Couples holding hands is really cheesy beyond the teenage years

[HamptonLucy]

I've been watching several episodes of Escape to the Country (please don't judge me too harshly). Almost all the couples clutch each others hands on the sofa and cling on to one another for dear life when they're trundling around the countryside with lovely Alistair, Nicki Chapman or Jules.

Do you think it's a bit cheesy? The Obamas, the Macrons, Harry & Meghan, the Clooneys - all serial offenders.

I've seen people hiking holding hands before

I'm a hand holder but not to that extent

I think you’re jealous. That’s okay. Just own it OP!

God no! Happily married for 30 years to DH who would hold my hand if I wanted to be cheesy

Those of you who hold hands all the time - do you do it when you're on a long country walk?

Fuck off. DP is blind. We have been together for 18 years , rather than guide him by the arm we hold hands and have subtle movements that mean left, right or go behind me etc. We are in our late 40's apparently we are cheesy again I say Fuck off!

I LOVE seeing couples who are clearly past the first flush of youth holding hands. Just lovely.

Do you think it's a bit cheesy?
NO.

You don't need to show affection in public, do you? You can be considerate and respectful of each other without holding hands. Smile, laugh, chat, walk in companiable silence, with your hands by your sides.

No, after 22 years married we don’t need to. We often walk along side by side either chatting or in silence. BUT, some times I just want to hold his hand. It’s comforting- despite him walking along beside me or sleeping in bed next to me. He has a life limiting condition, had a transplant 5 years ago and every day is a blessing. There are more thankful people about than you think. So NO, it isn’t cheesy for the average person to be seen to be holding hands in the street.

Why do you care if other people hold hands? Sad that it bothers you enough to start a thread about it tbh.

I picked my 5 year old DGDs up from school recently and she held my hand the whole way home. It was lovely

Agreed! Having a child hold your hand = lovely. Couples (other than otters) holding hands = cheesy.

Hand holding is lovely, it's cost free, calorie free, hypoallergenic and probably good for your heart!

Yes, I think it is cheesy and a bit wet. Arm in arm seems more, well, adult.

You are welcome to your opinion, however DH and I have been married for 47 years next month we walk together with our arms linked and hold hands when on the bus we love each other and don't care what people think

My best friend's parents held hands into their 60s. It was kind and gentle, it was a physical manifestation of their love for each other and to be honest thinking about them I am tearing up. They were the first parents to show me what a happy family looked like.

Oh and I don't care if it's cheesy. I'll be cheesy and happy in this crazy, unstable world we currently occupy!

Yabu!
I always hold DH's hand while walking and couldn't give a shiny shite what other people think it looks like tbh

My DH and I always hold hands. So do my parents still.

In fact my mum and I still do sometimes if we're out somewhere busy or one of us is having a hard time. (DM recently underwent chemo)

You'd hate us.

DH and I almost always hold hands when we're out. We love each other, and it's nice.

There are more thankful people about than you think

Actually, I am very aware that I and many other people have much to be thankful for. And I get occasional handholding might even indulge myself niw and again but I find couples who always hold hands rather cheesy.

And those who say I'm sad/weird for starting a thread about this - you're contributing to it

Not cheesy, I love a handhold!

Maybe OP doesn't have someone in her life who wants to hold her hand......possibly slightly jealous of us lucky ones that do.....but with her attitude I am not surprised lol

We still hold hands (married 45 years). It isn't always what it seems. Sometimes we really are clinging to each other for moral support eg when we went to parents' evening at our son's school and they told us how awful he was. When at secondary school they said they wanted to have him assessed for ASD. When he has bad day.
And sometimes just because it is companionable.
Holding hands is relatively harmless isn't it?
Not so keen when people do a full on snog in the queue at Tesco!

Nothing nicer than seeing two old dears walking along the sea front hand in hand. I envy them.

"Walk in companionable silence with your hands by your sides" am I actually pissing myself. Curse my weak pelvic floor. Should never have had that sex in companionable silence.

Can you stop saying "cheesy" in every reply of yours @HamptonLucy- it's f*cking cheesy. And yes you're being unreasonable (and a twat) for judging how others showing the OHs affection- just because you don't agree with it, doesn't make it wrong and anything else of the sort.

their OHs*

Yabu. I miss holding my DH's hand when we're walking. I'm usually pushing a buggy while he has the other child on his shoulders these days. We always held hands while walking before children and still do on the rare occasions we're without them.

Other - some would say better ways - of showing affection.

I rim my partner in public to show affection.

(I don't have a partner)

"""Cheesy""" people may hold hands in public, but miserable people start threads about them doing so.

Handholders who keep saying I'd hate you. I really wouldn't!