Can't control jealous at DP for going to Disney world without me and kids

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My DP went to see his brother in America for his birthday which I had no problems with. He's also gone to a whole bunch of theme parks/ Disney places I didn't realise he'd be doing. We have two DC's under 5 and I've just found out I'm pregnant with dc 3. He's sending me a constant stream of pictures of him, his brother and his brothers partner all having fun in the sun and going to all these parks and I feel rude saying can you just f*cking stop showing off whilst im stuck working and looking after all the kids? Angry we didn't get an invite, angry at all the showing off. Don't even know where he's got the money for all this from. Calm me down PLEASE

He’s gone to visit his brother. You can’t seriously expect him to stay home all day. When people have guests they tend to go and do all the tourist stuff to make the most of he visit.

I don’t think he’s wrong to want to use some of his annual leave to visit his family.

It’s a fantastic place and he’s a complete shit for going without you and the kids.

But he went to visit his family for his birthday, which the OP said she had no problem with.

What was he supposed to do when Disneyland was suggested? Say "No, my wife wouldn't allow it so I'll have to stay home alone?"

If he’s your DP with two under 5’s and you’re about to make that three probably time to make him your DH.
In reality your kids would most likely enjoy Disneyland more when older so how about looking at his photos with joy and inspiration and feel pleased he’s enjoying himself - when he’s back say how fabulous it looked and how you and the kids would love to go next time .

Disney is crap anyway but YANBU, obviously. This is a once in a lifetime chance for many people, I can’t believe he’s just left you and his two young DC home alone whilst he enjoys it and rubs it in your face too. Selfish.

Disney is always bashed on mumsney.. though I suspect it’s mostly jealousy

Yeah, right 😂🤣😂 Like I couldn’t afford to go there 😂🤣😂

How us he paying for all this?

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Omg how can people be saying that he's entitled to go and spend all of the holiday fund. OP probably thought he was going to be keeping costs to a bloody minimum instead of showing her all the great times he's having. Also how pregnant are u I find it selfish he went away anyway my fella would not have done that when I was pregnant just incase. People on here all pretend to be perfect when someone spends your bloody holiday fund on their selfish Disney land holiday let's see how you feel. Poor OP getting pure stick for not being happy for her selfish fella. This site is ridiculous sometimes

Who said you weren’t invited, him or his brother?

He's got family there and went for a celebration with them, who knows who suggested Disney. It would be unreasonable for him to decline in those circumstances YANBU to be jealous, but you should also be glad he's having a great time and discuss how you will organise it for you all to go at some point.

I’m not jealous of people who go to Disney. If I could afford to go there, I’d go somewhere entirely different.

No judgement from me about Disney though...if that’s your thing, fair dos.

I can understand not wanting to be left for 2 weeks with 2 under 5 and not wanting the year's holiday budget to be all used up by one person

But I don't really understand why you were happy for him to go but apparently just didn't want him to enjoy it too much

Agree with this ^

He isn't unreasonable going to theme parks with his family if they live close by.
He is unreasonable leaving you looking after dc while pregnant for two weeks if you aren't happy to do this.
He is unreasonable for spending the families holiday budget solely on himself leaving you and dc with no holiday.
I would be cross with your dh because of the lack of communication and budgeting that has happened.

I have a friend who's ex took his new girlfriend to Disney after promising his daughter he would be going with her...just literally swapped the tickets from daughter to g.f. That was pretty shitty. This is ridiculous - he'd be having far more fun with the family than the 3rd wheel pretending to be a kid, surely?

If I were feeling petty i'd probably say one of the kids saw the photo's and has asked why daddy didn't take them. A little guilt trip might make him realise what a dick he is being.

For clarity he is being a dick for the reasons dreichuplands stated

People on here all pretend to be perfect when someone spends your bloody holiday fund on their selfish Disney land holiday let's see how you feel.

People on here also read what an OP has said and then compose their replies accordingly.

This is not a 'Disney land holiday' and the OP makes that quite clear.

It's really not unusual to take family/guests to tourist places, when they've flown from another country to visit you.

Yes, they could have stuck to museums and other places of interest only, but perhaps the choices weren't all about him?

I think OP is perfectly reasonable to be upset that her partner is doing something child-orientated without his children, and that they will not be able to afford for their children to do, not because he's "enjoying himself". OP, he's pretty fucking selfish and I would be furious, too. If I was you, I would either turn your phone off so you don't see any more of his "look what a great time I'm having!" pictures or message him and tell him not to send any more.

it’s a 10k+ holiday (we are paying just under this for a week and did the same last year). The rolling around laughing is ridiculous- you protest too much! How much was your last holiday billben?

I have a friend who's ex took his new girlfriend to Disney after promising his daughter he would be going with her...just literally swapped the tickets from daughter to g.f. That was pretty shitty

pretty shitty ??? That’s fucking horrendous! What a massive cunt 😱😱😱
I bet his DD was devastated

Aside from not sending pics, what is her do supposed to do? Presumably the trip to the US to stay with his brother was agreed together. So should dp do nothing whilst there because he daresnt spend a penny of money on activities? And if he is over there visiting family and the family decide to have days out to theme parks, what does the dp do? Not go? Ring home "for permission"? Beg someone to pay his entrance fee because he is not allowed spending money for theme parks?

There are some excitable reactions on this thread about a lack of invites.

When I visit DS in Honkers, I never invite DH. We’re not attached the hip.

If I were you when he's back I'd go with the kids and fuck him off
See ya later pal

TheChain she really was Their relationship never recovered and 6 years later he doesn't see her at all. Arsehole.