AIBU to be worried about this? Accidental glass of wine at 11 weeks...

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I wasn’t that worried about this but my friend has made me panic a bit.
Was at a family bbq at the weekend and I’d taken some non alcoholic wine that I hadn’t tried before. My cousin went and poured me a small glass and we were chatting, I drank some of mine and commented how good it was, probably drank about half a small wine while eating.
I couldn’t stomach the rest (been feeling sick a lot) so left it but then my cousin realised that she had mixed them up and given me the proper wine and she had had the non alcoholic wine (when she got herself another glass from the correct bottle and realised it tasted different)
At the time I didn’t think it would be a problem as t was only half a small glass, although not ideal but I told my friend and she was horrified and said 11 weeks is the worst time to drink because of all the development that’s going on.
Obviously I know a lots going on but she wouldn’t let it drop and keeps talking about FAS and the fact that my baby’s organs could be affected. It’s not something I would have chosen to do, but now I’m really anxious and upset and although I haven’t been on for a while, thought I’d get an overview here.
I know it’s done now, nothing I can do so my previous view was no point worrying about it, but since talking to my friend I feel terrible and so guilty Incase anything goes wrong :(

Oh bless you...honestly don't worry.

Your baby won't develop fetal alcohol syndrome from one glass of wine.

Lots of women don't find out they are pregnant until much later on and drink far more than half a glass of wine with no ill effects.

Try not to worry too much, the chances are everything will be absolutely fine.

Please don't worry. Where I lived when .i was pregnant with my DC they were far more worried about dried meats and soft cheeses. The advice was (and still is) to limit wine to one glass a week.

In some countries it’s common to drink small amounts of wine regularly throughout pregnancy, it’s actually considered a healthy thing to do.

Your baby will be absolutely fine.

Yabvu to worry! Don't give it a second thought. And your 'friend' really isn't one.

You're fine. The baby will be fine. Half a glass of wine really is absolutely nothing to worry about. Your friend is being very cruel to make you feel like that and is probably enjoying making this a drama when you've done nothing wrong.

Whilst obviously not ideal I have literally never met someone with FAS because their mum had half a glass of wine.

When my mother was pregnant with me women were routinely told to drink Guinness for the iron- the schools were not full of children with damaged organs.

Drink is a risk, the more you drink the greater the risk. But half a glass of wine? Once? In an otherwise health conscious mother? Try to see the perspective.

No worries. And bin off your friend who is both uneducated and insensitive.

Please don’t worry or listen to your friend.

Good luck with your pregnancy.

you'll be fine, don't worry

You don’t get FAS from one drink! Yes please don’t panic. Also, your friend is an arse.

Your friends a twat for worrying you. Your baby will be absolutely fine.

Just to add to the general message here - one small glass of wine won’t hurt. We all know people who went on absolute benders before they knew they were pregnant and had normal healthy babies. My sister had an unplanned pregnancy and spent two weeks in Florida at 7/8 weeks drinking cocktails every night and then worried herself sick for months once she found out. My nephew is a strapping, healthy, successful young man. In France drinking a glass of wine with dinner is normal throughout pregnancy and children are none the worse for it.

It’s absolutely fine. I had a glass of champagne on New Year’s Eve when mine would have been about 8-9 weeks. Had the odd glass with other pregnancies including when I got married! It’s the 2-3 units and above on a regular basis that’s the worry.

Please don't worry. My GP advised me that you can drink 1-2 units of alcohol 1-2 times a week safely during pregnancy. Half a glass of wine will have no impact whatsoever and it is crazy to say your baby will have FAS

she wouldn’t let it drop and keeps talking about FAS and the fact that my baby’s organs could be affected

This makes me wonder whether she is a friend to you at all because it sounds like she is deliberately trying to upset and panic you. Only you will know if she is just thick or malicious. Either way I would tell her to stop talking bollocks.

What a horrid horrid friend you have. FAS not caused by one small glass of wine. Why is she trying to make you feel so anxious about this non-event? Either she is really stupid or really mean.

Here is some advice from a website; I don't think half a glass of wine will make any noticeable difference in your baby's development:

“When a pregnant woman drinks, the alcohol goes across the placenta to the foetus via the bloodstream,” says Dr Raja Mukherjee who works for Surrey and Borders Partnership NHS Foundation Trust. “The foetus’ liver isn’t fully formed, so it relies on the mother's liver to metabolise (break down) the alcohol. When the alcohol passes from the mother into the foetus' body it lacks oxygen and the nutrients needed for its brain and organs to grow properly. “White matter in the brain, which is responsible for speeding up the processing of information, is sensitive to alcohol,” says Dr Mukherjee. “So when a mother drinks, it affects the development of her baby’s white matter.”

Timing is another medical factor in the development of foetal alcohol syndrome. A baby’s facial features are formed during weeks six to nine of pregnancy. Professor Neil McIntosh, an Edinburgh-based neonatologist, says scientific evidence shows that mothers who drink during this three-week window are more likely to have babies with the facial deformities associated with FAS. Damage to the baby’s organs through drinking is most likely to happen in the first three months.

However, a baby's brain and spinal cord, which control most functions of our body and mind, continue to develop throughout the nine months of pregnancy. This means that damage to these vital systems may happen at any point during the pregnancy.

Totally and utterly non-event.

Half a small glass of wine will NOT harm your baby. Your friend is being very unkind. Please don't worry.

Your cousin is a moron

1. by not checking the wine properly
2. by making your panic when it was totally her fault

You will be fine. Lots of women drink small amounts of alcohol throughout their pregnancy without issues. Don't panic OP. You could always call your doctor/midwife to put fears at rest.

Your friend should STFU.
Your baby won't be affected.
Please don't worry.

What noonarna said.
all is fine x

You didn’t knowingly drink it - and even if you did, one small glass of wine isn’t going to cause damage. Your “friend” is absolutely out of order for scaremongering like that!!

A lot of women don’t even know they are pregnant until a bit later on - with DC1, I didn’t find out I was pregnant until about 8/9 weeks, and had gone to a friend’s 30th and my DH’s work party and got completely spangled at both parties before I had any clue I was pregnant!! DC1 is now a perfectly healthy 4 year old.

That is totally irrelevant to someone who had had half a glass of wine EugenesAxe. Really not helpful to an already panicking OP