push me over the edge.

I am off work with anxiety and depression. Recent expenses mean I am living one day to the next.

So i can totally see that, this would make a person cry. My mental health being a bit fragile, money being tight and and a man laughing at me after moaning about my abandoned car, could upset me.

Although, the way I feel at the moment I would have told him to fuck off.

The car wasnt parked illegally and OP doesnt indicate that its permit parking. Yet, instead of assuming a neighbour had a visitor for the weekend, or that someone had a flat and pulled over and was trying to sort it out, he presumes someones dumped their car there.

I am also guessing that as this had been bothering him all weekend, that showed in his tone.

My DH would have offered to change it for her because he isn’t a prick.

My dp would have too. Infact my exh was a prick and he would have offered too.

So your DH repeated what she said? Was he mimicking her then laughing? Whilst that wouldn't make me cry I would feel uncomfortable and think he was unkind and rude.

I voted with no idea on what. Reminds me of local elections. I choose YANBU for no other reason than I would rather be positive and supportive, unlike your DH.

He sounds like a prat, firstly because so fucking what if there's a car parked in the road..... big bloody deal! It was there a couple of days, I presume he's put that in his diary? He needs more to his life if he's worried about parked cars.

Secondly mimicking and laughing at people is just bullying, no excuse ever, he's a bully!

Thirdly, what are you asking here? What's is your AIBU?

I appreciate that you r suddenly received bad news and this has led to your rudeness and saying don't post then (on a public forum, so why shouldn't people post whenever they like) so perhaps you'll understand when your bully of a husband mimicked and laughed at the driver that she may have also been having a bad day?

Your DH sounds like a most unpleasant person.

He mimicked her and laughed - that is really twattish. I probably would have called him out on it rather than cried but who knows what situation she was in?

What's the AIBU? Was he being unreasonably rude? Yes, he was.

How unpleasant. If my DH spoke to one of our neighbours in this way I would be very embarrassed.

Your DH was a jerk/. If he sees her again, he should apologize.

Wow. He sounds a delight! Lucky you, op

OP you and your husband sound two of a kind - unkind.

Your "dear" husband was being unreasonable and rude.