To feel envious of people that can afford holidays?

[Ella1980]

I'm a full-time TA and my fiancé works in social care ft. Just feel so sad that we can't afford to take the kids away. Ex earns £105k+ pa so at least they'll get a holiday with him. Anybody else in a similar position? It just feels so unfair but I feel selfish for feeling jealous of not getting a break with the family 😢

But you have money saved. So if you chose to use of those savings on a weekend holiday, for example, you could.

It's coming across like "I have savings but I don't want to use them, I've been camping I'm not counting that, and I'm generally pig sick that my ex makes so much money but I'm not benefiting from it."

Have you tried working a job that takes you overseas 50% of the year so you understand implications?

I think you should start a new thread in relationship section asking for experience in 50/50 custody cases. You will hopefully find like minds there.

Or working a 60 hour week 48 weeks of the year in a job that drains your soul whole living for a week in the sun?

Don't people understand that the savings are for a house so we don't have to rent as we have been for the past 5 yrs?

ItIsWhatItIsInnit,, that's not true, mn is full of sympathy for genuine posters.
Anyone else gets short shrift cos that's what they deserve.

@BarrenFieldofFucks But it's all about choices?

@Ella1980 your multitude of previous threads would suggest that you are a bit obsessed with your ex and his money.

And whilst you can do what you like with your money, it's a bit disingenuous to post pleading poverty when it's simply a choice you've made to spend it/keep it for A as opposed to using it for B.

OMG there are so many people on here who have no hope of ever saving for a house. And will rent for the rest of their lives.

You can afford a holiday. Saying you can't is bullshit. You just choose to prioritise working few hours, in an emotionally rewarding career, and owning your own home, over a holiday.

Ssd. Enforced 50:50 is v rare. Luckily.

For christ sake Ella of course people get you need savings for a house to get out of renting but do you not get you wanted sympathy from people who have no holidays and no bloody savings either???

Who else rents long-term on this thread? Be interested to hear...

Your issue around 50/50 is wanting to spend time with your children when they are with you. When many, many posters on here see little of their children because they work long hours.

All about choices. You made yours, and just want to whine about the consequences.

It's like me starting a thread saying that I can't afford a deposit for a house, but I do have £10,000 saved for a holiday.

No, I can't use the £10,000 towards a house deposit, because I'm spending it on a holiday.

Do you think I would get any sympathy?

I didn't make the choice to EVER have them 50:50. They were 3 and 6. It almost killed me.

Christ OP, do you even read other posts here? Are you aware that many, MANY other people are nowhere near as fortunate as you? You can afford to rent privately, you have a job you love, a partner, and savings in the bank.

Get a bloody grip and give over your obsession with your exH and what his circumstances are. FFS.

You have substantial savings which to me means thousands in the bank. People here were trying to tell you how they get a cheap break, Groupon etc etc, trying to help someone else as skint as them. But your not skint, you have money.
Sorry but I think you've had years of living with an ex with plenty money and you don't actually know what skint is.
Skint is no holiday cos there's no money in the bank.

You said your savings are more than a years worth of rent, so more than £12k I’m guessing.

You can afford a holiday.

And I'd give it all to not be without my kids for 7/10/11 days in a row.

And how do you think parents who work full time feel when they only see their kids for an hour or two a day at best feel? You get half of all school holidays, weekends and evenings with your kids and that's a lot more than lots of us.

You have made choices, you prioritise home ownership over holidays and that's fine but you can't complain about it. So many people have no hope of having 'substantial savings', private renting or owning a home and still don't have holidays.

The obsession with your ex is worrying.

Poor me, poor me, pour me another one.

You started this thread going on a out how you'll never earn more because you won't want to go back to what you were doing before and are happy with your current job despite it paying peanuts. You say that your OH is in a similar position and unlikely to earn more. So how are you expecting to suddenly earn enough to get a mortgage?

It still hypocritical to post how envious you are of those who can afford a holiday when you are in a position to do so yourself but are choosing to keep it in savings.

But it's all about choices?

Fuck me, that was quite literally my point. And the point of many on here. That you don't earn much because you have chosen to work term time only on minimum wage, because it isn't as stressful and you love it.

If you want more money, you have options. Choices.

@HarrysOwl Do you have children? Any idea how it feels feels to be without them for half of their lives?

How is that related to your supposed lack of holiday?

I know both dh and I would hate to be without the kids.