I'm having the worst holiday aibu ?

[seaandsandy]

Me and my boyfriend of 5 months have came on holiday on Wednesday.
We are in Tunisia.
We got a cheap deal £286 each all inclusive,I thought amazing.
It's grim
The bar is open 10am to midnight and every day/night he has been drinking,to a point he keeps falling over.
He starts drinking after breakfast.
We haven't left the hotel.
He says why pay for all inclusive to leave the hotel.
Aibu to think this is the Pitts ?
Weather is hot

I would consider it a useful £300 spent to realise the relationship was never going to work. Then I'd go on some organised tours like PP suggested.

Also being a drama queen, I absolutely would look for a flight home.

Or yes, get a separate room and enjoy the peace.

This sounds like my idea of hell. I did all inclusive once ... to Turkey. I was bored shitless by the end of the first day as all everyone wanted to do was get drunk. I went out on my own in the end ... and ended up getting locked in a cafe with a bloke who decided I’d be impressed by being held captive and sang to. Never again.

Your boyfriend sounds like a loser, I’d ditch him

That sounds horrible OP but also like a huge wake-up call. This sort of drinking is very likely an indication of something more serious.

If you can, ask him at breakfast (before he's had anything to drink) if he could only drink after 6pm on at least two days of the holiday; if he's a jerk about it then you know that you'll have to reevaluate things. Honestly I would just leave him; he's showing a complete lack of care for you, at such an early stage in the relationship- it won't get better.

OP, your boyfriend is one of those particular people who have no manners when free food is in front of them. I've seen people drinking gallons of coffee at birthdays because it's free but how many cups of coffee does one need in 2-3 hours?
He is no fun and this is your future family holidays if you get married to him.

OP- It’s not normal and he is showing himself to be a lout.

I second the other posters saying that it’s worth looking at organised trips from nearby big hotels.

@burnoutbabe- It’s harsh to put blame on OP for this, she didn’t anticipate being a solo traveler.

Think about it this way.
You’ve found out what he’s really like now, not 3 years down the line after you’ve got children together.
Read books and chalk it up to experience.

Sometimes being a drama queen is the right choice.

When you look back on this holiday over a glass of wine or two with your mates in a few months time when you can laugh about it, what will your stories be? Get those excursions planned, eye up the hot lifeguard, whatever, make it an excellent outcome that makes an excellent story.

It’s definitely the company (you’re keeping) not the holiday. As a family, we do all inc every year for at least the last decade and the majority of people go on them because you can keep the children hydrated and fed whenever necessary without breaking the bank. I don’t think most people go on them to get wasted every day.

Clearly though, some do. This man clearly doesn’t care about you or your needs and enjoyment. A holiday is a good way of getting to know somebody. Chalk it up to experience and dump him soon as you land.

I didn't even think about the salad being dangerous

Many don't - they see "fresh and healthy" vegetables and forget the water they may have been washed in, or the state of the hands which may have touched them. Much better to choose cooked veg or even fries; not terribly healthy perhaps, but better than food poisoning

Obviously ditch the drunk when you get back, but for now re there any other guests you could perhaps join on an excursion ... the sort where you'd appear part of a group rather than a lone woman?

I don’t get this mentality at all. You’re on holiday to have fun, but why is it (some of) the British abroad think fun and drinking yourself stupid are the same thing? It’d be alcoholism if done on a daily basis at home but on a holiday abroad it magically isn’t

But it isn't done on a daily basis at home, that's the whole point! A holiday is a time to relax, to kick back and enjoy yourself and sometimes that includes having a drink or two during the day. Granted hitting the vodka straight after breakfast is extreme but to be sneery about people enjoying a drink on holiday is pathetic. As is this view that its only British people who drink on holiday. Such a boring generalisation that always seems to be bandied round on here. I'm away on a city break at the moment. Late afternoon on our rooftop terrace was a lively affair yesterday. English, Irish, Portuguese, Russian and a large French contingent all drinking and, shock horror, having fun

Are there any groups of friends including hot single, sober men you could have dinner with ? Some hotels do group.dinners or activities for single traveller s. Imagine if you met the love of your life in the midst of the shittiest holiday !

all drinking and, shock horror, having fun

But people can also not drink and still have fun. I like a drink, don't get me wrong, but it's the weird way it's equated with having fun as if people who don't drink are somehow deficient in the "fun" department.

