Can't control jealous at DP for going to Disney world without me and kids

[stripetights]

My DP went to see his brother in America for his birthday which I had no problems with. He's also gone to a whole bunch of theme parks/ Disney places I didn't realise he'd be doing. We have two DC's under 5 and I've just found out I'm pregnant with dc 3. He's sending me a constant stream of pictures of him, his brother and his brothers partner all having fun in the sun and going to all these parks and I feel rude saying can you just f*cking stop showing off whilst im stuck working and looking after all the kids? Angry we didn't get an invite, angry at all the showing off. Don't even know where he's got the money for all this from. Calm me down PLEASE

Apologies obviously my title should say jealous. I'm angry fast typing.

Disney is a weird cult - you are not missing anything. HTH

YANBU I would be absolutely livid. That sort of thing is a once in a lifetime trip for a lot of people. I don't know how he can enjoy himself knowing you and the kids are not there with him

Disney theme parks are much better when dcs are older than yours, if that is any consolation. He is being an insensitive arse though.

Why didn't you and the kids go with him??

Tell him you look forward to him treating you all to the same trip.

@simplekindoflife

We weren't invited :/

Disney is a weird cult - you are not missing anything. HTH

How can that possibly be helpful to the OP? She didn't ask for other people opinion of Disney.

Is it just the theme parks OP or is it pictures of him having fun generally when you are at home with the children? What do you mean you didn't get asked to go?

Why has he gone on his own?

Disney is shite anyway.

I can understand that he might want to make the most of his trip while he is there. But in saying that my dh would never do that because he would feel too guilty without us especially DC. Your dp is horrible sending you the constant stream of pictures.

To be honest I would now be texting him, telling him how you feel, that he maybe having a nice time but you are not and you don’t want to hear any more. I would say he is being insensitive you expect a holiday when he returns and block him

@stripetights why would he go if you weren't invited? That's pretty shitty. How long is he away for?

Disney was the best time of my life (went as an adult) but the best time to go is when kids are young enough to believe that the characters they see are real. So yes your kids were the perfect age for that. I think considering it likely he has used joint money to fund his trip you are not being unreasonable at feeling excluded.

You weren't invited but he went anyway? Can't imagine any good person doing that to their partners tbh. certainly not with 3 children.

You weren't invited? How mean , hope it's not family money paying
For it

Could you have afforded for the whole family to go?

I can see why it seems unfair, but in all honesty him visiting his brother is presumably just the cost of one flight, and one ticket to theme parks (I'm guessing he is staying with his DB), whereas if you all went, it would be 4 flights, family sized accommodation, 4 tix to parks, food and spends etc. A very expensive holiday. So it was quite possibly not a choice between just him going and you all going, rather a choice between him going or him not going. Would you really want him to miss out spending time with his brother, just because you couldn't afford for the whole family to go?

So all the money has gone on him to go on holiday on his own?

How selfish. If you could only afford one holiday it should be a family holiday with partner and kids.

Tell him you'll take your two-week break when he gets back and bugger off somewhere nice yourself .

Is it his birthday or his brothers?

The theme park tickets must be costing a shit alone.

And the eating out e dry day.

It won’t cost less than £1500.

He's visiting family and doing fun stuff with them. Why is this making you so angry?

It's rude that you weren't invited and rude that he keeps sending pics and showing off while knowing that you're at home taking care of his two under 5's. This is about so much more than theme parks.

I'd be having a conversation about that. For now, ask him to stop sending you the photos.

What do you mean you were not invited? Were you specifically excluded, or did his brother just told him to come around and didn't mention you? (but would have thought you'd come too.)

If your pregnant you wouldn’t be able to go on any of the rides anyway so you still wouldn’t really be able to enjoy the Disney land that much and your kids would be too young to enjoy it as well. Wait until they are older it will be much better.