School run mum. Dreading it

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I'm sat in my car about half a mile from D's school.
He has a friend I'll call him Sam. Sam has been his friend since reception and every afternoon we walk we Sam's parents the half mile to our cars although we park in different car parks.
I'm fed up. I'm disabled and they know it yet every afternoon I struggle to keep up with them and am often Left trailing behind. The mum never greets me unless I speak first and often never says hi just talks to her older child as I struggle along at the back. Also although Sam has been to ours loads of times they have never once invited my son to their house.
At Easter I gave Sam a chocolate egg and was surprised I got no thanks. I asked mum if he had received it and she just said yes and nothing else.
I have taken to taking painkillers at 2pm in prep for school run.
My son insits he wants to walk the half mile with Sam, but I'm so fed up with it. It's ok with just my son and me.
Fed up and miserable

Sam's parents sound incredibly rude and tbh sound like they don't want to walk with you either. I would try to think of a way out of continuing it tbh, is there anywhere you could start parking which means you could walk the opposite direction?

Insist that DS walks with you and take your own time. Either Sam (and therefore his mum) will need to slow down or they'll go on ahead and you'll get peace and quiet. Tell DS that you can't go faster and that he needs to stay with you.
(She sounds like a right one so I'd actually be going deliberately slowly!)

Do you have the option of parking closer? If it’s causing you pain then sadly your son will have to realise that isn’t not always possible to do it that way.

You say no ds, sorry, Mummy can’t manage the walk.

It sounds like Sam's parents don't want to encourage the friendship and I don't blame you for not wanting to do the walk with them.

Tell DS you have to see his teacher. Make him wait....then leave later than Sam's miserable gits of parents.

Do you have a blue badge? Can't you park nearer the school?

This whole thing can be solved by you doing what suits you. It’s nice your son likes to walk with Sam but come on you are the mother and if you’re struggling do what’s right for you! Sounds like they don’t want to walk together either !

I would start finding other things to do at pick up time. Invent an errand or change location for parking.
Also would the school accommodate a parking space for pick ups as you are disabled?

Tell your child you have to go straight to your car because you struggle to walk. Your child must be aware of that. Say "bye" to Sam at the school gate.

She probably just wants/needs to get home.

Break the habit - park elsewhere, make up some excuse to stay at the school for a few minutes, that sort of thing.

If the other mum ignores you unless you speak first - why are you inviting Sam to your house all the time or buying him treats? She might be dreading the school run as much as you!

Definitely park in the opposite direction. The mum sounds horrible.

Agree with previous poster. For whatever reason Sam’s family don’t want to encourage the friendship- I’m sure you’re perfectly lovely!
I’d park somewhere different and just do the park walk maybe twice a week until the end of term then somewhere different in september.

Ask school if you can use their car park. It sounds like the walk is too much for you

Everyone is right. And yes I have a blue badge. I'd love to park nearby but I work full time and get To school late

You don't walk to your cars with their family though, they don't talk to you, they don't wait for you, you're just walking in the same direction as them. Your problem is your child walking with Sam, it is not them, these people are not your friends, if they were a "hold on, wait up" would have them waiting, but you're taking offence at something they probably don't even realise they're doing.

OP, that sounds really awful.

You need to tell your child in no uncertain terms that it's no longer happening.

Just No. It's causing you upset and pain.

Children need to hear No clearly.

It's a part of life.

Sorry OP but really all you can do is tell DS he has to hold your hand / walk with you. Sam's parents don't like you / care for you / have no intention of walking WITH you, you're just trailing along behind whilst the two boys walk together.
As you have a blue badge, have you spoken to the school to see if there's anywhere else you can park?

You're not walking with them, your child is wanting to walk with his friend.. the other mum might be on a deadline to collect other children, drop off at grandparents, get home to start dinner, or get home to do handover to partner whilst she starts shift work!!

The fact is, you do not know OP.

They might be horrible. Or maybe not.

The fact is they aren't your friend, and they don't have an obligation to walk with you if you're just walking in the same direction. Your son can't force an obligation when it doesn't exist.

Either work on making it into an actual commitment (" Sam and Bob enjoy walking together. Fancy it tomorrow?") Or work on letting your son develop other friendships or something else you CAN control...

If you have a blue badge, will the school not let you park in their car park?

Park at the school gates with your blue card and stop being a martyr. Stop giving gifts to ungrateful kids and stop letting your Child make the adult decisions. You can fix this OP

Can't you go in the school car park?

I also think you should ask the headteacher if you can park in the school car park due to your disability.
If you cant then I'd just tell your son your not walking with them as you need to walk slower.

How old is your ds? Can’t you txt the mother and ask if your ds can walk with her ds to your car, which you will always park in x spot. If she refuses, you park closer even if that makes you late. Speak to the school about this.

I’m disabled and have a BB. You do need to speak up. Some people can be so ignorant and dismissive about disability.... iE Obviously you can walk so you’re not disabled.... clearly self appointed occupational therapists.