Couples holding hands is really cheesy beyond the teenage years

[HamptonLucy]

I've been watching several episodes of Escape to the Country (please don't judge me too harshly). Almost all the couples clutch each others hands on the sofa and cling on to one another for dear life when they're trundling around the countryside with lovely Alistair, Nicki Chapman or Jules.

Do you think it's a bit cheesy? The Obamas, the Macrons, Harry & Meghan, the Clooneys - all serial offenders.

This is the first aibu I've read that the voting buttons make sense for!

for the OP - hand holding is sweet! (Except in the case of Trump's ridiculous need to hold hands with everyone!🤪)

I sort of agree with the OP actually. I think on TV shows, they are told to hold hands for some reason.

I also get cross when adult couple walk along the pavement holding hands and won't stop when it becomes crowded or the pavement gets narrow. Rational adults don't need to hold hands to stop each other from running into the road but someone with small children may need to hold onto them.

YABVU and abit weird. I know it's Mumsnet so everyone's got a bloody opinion about everything but live and let live. I can't believe people even have these thoughts, it's really sad.

Teenagers who do that draped around each other walk is more irritating than hand holders

DH and I are both very anti-romance but every now and then he holds my hand and the spot where my heart should be warms ever so slightly above freezing for a moment or two. YABU to complain that anyone has found comfort and kindness.

YANBU op. No issue with people holding hands but in certain situations like what you mentioned, it’s a bit unnecessary

I think it’s sweet

I'm disabled and have severe ptsd. My DH holds my hand in public for both physical and emotional support. It's a great deal of comfort to me and isn't cheesy in the slightest.

What a bitter, bizarre thread.

I love holding my dh’s hand and never feels like either of us is ‘holding onto each other for dear life’. It’s a form of affection, and after 30+ years, I still get a thrill out of the contact. Cheesy? Not in my opinion. Just love.

Wow cynical much, op! Some people are just cuddly and tactile. I find it quite sweet!

Don't be such a grump OP (and watching Escape to the Country) gives you absolutelynomoral high ground here

It's fake isn't it, just for the telly. They don't go around like that in real life.
There's a saying in Welsh for married couples who walk hand-in-hand: 'fel dau gariad' which means 'like sweethearts' or a young dating couple rather than middle-aged people in a long-term relationship.

The absolute worst is when couples walk along holding each other’s bottoms.

Hear, hear.

Looks so awkward seeing someone trying to look all nonchalant as they walk about clutching their lover's bum cheek with said lover doing the same. Can't be a comfy way to make your way down the high street. Wait until you get home and give their arse a good old squeeze.

I'm all for public hand holding though. Sorry, OP.

I can't believe people even have these thoughts, it's really sad

Christ, Weasel - we're just having a chat here - don't start head tilting me!

And some of these replies are proving my point - cheesy people hold hands!

walk in companiable silence, with your hands by your sides.

This really gave me the giggles

For some reason i'm picturing the the OP and her DH as the couple in American Gothic.

I like holding hands.

Sorry but YABU. I’m married almost 30 years and of course been together longer than that. We hold hands.

Just because you don’t have that type of relationship doesn’t mean it wrong.

I don't mind it but I think it's a bit cringey when people cling to each other and rub each other all over.

Ugh yeah the arse holding is the worst.

Sounds like you are projecting your own issues. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I love seeing an OAP couple holding hands. I like to think they've been together 60years and are still madly in love. My DH on the other hand thinks their on a dirty weekend away from their spouses!

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I'd rather be happy in my affectionate relationship where we hold hands a lot.You would hate us OP we even hold hands and sit close together on the couch. Don't really care (or have thought much) what others think we are in a happy relationship and love each other
and the affection comes with that naturally it's not forced.

Weve been married for 30 yrs and we hold hands if we are walking somewhere together , we don’t hold hands sitting indoors because we rarely sit on the same sofa .

It's a lovely feeling to hold the hand of someone you love.

I picked my 5 year old DGDs up from school recently and she held my hand the whole way home. It was lovely.

My 34 year old very independent, home owning, self sufficient DD will sometimes take my arm when we're out shopping together and having a natter.

Some people might think that's odd, but we don't get to see each other that often, so when we are together it's lovely to have small signs of affection. We're a tactile family.

I am, unlike the OP, long term single and am more than happy living on my own, but not having someone to hold hands with and cuddle is something I definitely miss.