AIBU - What age is it not ok to fly alone? Should DH take MIL or not?

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What age would people say that an older person would need to be accompanied on a plane please. I’m asking for to MIL and we have this situation a lot.

I don’t mean to sound selfish, but DH is faffing and being non-committal about us booking a family holiday on the grounds that he has announced he will probably be in the Middle East for most of the summer due to work (but no definite dates as yet). Now, the week he does appear to have free is when MIL wants to go and see her other son in New York. Usually DH will take her in the plane, maybe stay overnight and then return and BIL will bring her back later and do the same.. MIL is now 71, no health complaints. AIBU to say to DH that he could maybe consider just taking her to the airport and checking her in etc? What do other people do in this situation?

I’d suggest you book a holiday based on what suits you and the kids and I’d tell him quite clearly he’s not invited - in fact take your mum best friend or hire a nanny and do what you feel meets your needs and stop tip toeing round his possible arrival or departure

You don’t need his permission to go on holiday and if he can’t commit do it your way instead

It really is all about him and mummy. She’ll be coming to live with you next so you can care for her. Has that been suggested yet? Bet he wouldn’t curtail his breaks or any other commitments for that as you’d be her de facto nurse.

Do you ever get me time? Time away to yourself?

Sounds very odd; more money than sense

Sounds very odd; more money than sense

It is odd behaviour, but then parent-child dynamics can be weird. My Dad still expects me (at 45) to agree with him on everything and if he makes a "suggestions" he basically wants me to follow it! I have to weigh up whether I want a protracted debate about something, or just agree with him to make life easy.

Luckily we don't live close to each other so I do as I please most of the time.