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AIBU to let this go, or should I complain about son being 'hit' by a teacher

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narisha99 · 25/06/2019 19:56

So, DS10 was chatting in class today while watching a video (educational, relating to the subject) and was told off twice by the teacher for talking. Fair enough. The third time the teacher hit him on the head with a book!

DS says it was hard, ie more than a tap, but wasn't enough to cause any type of injury. DS wasn't hurt or upset at the time, but was a little embarrassed and did in fact stop talking.

Whilst I don't think the teacher should have done that, its nothing more than I would have done at home, so I am tempted to leave it.

But DH thinks it is totally inappropriate and we should be complaining to the head in the morning.

WWYD?

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Greensleeves · 26/06/2019 02:09

It isn't a binary choice between sanctioning your child for disrupting the lesson and raising the teacher's inappropriate response with the school - any sensible parent would be doing both.

Your mother behaved disgracefully, Winterlife. She assaulted a child and should have been formally disciplined.

blackfred · 26/06/2019 02:12

I can understand why teachers are leaving the profession. Every second day on here there is another story where everyone is outraged about a teacher and everyone is encouraging "report, report".

I think if I was a teacher I would want to do more than tap a kid on the head with a book. Also every complaining parent has a child that can do no wrong, never lie, innocent party, and never at fault.

Those rotten school teachers!

OkPedro · 26/06/2019 02:22

blackfred “If I was a teacher I’d want to do more than tap a kid on the head with a book”
Thank fuck you’re not a teacher then

Every complaining parent has a child that can do no wrong? Wtf are you talking about 😆
If you need to physically discipline a child you’ve lost control. I have two dc. They test me and push me to my limits yet I have never physically disciplined them. Firstly it’s wrong and secondly it doesn’t bloody work. I was smacked as a kid and I still broke rules

WhyTho · 26/06/2019 02:24

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OkPedro · 26/06/2019 02:32

whytho What kind of monsters are we raising 😂 Our school is in a middle class area (we however are not middle class) don’t get me wrong it’s a great school and most parents are lovely but there certainly isn’t chair throwing or fires (They don’t know they’re born 😂)
Is your username related to your child/children by why chance??

OkPedro · 26/06/2019 02:33

By any chance ffs 🙄

WhyTho · 26/06/2019 02:40

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OkPedro · 26/06/2019 02:53

“Very bright child, does all his work quickly, never shuts the fuck up 😆 I proper lol at that

WhyTho · 26/06/2019 02:56

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Topseyt · 26/06/2019 03:18

This wouldn't bother me at all.

He kept talking when asked not to. Repeatedly. Sent him to school in a helmet or hard hat tomorrow. That should do the trick.

SleepAllDay7 · 26/06/2019 03:36

They should throw the book at her.

Mummyoflittledragon · 26/06/2019 04:50

Seeing as op has discussed it with the other parents it’s probably going to kick off today. 🤯

Wheresthecoffee92 · 26/06/2019 05:26

I wouldn't even give this a second thought, except to tell my son to behave in class

BrokenWing · 26/06/2019 06:06

All of you saying. I'd leave it. Would you honestly (hand on the Holy Bible) accept this for your own child.

100% yes, it was a tap on the head with a book to get their attention when they were being repeatedly disruptive in class, ignoring instructions from the teacher.

Oblomov19 · 26/06/2019 06:17

I'm surprised by this thread too. Mn is 0% on smacking.

QueenBeee · 26/06/2019 06:36

How can you take it further - son is rude and disobedient, son is rude and disobedient again. what could teacher use to fix this. Get down on one knee and beg the little shit to stop. Yes, that's a much better idea, belittle and demean the teacher further.

namechange042012 · 26/06/2019 07:01

I'm surprised by this thread too. Mn is 0% on smacking.

As am I, but it also has a lot of teachers on here that appear to defend teachers no matter what and loose a bit of perspective. They scream about following the rules, but then say it's fine when it suits.

Villanellesproudmum · 26/06/2019 07:02

My reaction would be, stop talking in class then.

CloudRusting · 26/06/2019 07:17

My money would be on the teacher having tapped them on the head but the boys are playing to the gallery in talking up how hard it was because it turns them from perpetrators to victims.

The teacher shouldn’t have tapped them for a number of reasons. Including Quite frankly claims that they hit them hard. I would maybe have a quiet word with the teacher.

teddypasty · 26/06/2019 07:22

Wtf is the matter with people? If you weren't listening to your boss during a presentation would you find it acceptable if she hit you on the head with a book? Adults, including teachers, should lead by example.

Queenofthestress · 26/06/2019 07:30

'Should have stopped talking then' would be my reaction as well 😂 probably my mums too when I was that age. Wasnt the worst thing and wasnt the end of the world. Speak to the teacher and see how much of a pain your kid was being and section as needed but jesus christ don't complain fgs

QueenBeee · 26/06/2019 07:30

If you were listening to a presentation with your boss would you repeatedly talk over it despite his request not to??????

Queenofthestress · 26/06/2019 07:31

*sanction

Happyspud · 26/06/2019 07:42

It not ideal for a teacher to do that because they might get in trouble😂

But I’d tell my kid that they need to behave themselves better in class and that it’s not great for a teacher to do that but people don’t always make the best choices when some kid is being a brat and pushing their buttons.

Strictly1 · 26/06/2019 07:46

It was incredibly foolish on the teachers part, she has left herself vulnerable to exaggerated claims now. I would bet money on it being a playful tap - especially as it was three children. However, still foolish.
If he was mine, I would be removing the iPad for a week so he learnt from it.
I would also have a quiet word with the teacher and listen. If it was playful tap - as I suspect - I would apologise for my son's behaviour. The fact you've spoken to her will be a warning for the future that there are parents out there who are not reasonable.

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