To ask what it’s like to have a famous DH?

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I’m just being nosy really, I bet there’s a few posters on here with partners who have achieved some level of fame. And no I don’t expect anyone to reveal identifying information!

What is it like though, knowing that random people admire your DH? Does it make them cocky, or make you feel uncomfortable when other women take an interest in them? I think I’d find it quite exposing and difficult tbh. I have a friend who was in a similar situation with a musician for three years and I know she found it hard.

I have a famous DH. Fame level is that he's very famous and well respected/liked in his field, fairly well known in general, but not the kind of famous where he'd be papped or our private life reported on (unless something particularly scandalous occurred). That's the context.

To answer the OP: generally it's nice, having a DH in the public eye. He's a nice level of fame as it's not particularly intrusive and people are always nice. It used to get a bit annoying if we were out and were constantly being interrupted but I guess now we're older and have kids, we don't go out so much and therefore anything that happens regarding "fans" is a novelty! And to be honest, his job depends on him being well-liked so it's reassuring and I appreciate it more now. its a nice buzz sometimes.

Something annoying is when people come to talk to him and don't even acknowledge they've interrupted us. It feels quite rude and it puts DH in difficult position: he doesn't want me to stand there alone like a lemon but people are sensitive and anyone even slightly famous can be judged quite harshly if they're not sweetness and light to everyone at all times (I see that on celeb threads a lot). Similarly, I get self conscious as to how people are judging me. Am I fashionable enough? friendly enough? I'm quite shy so have to try hard to get it right. People love to hate a celebrity's wife for being stuck up or ugly or vain, I think.

Your Q about if it affects him: not really. He's been famous for a long time, I suspect he may have been a bit cocky when he was younger - I didn't know him then - but he's down to Earth now and just quite normal.

I often read threads like "which celebs have you met in real life" or "ever shagged a celeb" with a kind of cringing curiosity. I dread seeing my DHs name in an anecdote! (any sex gossip would be from years ago of course!). I find those threads quite de-humanising even though I totally get why they're interesting too. DH has been mentioned in some MN threads but not a lot.

Twitter makes me anxious as sometimes I see criticisms or similar and I feel all shit and sad. DH does take that kind of hate to heart but he doesn't use social media really so tends not to notice much.

Can't think of anything else and I've forgotten what other Qs were in the OP.

We're well off but not massively rich. Most other people in our village seem to have nicer houses and cars and holidays.

I work FT but in a comparatively boring job (I think mine is 100% harder though!). No one ever cares about my job which I judge them for

P.s I started writing this ages ago but stopped for dinner etc. So, thread might have moved on quite a lot. Sorry if so. I've name changed.

The concept of "fame" is very subjective. It's odd too.

I'm a radio presenter. Not on a big station by any means, a regional one that broadcasts to 1m people. I don't consider myself famous, yet am often 'recognised' when out and about where I live, especially at gigs and concerts.

I get random people coming up to me going, "Hey, Fader! How are you?" Then mention something I've recently been talking about on air, or on Twitter etc.

After they leave. My DP goes, "Who's that?", and I always reply, "I've absolutely no idea, never seen them before in my life!"

It's funny, because back in the early 90s, listeners only knew what presenters looked like from one of three ways... 1. They waited outside the radio station at the end of the show, hoping to meet them. (This happened a LOT!) 2. They wrote or called in asking for a signed photo. 3. The presenter did a personal appearance at like a Christmas light switch on.

Nowadays, people want and expect to interact with presenters on social media. I have separate FB, LinkedIn and Twitter, which is easy as I present under a "stage name", as wanky as that sounds! 😆 Reason being, when I started working in radio as a teenager, I was told that radio presenters seem to get more stalkers that TV presenters, as radio is a more personal medium. I was advised that if I ever got my break as a presenter, then to use a different name. Which I heeded.

And yes, I've had 2-3 stalkers. And get this, I get asked out at least once or twice a month by random blokes via social media. I'm not even particularly pretty, very average looking in fact. I never got asked out at ALL before I had my own show. It's like people are just attracted by the job, no idea why though. I'm me, my job doesn't define me.

I imagine when I quit radio one day, I will go back to never being asked out again. 😆 Good job my DP is a diamond. ♥️

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