@EggWrap has the right idea

Sorry OP it sounds utterly shit. Can you afford to get an early flight home and/or a separate room?

Catch up on reading, topping up your tan, yoga, anything... if you can get a separate room.

If no organised group trips then just resign yourself to putting plans in place to free yourself of him whilst you have the time. Is there anyone else there in the same position you could buddy up with?

Dare I suggest you go on the rampage too? getting drunk and living on chips till you come home?

Can you book another holiday now to take your mind off this one?

Ignore him as much as possible. Read sunbathe and have a rest. Get rid of him when you get home. Only 3 more days now. Good luck xx

My sister is a vegetarian and spent most of her holiday to Tunisia in hospital with food poisoning.

He’s a twat. Get rid.

It sounds awful. Dh and I went to Tunisia once. The cash machine was broken in our hotel so I started to walk to the one 5 mins down the road. I walked less than 100 yards and turned back. The lecherous men was too much.

You really wouldn’t be acting like a drama queen if you went home early. Who cares what others think. I know you say you can’t afford it. But I’d do that even if I had to go into debt or try to get to the closest 5* hotel during the day, maybe you could call a taxi.

Op, there are seats available on a Thomas Cook airlines flight home tonight (at 22.40) from your resort to Gatwick at a cost of £173. I know that in your situation I would be booking myself on a plane home. Good luck with whatever you do!

Pirate boat trip? www.viator.com/tours/Hammamet/Pirate-Boat-Cruise-in-Hammamet/d4457-61036P31

Full day excursion

www.tripadvisor.co.uk/AttractionProductDetail-g297943-d15883573-Full_Day_Kairouan_EL_JEM_departing_from_Hammamet_and_Sousse-Hammamet_Nabeul_Governorate.html#REVIEWS

Some more suggestions from tripadvisor

www.tripadvisor.co.uk/ShowTopic-g297943-i9229-k5972152-Day_Trips_from_Hammamet-Hammamet_Nabeul_Governorate.html

Where abouts are you op? Are you near Tunis? If so there are likely to be excursions and easy to book trips you could find online or at local hotels.
Honestly I've spent time in Tunisia and would go out explore on my own, just cover up. I've not had any trouble there but I do understand why you might not want to do that.

Oh and obviously dump the alcoholic twit as soon as possible.

We drink on holidays.

We might crack open a beer or a glass of wine at 11.00, and sit on the balcony sipping/drinking whilst reading a book. We will then amble into the kitchen raid the fridge put some food out on the side and call lunch and most likely another glass of wine or beer.

At which point two beers or wines and a fully belly syndrome generally elicits a snooze.

This doe not make us raging alcoholics, we would not do it at home, we do it when we are away, because the whole reason we are away is break in routine.

There are some real pearl clutchers on here today.

Should have chosen Turkey instead. Turkish breakfasts and dinners buffet style are just amazing. I don't know which other countries have a buffet style breakfast and dinner but it's my thing. You can always find something to eat. Of course it's good to check the reviews before choosing a hotel.

Oh poor you, it sounds awful.
Do you have a rep? ? Through either rep,hotel reception or online, try to book a trip. Then make the best of it. Top up your tan, relax by the pool , listen to music or read. Get yourself a drink and chat to others.
I would ditch the bf , he sounds as though he has a serious drink problem.
He can only get help when he faces up to it.
Hoping the rest of your holiday is fine.

m.viator.com/Tunisia/d4393-ttd

I found this link too like a pp. They do overnight tours too. It your p dangerous to be around when drunk. I'd stay away from him. I can sympathize. I went to Leeds festival with an ex who was a complete pisshead. I asked the organisers for a nearby b and b. It was awful lying along under canvas when everyone else around me was having fun. He's showing you who he is op. And it's not pleasant.

Naomi don't be obtuse. What you describe sounds fuck all like op's situation.