I'm having the worst holiday aibu ?

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Me and my boyfriend of 5 months have came on holiday on Wednesday.
We are in Tunisia.
We got a cheap deal £286 each all inclusive,I thought amazing.
It's grim
The bar is open 10am to midnight and every day/night he has been drinking,to a point he keeps falling over.
He starts drinking after breakfast.
We haven't left the hotel.
He says why pay for all inclusive to leave the hotel.
Aibu to think this is the Pitts ?
Weather is hot

Food wise, do they have any meats or fish that they BBQ in front of you? I mainly eat that when away

@Boysey45 Don’t go out alone OP you don’t want to get kidnapped or anything

OP is at no more risk of being kidnapped in Hammamet than she is anywhere in the U.K.

As for hassle, if you dress reasonably modestly and don’t engage with any lechers but walk on with a confident and polite «no, thank you «they don’t usually bother you . You’ll be fine OP.

OP, I've just googled Dalyan and the scenery is gorgeous!

OP, although your trip is a disappointing because of your boyfriend on the other hand you should be thankful for this trip as it's an eye opener. Imagine going out with him for a year, getting all serious, planning to get married, DCs and then you go on holiday and it's a nightmare although I think he would show himself either at the wedding or before that. Gosh, imagine him being that drunk at the wedding. How does he behave when he isn't drunk? How is your relationship otherwise?

I highly doubt that the OP will get kidnapped in Tunisia.

Wear long loose trousers or a loose maxi dress, a scarf around your shoulders and you’ll be fine. Sunglasses help too.

I used to night stop in Tunis many moons ago when I worked for an airline. And many other weird and wonderful places! Take sensible precautions and it’s highly unlikely you will come to any harm.

If you can find any like minded people in the hotel, you can share a Luage to El Gem. It's like the Colosium in Rome but with no tourists, and costs about 1 Dinar to get in. We had a great day out there with a few other people.

Is it your first holiday with him? In my experience that first holiday together can really make or break or relationship (or a friendship) because you spend an intense amount of time together and there are often stressful moments.

So it looks like it "broke" yours - you're just not compatible. It's a shame but just try to accept the relationship is over and to focus on the positives of the holiday - the sunny weather, time off work, etc.

Or alternatively offer a compromise? Perhaps alternating boozy days getting drunk by the pool together with more moderate days exploring the area?

*make or break a relationship

I doubt he’ll be meeting and chatting to many people considering he’s falling over drunk rather a lot!

people like different things on holiday but he's just being incredibly selfish. you've been with him for five months, i'd sit down and talk with him (at breakfast! or before) and explain about the excursions.

i find it sad that he's in a beautiful country and doesn't want to go out even once. and more sad that he doesn't compromise for you, so you can enjoy your day.

failing that, i'm guessing you have the internet fortunately, i'd do something like use the internet to try to learn yoga/pilates, spend a lot of time in the hotel grounds and garden, take advantage of the pool, do some stretches, try to relax, books/magazines, have some nice food, try to get to know other people as you're doing - can you go with them to the beach?

if you travel on wednesday there's just mon and tue now.

thinking about it i'm not sure if you've said - does he know you're unhappy?

I enjoyed the TV series “Benidorm” and it sounds like you are living it! No this isn’t normal, I’d ditch him on arrival back in Blighty!

If he has taken every opportunity to get drunk and most of your relationship is around going out and drinking so far, I think this says a lot about your fella.

Leave him to fester at the bar and have a good time by yourself.

Sounds like you’ve discovered you’re incompatible. Only 3 days to go and then you can chalk it up to experience- hope you find some nice things to do on the rest of your holiday.

Are you in Yasmine, Hammamet? If so, the medina is not far away and depending on where you are is in walking distance. Its surrounded by loads of shops, cafes and restaurants.
Even though I'd never go back to Tunisia, I found Yasmine quite safe and the town centre nice with lots of things to look at. Take a trip there, buy some souvenirs for friends and family to break your day up

While I was at the medina with husband and modestly dressed i was harassed and dragged in shops, constantly grabbed etc. I went out once with the baby in the pram and felt vulnerable. OP, I don't recommend going out on your own!

I agree with other posters 5 months and a wasted £300 will be go value in the long run get rid!! ,My ex behaved like this (think oversized drunk toddler) when he had decided the relationship was over (repeated many times as I kept going back I now see how stupid I was) as he simply didn't have a pair and guess was trying to piss me off so I'd dump him, get off that plane on wed and KEEP WALKING Tunisia has done you a MASSIVE favour. Spend next couple big days getting a nice tan and the wifi to plan a few nice things to do when you get home xz

Have you (really, assertively) told him how you feel and if so, what has he said?

How much is a flight home?

Look into it. Tell us.

I don't mind lending you some money to get home. I mean it.

He's a knob, but you know that now.

Don't fly home early. It's a hassle and you're only there a few more days.

Just pretend you are holidaying by yourself. Ignore knob. Chat to other people. Read, swim, sunbathe, listen to music.

And then dump him as soon as you get home!

Oh god, what a night mare. I suppose with only 3 days to go you could just enjoy yourself by yourself as much as you can, I guess he isn't bothered if you are unhappy or not ?

I think I'd encourage him to get really drunk before the flight, so that he is refused boarding, that will be one journey you won't have to do, sitting beside him the whole way home. Or make sure to check in VERY early and book seats separately.

Has he even noticed that this holiday is a disaster or is he just carrying on as if everything is OK ?

Have you told him that you're not prepared to come second in his list of priorities to his next bottle of vodka, and that he's taking the fastest route possible to bringing your relationship to an end?

I think that making friends with another group of girls is the best option. See if they will join you on an excursion. Def avoid salads and wash your teeth in bottled water. And stay away from any food on the buffet that has just been sat there for a while.

Glad you are talking to other people.Do you think the girls you have met would enjoy the pirate ship? Sounds like it would be more fun if you know a couple of people.

Op I went away with someone like this. He was awful and it was the point he turned abusive. Though I didn't see it at the time. Just get through the holiday make the most of what you can, think about booking another holiday for September or a spa day and get your self home and away from him. No one who thinks it's OK to drink all day is an acceptable partner.

Did you discusss expectations of holiday befre you left? Did you google Tunisia or where you're going at all?

Join group trips. Sit by the pool. Talk to new people. When your bf is sober, have a serious talk to him. He sounds awful.