School run mum. Dreading it

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I'm sat in my car about half a mile from D's school.
He has a friend I'll call him Sam. Sam has been his friend since reception and every afternoon we walk we Sam's parents the half mile to our cars although we park in different car parks.
I'm fed up. I'm disabled and they know it yet every afternoon I struggle to keep up with them and am often Left trailing behind. The mum never greets me unless I speak first and often never says hi just talks to her older child as I struggle along at the back. Also although Sam has been to ours loads of times they have never once invited my son to their house.
At Easter I gave Sam a chocolate egg and was surprised I got no thanks. I asked mum if he had received it and she just said yes and nothing else.
I have taken to taking painkillers at 2pm in prep for school run.
My son insits he wants to walk the half mile with Sam, but I'm so fed up with it. It's ok with just my son and me.
Fed up and miserable

Just tell your son that you are not walking with Sam from now on. I wouldn't bother having Sam over for play dates either given his mother is so rude. Your son will just have to see him within the school hours and accept that you cannot walk to the car with him. I'd be finding a car space in the opposite direction if it were me.

Speak to the school... if you're disabled you should be able to access closer to the site.

I too had to take heavy duty pain killers in order to leave the house, or go even a small distance, so I can understand your frustration. My kids were aware of what I could and couldn't manage. At 11, I think your son should be old enough to appreciate your situation, and act accordingly. Good luck.

I'm sorry, I don't know where I got age 11 from, I couldn't have the post it properly the first time.

Our school let blue badge owners park in the staff car parked definitely worth having a chat with school op

I would speak to the school and ask them to help you with parking, perhaps a staff car park or similar op.
Either way I would park somewhere else from now on, and stop all playdates.

They have eyes and can see you are struggling, and still choose to be rude to you. There are NOT good people to have around you. Move on swiftly to inviting different class mates and create some distance.

Tell your ds that the car arrangement is changing to improve your walk. If he asks for playdates simply suggest that it is time to widen his circle of friends. No need to mention anything about sam and his parents.

I am sorry you have been treated so dismally.

Are you parking in this particular place specifically so that your son can walk with his friend?

How old is your ds? Can he walk to the car park on his own/with Sam while you wait in the car?

How old is your child? Could you wait in the car and let him walk with Sam?

Your son spends all day in school with Sam. He really doesn’t need to walk back to the car with him too.

Tbh it sounds like Sam’s mum isn’t actually aware that you’re walking home “together”.

Or perhaps she simply doesn’t have time to walk slower with you.

Stop being a martyr and park at the disabled space at school. Make life easier for yourself.

OP, my DS' school has a blue badge space in the staff car park. If you aks at reception you can park there wit hyour badge. Have you asked the school if they have a similar space, then you're parked at school rather than on double yellows near to school with your badge?

My ds school allowed blue badge holders to park in their carpark too so do ask them

Sam's mum sounds unpleasant. Park at the school and forget about the walk.

I have a blue badge and school let me park in school car park.
My daughter has a good friend at school it was obvious that their mum didn't like me much. So I quick hello was all I said and then moved on. Out of curiosity if your held up at school e.g talking to a teacher does the other mum wait for you?

Sounds like she doesnt want to be friends.Just ask at teh school can you park in their carpark.And just tell your son thats whats happening from now on

Is sams mum aware you walking with you. Park nearer and do what suits you. Sounds like end of day everyone tried and just want to ger home. Can you arrange for sam to come on a playdate

100% agree with you asking to park in school car park and informing ds that this is what you will do from now on.

You are the one that’s important here! Please put yourself first (Hug)

Tell your kid no. It won't kill him.

They obviously have no interest in having a friendship with you. They also have no manners. Your son can see Sam in school. He doesn't need to spend that extra time walking with him.

Crikey! the mum sounds awful! Just park closer to school, use your blue badge - could you ask the school if you could pull into their car park and tell them you have a blue badge and describe your physical issues (leaving any worries about other parents out). Your DS will grow out of the other boy I'm sure. Don't let your mood be dragged down by someone who is essentially a complete bitch!

If you work full time and get there late is there an option of the after school club at school? Might be an idea which would give you more time and avoid the walk...

If you can manage full time work you can manage a little walk

How do you know what the OP can and cannot manage?

If you can manage full time work you can manage a little walk

She’s quite clearly telling you that she just wants to get on and back to her car.

Leave after her, tell your DS that he has to walk with you, see if school will let you use their car park. Don’t expect to walk with her and stop your son expecting to walk with his friend.

Just let your son walk back to your car himself, if he is old enough?

Or if he is too young then park closer to the school, or outside the school and speak to them about this.