I'm having the worst holiday aibu ?

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Me and my boyfriend of 5 months have came on holiday on Wednesday.
We are in Tunisia.
We got a cheap deal £286 each all inclusive,I thought amazing.
It's grim
The bar is open 10am to midnight and every day/night he has been drinking,to a point he keeps falling over.
He starts drinking after breakfast.
We haven't left the hotel.
He says why pay for all inclusive to leave the hotel.
Aibu to think this is the Pitts ?
Weather is hot

Sorry OP but your bf sounds like a compete tosser. I would encourage you to LTB as soon as.

I've been on several AI holidays, some quite expensive some less so, and on none of them has it been normal to spend the whole day drunk. Some people on here are such snobs, and, in most cases, talking about something they've never been on and have only watched Benidorm on TV.

Have you checked the cost of moving your ticket home to earlier?

As fizzy said - it’s cheap, you’ve found out he’s not a keeper. Sit in the suns down read a few books. If he wants to behave like an arse let him.

You’ll have plenty more holidays with better boyfriends/husband in the future.

Oh - I wouldn’t venture out alone though (or eat salad or rice). Stick to cooked veggie things/pasta.

Is this behaviour totally out of character or is he a heavy drinker at home? It seems odd that someone would drink so much on holiday without already drinking a lot anyway.

After all, a bottle of vodka a day could kill someone, or at least make them feel very very ill, if they don't normally drink a lot.

Most people drink more than usual on holiday, but they don't usually get blind drunk every day like this.

I'm sorry you're experiencing this. I don't think it's normal to drink all day and night until you're drunk, let alone every day. Have you asked him why he feels the need to drink all day? What did he say? On holiday you should be having fun together. I personally would ask a rep to join an organised group outing for the next few days. I' d also break up with him after we got home and tell him why.

We usually do AI holidays with the kids. It is very unusual for people to get drunk. This is not a class thing. This is a twat thing. Your boyfriend sounds like an utter pig. I would leave him to his vodka and try and enjoy your holiday alone.

If your hotel can't organise a trip, have a look on Google. There will be organised trips in the area. There are some amazing things to see. But I agree with most others - I wouldn't go out on my own in Tunisia. I went with a girlfriend many years ago. We were treated like pieces of meat, even though we were respectfully dressed.

At least it's only been 5 months!

I had several experiences with a drunken partner on holiday with the addition of our child. Not fun!

The priority was finding out where he could watch the football. He was happy at the sports bar every evening whilst I was alone in our rooms with a sleeping child. He was too hungover for any day trips. Most of the holiday money vanished on drinks.

He didn't give a shit about whether I was enjoying the holiday. My feelings didn't matter. Afterwards he'd promised next time would be different but it never was.

There's a massive difference between sitting alone in your living room and being in a nice hotel, beautiful weather, nice meals, meeting and chatting to people.

The OP said her boyfriend doesn’t leave the hotel. So I’m not sure how much of the beautiful weather he’s experiencing, nor how he’s meeting with and chatting to people (unless like him, they’re other guests who also never leave the hotel).

I agree that if the focus is on drinking as much booze as you can every day because it’s free, he should have stocked up and stayed at home.

@FamilyOfAliens I think she means not leaving the hotel as in the complex.... the AI bar will be probably by the pool so he will have to go outside

sounds awful OP, YANBU. Keep safe, do not leave the hotel alone. Stick it out till Wednesday, ditch your bf when you get home.

It's only three days to go and presumably the flight is on Wednesday so most of Wednesday will be taken up with packing and going to the airport.
You could book an excursion for tomorrow or Tuesday or both - get hotel reception to help or the holiday rep.
Or just sit by the pool and read books all day - it will soon be over and you can ditch that fuckwit as soon as you get back.

Ah ok. Still a bit of a weird way to experience being in another country, though some people I know went to Mexico and never left the hotel site.

I'm deffo not a snob and certainly not in different "classes" Im just not a big drinker.
I've managed to have a chat with a group of girls today and we even went for some food in the rest together.
Thanks for all your advice everyone
I like the look of that pirate ship excursion
It's roasting hot today
At least I should go home nice and brown anyway

Glad you're chatting with others

I know a lot of people don't feel safe walking around turkey but I went to Dalyan last year and the people couldn't be any friendlier if they tried.
I was a bit worried coming here anyway after the tragedy that happened a few years ago but I guess it can happen anywhere

My ideal
Vacation involves an all-inclusive where I never leave the hotel. Sleep in, a nice breakfast, lounge chairs in the shade for reading, take a dip in the pool here and there then back to reading and sipping the occasional cocktail. Shower and dress for dinner and then to bed early for couple time.

This is also dh’s Dream vacation which is part of what makes us such a good match.

Boorish drinking however is not pleasant and I would break up with this guy once you get home.

OP i feel your pain. My DH and I went on a similar Tunisian holiday 20 years ago, it was the pits. He overdid the all inclusive too and there was nothing to do outside the hotel we were in. He hates sitting around by the pool / beach all day and sheer boredom meant he drank all day long (plus the all inclusive temptation). It was the first and last time we went on that kind of cheap all inclusive trip and holidays since then have always involved less drinking and much more activity, and have been much more enjoyable for us both - and for our 2 DCs (we didn't have kids when we went to Tunisia). Good luck for the next few days!!!

Just stick it stick it out and try to go around with those girls for the next couple of days. Finish with him when you get home.
I'm surprised you went there to be honest, its not long since all those british tourists were shot on the beach. A couple near me were killed.

My friend went with her boyfriend many years ago and they were hassled badly on the street so didn't leave the hotel after that. Don't go out alone OP you don't want to get kidnapped or anything.

Have you told him what a shit time you are having?

Good luck with making friends, hope you find some respite from his selfish behaviour, and that you dump him.

The OP said her boyfriend doesn’t leave the hotel. So I’m not sure how much of the beautiful weather he’s experiencing

Have you never been on holiday before? The hotel will have gardens, pools, pool bars etc. He's not at a travelllodge in merthyr Tydfil!

nor how he’s meeting with and chatting to people

He'll be sat at a bar all day drinking so of course he will meet people!

Agree with others - book an excursion, read your books and enjoy being in the warm weather.

Dump your boyfriend at the luggage carousel when you land and make your own way home.

Glad you've met some people OP. Maybe suggest an organised trip with them?

It sounds an awful situation, but guess you will just have to put up with things till home time. It's not normal to be drunk and stupid all the time, but basically it is for some people who go away to simply drink, eat a bit,and sleep things off,and start all over again. Its basically horrible,when you don't share this type of holiday,and having things all spoilt for you. so don't ever go away with this man again.

I went on holiday about 10yrs ago with my then boyfriend & quickly realised he was different on holiday and that I didn't like him. It put a bit of a downer on the holiday! I just did my own thing. I couldn't really leave the hotel due to the location & not having any money but would go down for a late breakfast leaving him asleep & then go by the pool for a few hours & read. I'd find him for lunch but he was often still asleep so I did the same again in the afternoon and then would go to the gym (first & only holiday I have done that ). I didn't have proper gym stuff with me but it was enough.
It was really dull and lonely but I was lucky as there were a couple of groups of friends of a similar age to me and they took pity on me so I'd often join them for a meal or a drink in the evening. There was also a wife who'd been similarly abandoned (her DH was often out with my boyf) so I chatted to her a bit.
I think I spoke to my boyf about 4 times after we got off the plane!