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I'm having the worst holiday aibu ?

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seaandsandy · 23/06/2019 10:01

Me and my boyfriend of 5 months have came on holiday on Wednesday.
We are in Tunisia.
We got a cheap deal £286 each all inclusive,I thought amazing.
It's grim
The bar is open 10am to midnight and every day/night he has been drinking,to a point he keeps falling over.
He starts drinking after breakfast.
We haven't left the hotel.
He says why pay for all inclusive to leave the hotel.
Aibu to think this is the Pitts ?
Weather is hot

OP posts:
bordellosboheme · 23/06/2019 12:51

Also if you go out, invest in a big light scarf to cover your hair and long floaty clothes. I did this in Marrakech and had no problems unlike the girl who I was staying with who flaunted her long blond hair and legs and go loads of hassle. It's not PC but it's cultural.

HollowTalk · 23/06/2019 12:52

He might as well stay in his own living room with a crate of vodka and takeaway delivery. What is the bloody point of going somewhere if you don't leave the hotel?

IvanaPee · 23/06/2019 12:54

People are being deliberately obtuse because I refuse to believe that anyone is thick enough to think a couple of glasses of wine with lunch is the equivalent of a bottle of vodka a day from 10 in the morning. 🙄

AnyFucker · 23/06/2019 12:55

bordello flaunted ?

You are a part of the problem, going off that comment

paddlingwhenIshouldbeworking · 23/06/2019 12:57

Take books / phone / ipad to the pool. Find sunbed. Enjoy the sun. Then go home. Dump boyfriend.

This is the first year when the best memories should be being made. It won't get better.

MuttsNutts · 23/06/2019 13:01

Should have chosen Turkey instead.

I really think you’re missing the point, along with all those other posters who are saying they “like a drink on holiday” Hmm

The OP’s partner is getting so bladdered every day that he is falling over drunk and refusing to do anything that his girlfriend wants to do. If anyone thinks that is acceptable behaviour when going away with your partner then you are as much of a twat as he is.

Joans3rddaughter · 23/06/2019 13:05

I would get him another drink as soon as he is about to finish his drink. Hopefully he will pass out sooner then you can just cover him with your sarong and pretend he's not there. As soon as he stirs, get him another drink. The minute you gat through customs back home "go to the toilet"and mske a dash for it. (from him) Good Luck

bordellosboheme · 23/06/2019 13:07

Anyfucker I'm not saying that's right. I'm talking about the OP keeping herself safe in that culture which would perceive it as flaunting.... As messed up as it is.

AnyFucker · 23/06/2019 13:12

Then don't adopt their misogynistic language, bordella

It's important. Your friend happens to have blonde hair and a pair of legs. She can hardly remove them. They still exist even if she covers them. Blaming her for attracting the wrong kind of attention just buys in to wrongness of it.

bordellosboheme · 23/06/2019 13:15

Oh please. Don't derail the thread on my clumsy use of language. You are projecting. I am an educated feminist. I was speaking from the host culture perspective. Please get the subtlety. This thread is about OP, not you.

indyandlara · 23/06/2019 13:15

Tunisia is a beautiful country full of history. Get on trip advisor, book a excursion with a hotel pick up from a recommended company. So much to see and do there. As for partner, walk away without so much as a backwards glance

FrogFairy · 23/06/2019 13:16

I would consider the £286 to be a bargain price to pay to realise that you are not compatible.

Just grit your teeth and get through the next few days as best you can, looking forward to coming home and ending the relationship.

bordellosboheme · 23/06/2019 13:17

I'm going before Anyfucker lays into me. Good luck OP. Thinking of you and hope you find a way around this Flowers

AnyFucker · 23/06/2019 13:18

As an "educated feminist" you will appreciate the importance of the language we use.

growlingbear · 23/06/2019 13:20

I'm staggered by the people on this thread who think getting legless from breakfast onwards is a perfectly acceptable way to 'have fun' abroad. Surely if that's all he wants to do, he could have bought seven bottles of cheap vodka from Aldi and stayed at home to have one a day for far less money without the hassle of flights. Hmm

Itssosunny · 23/06/2019 13:23

MuttsNutts, I am not missing the point. See my first post. Turkey was just a suggestion.

gotmychocolateimgood · 23/06/2019 13:28

OP are you still talking to him or just spending time alone?

All inclusive holidays aren't really my thing, we've done a few over the years (have been with DH 16 years) and enjoyed them for the ease but there is a culture of boozing at many of these hotels. Drinking all day and evening in the sun isn't a great idea. There are some great AI hotels around though. We stayed in a huge one a couple of years ago, great value and loads of pools, water park, choice of restaurants etc. Main reason we won't book AI again is the crowds though as we have to go in school holidays now. So in a way you are lucky to be abroad out of school holidays, with minimal children around I expect. Make the best of it Flowers

cccameron · 23/06/2019 13:31

I'm staggered by the people on this thread who think getting legless from breakfast onwards is a perfectly acceptable way to 'have fun' abroad

Absolutely no one has said that Confused

I'm sorry you're having such a shit time OP. Get yourself online or speak to the hotel and book a trip. I'd be astounded if you couldn't book one through your rep. I've never known them to not try and sell them. Thankfully Wednesday is not too far off now!

Cherrysoup · 23/06/2019 13:36

Cover up, get on some excursions. Don’t let him ruin the next 3 days for you. Presumably, you’re going to dump this sorry idiot as soon as you get off the plane?

cccameron · 23/06/2019 13:37

Surely if that's all he wants to do, he could have bought seven bottles of cheap vodka from Aldi and stayed at home

There's a massive difference between sitting alone in your living room and being in a nice hotel, beautiful weather, nice meals, meeting and chatting to people. Surely anyone can see that. He may be an alcoholic but he's still going to enjoy a holiday! Just a shame OP didn't realise what it would entail before she booked it!

Jaxhog · 23/06/2019 13:37

I would get a good book, stuck my headphones in and work on my tan.

And thank my lucky stars that I found our how vile he is before getting any more serious.

oyoyoy · 23/06/2019 13:38

Tunisia is beautiful- there's so much to see and do. Ditch this sad loser and go and explore.

ForalltheSaints · 23/06/2019 13:38

The only good thing is that you have found out he is not a suitable boyfriend 5 months into the shortly to end relationship and not after several years.

I hope you can go on an excursion at least once before Wednesday.

Aquilla · 23/06/2019 13:57

Sounds pretty normal to me for that type of holiday! Are you by any chance from different, er, classes, by any chance op? Wink
Holidays are very illuminating, aren't they?

FizzyGreenWater · 23/06/2019 14:03

Well at least you know now what a douche of a bf you have!

Grit your teeth and see it out and then dump immediately you get home.

Hopefully it's sunny and you have a good book...

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