AIBU to be worried about this? Accidental glass of wine at 11 weeks...

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I wasn’t that worried about this but my friend has made me panic a bit.
Was at a family bbq at the weekend and I’d taken some non alcoholic wine that I hadn’t tried before. My cousin went and poured me a small glass and we were chatting, I drank some of mine and commented how good it was, probably drank about half a small wine while eating.
I couldn’t stomach the rest (been feeling sick a lot) so left it but then my cousin realised that she had mixed them up and given me the proper wine and she had had the non alcoholic wine (when she got herself another glass from the correct bottle and realised it tasted different)
At the time I didn’t think it would be a problem as t was only half a small glass, although not ideal but I told my friend and she was horrified and said 11 weeks is the worst time to drink because of all the development that’s going on.
Obviously I know a lots going on but she wouldn’t let it drop and keeps talking about FAS and the fact that my baby’s organs could be affected. It’s not something I would have chosen to do, but now I’m really anxious and upset and although I haven’t been on for a while, thought I’d get an overview here.
I know it’s done now, nothing I can do so my previous view was no point worrying about it, but since talking to my friend I feel terrible and so guilty Incase anything goes wrong :(

Nice friend you've got there. The stress she's making you feel could do more damage than a few sips of wine. Tell her to stfu, stop worrying and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy

Your friend sounds like a DICK, what a horrible person to make you worry and then bang on and on about it.

You shouldn't have to but if she won't stop maybe say you've been to the GP and they've reassured you there's absolutely nothing to worry about.

And this more specifically pertinent info, from the National Organisation on FAS website:

"Myth: A single drink containing one ounce of alcohol during pregnancy, or occasionally during pregnancy, has been scientifically linked to affects that can be diagnosed as an FASD.
While only abstention from alcohol during pregnancy completely eliminates any risk to the embryo or fetus, there is no published research of a diagnosis of an FASD from prenatal exposure to an ounce of alcohol. It is possible that a drink could have a subtle harmful effect, but it has not been scientifically shown that such an effect would reach the criteria necessary for a diagnosis under the FASD umbrella."

When I was pregnant with my older ones the advice was a lot more lax and I would happily drink a half pint of beer perhaps twice or three times a week if on holiday. I was also on a conference involving a lot of drinking before I realised I was pregnant with my oldest. They're all fine.

Your friend is a fucking knob, sorry.

Half a glass will not affect your baby at all.

Read Emily Oster's book Expecting Better and reassure yourself.

Hoe you enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. Distance yourself from your friend - you don't need people like her in your life.

Well sorry cccameron, I just wanted to give the facts and thought this passage that says exactly what alcohol does to a foetus would enable OP to see that half a glass is not going to have any lasting effect.

If she is that worried it will help her manage the remainder of her pregnancy.

We are talking half a glass of wine here, not a major binge!! Stop worrying right now!!!

Thank you so much. I’m definitely rethinking the friendship - not to dripfeed she’s also previously been quite nasty about a second trimester loss I had before (so she knows I’m doubly anxious) but she managed to make it seem like she hadn’t meant it like that. After this though, when I was feeling okay about it and she went out of her way to make me feel guilty and worried, I really feel like I don’t have any more time for her.

Flipping heck. I got smashed on cocktails before I knew I was pregnant so please don’t worry. Half a glass of wine is tiny. Just be careful from now on. That friend with the FAS scaremongering is no friend of yours!

She’s an idiot.
I once au-paired for a family whose beautiful, bright and lovely little girl had a nickname that was that language’s word for a tiny bottle of champagne as that was what the mother had been proscribed during pregnancy. One mini bottle of champagne a day.

You're making a mountain out of a molehill. Stop worrying, this is a tiny amount.

Tel your friend to do one. Reading things like this just gets me so mad

Don't get stressed or be worrying OP, that will cause more issues than half a glass of bloody wine ffs!!

Enjoy your pregnancy & don't give it another thought.

FAS.....................Jesus Christ give me strength!!!

11 weeks is still in the 1st Tri but past the critical period for facial signs of FAS (6-9 weeks). I'm sure you'll be fine, if alcohol was so toxic that one isolated half a glass caused FAS there would be an epidemic. People will tell you 'just one glass' will be a risk but there is genuinely no evidence of this.

FWIW I had half a glass of champagne at 11 weeks.

Oh, and my MW said I could have a full glass a week at my 8wk apt.

Just read about your 2nd tri loss, your 'friend' is a toad.

YABU to keep such an arse as a friend. Your baby will be absolutely fine, foetal alcohol syndrome is from a lot of alcohol and/or very frequent alcohol.

Worry and anxiety ARE really bad for your baby, so tell your friend to bugger off. One glass of wine is neither here nor there, seriously.

Guinness used to be prescribed in pregnancy.

There should be an entire generation with FAS if even moderate amounts had a significant effect.

Really try not to worry, it was only half a glass.
Your friend was not being very kind to scar you so much.

Scare You so much that should have read

She's no friend is she?
OP I was out on the razz every Friday and Saturday until I was 4 months pregnant. I didn't know I was up duffed. Back in the 80s and I'd had 2cnegative tests by GP.
My son is a strapping 6'2" 32 yo, no health issues.
FAS is the result of frequent heavy drinking, not an accidental half a glass of wine.

I'd give this so called friend a swerve if I were you. The stress and worry she's causing are far more likely to effect your baby than one small glass of wine! Hope you feel more reassured now.

Your friend is a gobshite.

I really am feeling so much better thank you - I actually feel a bit tearful at how kind you’ve all been. It’s also underlined that if this many strangers on the internet have rushed to reassure me yet my friend did the complete opposite , well you’re all right, she’s not really a friend at all is she.
I’ve just known her since childhood so I guess it’s one of those long friendships that you just stay in and perhaps forgive more than you would as you’ve known them so long.

Thank you so much I feel much calmer, much like I did after it initially happened and before I’d spoken to her. Really appreciate everyone who took the time to post

Your friend is horrible, she surely can’t think there’s any risk from half a glass of wine? Absolutely don’t worry about the drink, but I’d be reevaluating your ‘friendship’ which sounds pretty toxic.
Also organs are formed by now :) I accidentally had a couple of glasses of ‘low alcohol’ Prosecco having been told it was ‘alcohol free’ at around the same time so understand the initial worry but there really isn’t any risk from half a glass of wine.

Oh bless you. I really wouldn't worry. Like previous posters have said, many women are much further along than you when they find out they are pregnant and have probably drunk considerably more! I knew someone who found out at 16 weeks (!) and just a couple of weeks previously I'd been on a very wild hen night with her. All was fine with her kid. I read a really good book by Emily OSter called 'Expecting Better'. She directly tackles pregnancy and birth 'advice' with rational facts/science and I found it SO reassuring for exactly this sort of reason. Enjoy your pregnancy and don't listen to panic mongers xx