To ask what it’s like to have a famous DH?

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I’m just being nosy really, I bet there’s a few posters on here with partners who have achieved some level of fame. And no I don’t expect anyone to reveal identifying information!

What is it like though, knowing that random people admire your DH? Does it make them cocky, or make you feel uncomfortable when other women take an interest in them? I think I’d find it quite exposing and difficult tbh. I have a friend who was in a similar situation with a musician for three years and I know she found it hard.

I have posted about this before on similar threads but keeping it as distant as I can, I had a fairly famous FIL, largely due to a long running and still repeated sitcom. I had no idea who he was when I started going out with his son. We married and divorced unfortunately. However, I found the "recognising" thing intrusive, how rude people were...without going into details, we went on a fairly remote holiday where he was recognised and the rudeness and entitlement shocked me. He was and is such a lovely man. He treated all "approachees" with kindness and respect regardless of how inconvenient it was. When I see him on the TV now, I still know he lives in an ordinary house and otherwise has an ordinary life! He also has a second, very normal, career for any dry periods. It's quite a funny set up really.

In another lifetime, I was also with my 15 year best friend when she slept with a hugely famous pop star who had just had a widely publicised engagement . When I look back, I am aghast. However, it's her "party story"....she's now happily married with 4 kids..make of that what you will.

Also, I should add to my post, we lied about our ages...and probably looked a lot older than we were. I have no reason to condemn him.

@Katzeyes7 got to be Stephen Street??

Not me but one of my besties was married to a fairly well known tv and film actor. Lovely guy but larger than life with a big ego, he loved the fame and recognition thing. Every time we went out with them I would be left thinking "great fun, thank f* I'm not married to him". My friend is now married to the quietest guy imaginable 😁

Can’t people NC to say who their partners are? I’m so curious now!

Yes! This thread is infuriating.

Comedy generally, but acting too.

I think @GidgetGirl is married to one of the League of Gentlemen guys - especially as she mentioned her DH is known in a culty way.

Love these threads and trying to guess everyone’s DHs!

Who, who, who? I don't know any of these people. I'm obviously not motivated by fame!

I decided RonnieOnions's husband was a Bollywood star. But she's ruin my theory with their meeting story (very rude of her).

Unless pubs are a common thing in India? Never been so don't know. I might pretend they are so my theory works. I feel if he was a jobbing actor he'd need to be in India to climb to Bollywood stardom.

Now he just flys over to film because he's so very rich and famous. Being so famous he lives abroad to have a quite life away from his fan attentions.

Though has RonnieOnions mentioned they live in UK or Ireland?

I have a relative who's gradually become more well known over the years. It's now got to the stage where he has fans banging on the window of his car when he's pulled over to make a phone call and he's starting to find it a little intrusive.

Decormad38 thank you stepping down from your pedestal to share that with us all.

" think @GidgetGirl is married to one of the League of Gentlemen guys - especially as she mentioned her DH is known in a culty way. "
A Dr Who actor?
The young ones?
Top Gear?

I'm convinced @RonnieOnions is married to Cillian Murphy

@katseyes7 Another one who thinks your DH has to be Stephen Street. I’m a huge Blur fan so I probably would recognise him (or at least I would have in the 90s), but I’d never in a million years approach someone I recognised but didn’t know personally.

It's interesting to see people's interpretation of famous. I'm not convinced someone well known in a niche industry could be classed as famous? They are just well known?

Years ago I dated a local bbc tv news presenter. So he was on tv every night and well known locally. I don't recall people recognised him walking past him in the street though. Even if they did I doubt people would be bothered about stopping for him. I would not class him as famous.

GidgetGirl, has your DP been on Taskmaster?

@nicesunnyday I'm guessing Samuel West. I know you won't say. But I have a friend who falls in the "following him around to see his plays and tipping into occasional obsession".

I'm probably way off the mark though

Is it wrong that the only “famous” name I recognise on this thread is benedict cumberbatch?

Ooh @frerro654 I liked that programme...did you have a superpower?

That 'following around' thing must be very common. A long time ago we had an actor as a near neighbour. He was extremely successful in one particular theatre genre but not a household name in spite of his awards. I looked him up online out of sheer nosiness and found that there were several fan forums recording everything he did. I have the impression that kind of thing has largely moved onto Facebook now.

What struck me at the time was the huge mismatch between his public persona and what I knew about him from personal acquaintance. His fans thought he was some sort of God. My impression from snippets his wife let fall was that he was not always an easy person to live with.

My BIL plays rugby for a premiership team (and England and the Lions) so very well-known and recognisable to rugby fans. He's a perfectly normal bloke with a very nice girlfriend. He's always friendly when people stop to talk to him but that's usually at games or rugby events, not often on the street.

I do feel a bit sorry for him when people talk to him like they're his best friend and he doesn't have a clue who they are... they're a friend of a friend of a friend, or he met them once when volunteering at a local club or whatever. I found it a bit painful at a wedding once which was FULL of rugby fans, he was kind of 'on duty' because everyone knew who he was and wanted to talk to him. But rugby fans are mostly respectful and super friendly, even if fans of a rival team. I imagine football would be a much bigger deal.

It's also weird when people find out who he is and suddenly expect tickets to Twickenham from us or signed shirts etc. We got a shirt signed by all the England team for a charity event for friends once, but we've had all sorts of random requests that we politely decline! People seem to think we must have a hotline to Johnny Wilkinson. We don't! (I have met a lot of very hot rugby players though!)

'Oooh Take a Break ' wow ! 🙄🙄🙄

My ex partner was very famous. As in A list famous. After five years I could no longer deal with the man he became. He was a great and loving partner but over the years the attention changed him and he wasn’t the person I once loved. It was sad as he now although still an A lister isn’t truly settled. I did hear from him a couple of years ago. He said he regretted how he let the fame go to his.head. Deep down he was truly a lovely person but as they say fame. changed him. I haven’t a bad word to say against him and love seeing him do well and I do miss the person he was.

I have posted on here before about this and been accused of ‘stealth boasting’ and told I shouldn’t read threads on this topic. I probably shouldn’t read them.
A close family member is married to a household name. It is utterly dreadful and ruined the dynamic of the family, not just because of huge disparity in wealth. . Newer in-laws don’t engage as I imagine they don’t want to be labelled ‘pushy’ or they just act weirdly. Another close family member made unusual choices with their wedding in order (I conjecture) to exclude famous one and by default all those of same relation.
People generally act weirdly.
Person themselves are essentially ok but defensive at times... one in-law accused of selling story. .. which I don’t believe but damage was done.
The spouse will never know what they could have achieved as hasn’t had job in decades.
My child was at school for years when relative turned up uninvited to an event with invited grandparent..., within days my child received invitations from people who had had nothing to do with him in spite of being in same school for years.
Our obsession with fame in England is unhealthy!