I'm having the worst holiday aibu ?

[seaandsandy]

Me and my boyfriend of 5 months have came on holiday on Wednesday.
We are in Tunisia.
We got a cheap deal £286 each all inclusive,I thought amazing.
It's grim
The bar is open 10am to midnight and every day/night he has been drinking,to a point he keeps falling over.
He starts drinking after breakfast.
We haven't left the hotel.
He says why pay for all inclusive to leave the hotel.
Aibu to think this is the Pitts ?
Weather is hot

Did you discusss expectations of holiday befre you left? - people do this? Surely 'before you left' is too late? Maybe at booking, you should have sat down and discussed behaviour on holiday, expectations of drinking, risk assessment style? This makes it your fault, if he is a cock. Because you should have discussed it and been prepared.

I hope you can get out and about - it might not be the safest country in the world, but there is a tourist trade for a reason and there are many interesting things to do and see that are not just Seaside or sun-by-the-pool

Surely she shouldn't have to discuss not getting hammered every day to the point of being useless!

If you don't spend all day drinking yourself why would you discuss the possibility of someone else doing it before you go on holiday. A poster comes on here with a problem and other posters jump on and blame them for having the problem in the first place. Why?

Hope OP manages to enjoy her last couple of days then dumps the loser.

Stick with this group of girls.

Agree with Bordello, Captain and Dave.

Have my first LTB!

Yuck, sounds like all you can do is tough it out and dump him when you get home. We did a cheap All inclusive may years ago to Majorca that was similarly grim but we were on the same page, "in it together" and went out A LOT!
IME AI usually has quite a lot of activities so if there's anything you can join in to chat to other people and not spend time with him then try to do that. Otherwise bury yourself in books and phone and count the days til you can come home.

I'd stick the rest of the holiday then dump him when you get home.

Out of interest, how old are you both? Only asking cos my now DH used to drink a bit too much on our all inclusive hols, I found it irritating as well. Luckily it wasnt to the point of spilling things/falling around, that does sound really shit. I like a drink, or even to get drunk, but I didn't feel the need to smash in the booze from morning til night. I think it's a percieved value thing - some people think they've paid for the booze and if they dont as much as they can they are not getting their moneys worth.

I went to Tunisia and didn't hate it, there is quite a bit to do. It was some years ago though that I went.

I'd dump him if I were you, as it sounds like its not something you can tolerate and sounds like its already well and truly put you off him.

Just try to enjoy the weather and your book/music the last few days, safe in the knowledge that'll be over soon and you can end it as you dont sound all that compatible.

Feel free to get on social media, put up a pic of him passed out and write ‘it’s altogether possible that if I go out of this hotel alone, I will get kidnapped. And still have a better holiday than I’ve had so far.’

I would.

Tunisia isnt the problem, the boyfriend is!
I would second not leaving the hotel alone. Tunisia is lovely but the men are still behind the times and they will harass you on your own.
If you want to do anything speak with your rep.

surely no way could you be in the pub from 10am to closing in the UK and only spend £300

Easily. And for a lot less.

^surely no way could you be in the pub from 10am to closing in the UK and only spend £300

Easily. And for a lot less^

The OP estimates her boyfriend has drunk a bottle of vodka a day. That's 14 doubles.

Even if he 'only' had 10 doubles a day and it was a cheap pub so they cost a fiver for a double vodka and coke, which is probably at the cheaper end of what they cost, that's £50 a day, or £350 for a week. So no, you couldn't go to a pub in the UK and get that blasted for that amount of money.

Break up with him. I couldn't be in a relationship with someone who just wanted to drink all day whilst on holiday. Currently in Prague with DW and have visited some amazing places. Had a beer at lunchtime and a couple with my evening meal.

I had a similar eye opening experience on a long weekend away with an ex. I am a rabbit in headlights in this situation - I just want to run away, I couldn’t either though as couldn’t afford a return flight. It was the worst weekend of my life but taught me about preparing properly before going away or moving in with a partner.

Survive the next couple of days, with other girls or people if you can, and then put it down to experience and make sure it doesn’t happen again! Masses of luck, I really feel for you.

Op, I've followed this thread with interest. You've handled the situation very well, congratulations.

I sincerely hope you are going to dump this man - pronto!

It's ridiculous to suggest flying home early given that OP is flying home in the early hours of Thursday. The cost would be more than the holiday.

As most have said, make the best of the hotel/weather and book some days out if OP wants to. Otherwise just plug in the headphones and/or read. Or socialise with others.

Dump the boyfriend as soon as OP gets home.

@seaandsandy I’m hoping there’s no update as you’re out and about with your new friends?!

Looks like we'll never know! I hope she managed to enjoy the last few days.

Op I haven’t read everything but a light headscarf, cover your shoulders and to your knees and put a cheap gold band on your ring finger if you decide to go out

I hope the original poster got home safe and sound and managed to dump her boyfriend! i hope we may find out what did happen - maybe he sobered up a lot and they worked things out? he may have realised he was being unfair - she may have met someone else on the plane even! who knows. but i hope she's okay.