Couples holding hands is really cheesy beyond the teenage years

[HamptonLucy]

I've been watching several episodes of Escape to the Country (please don't judge me too harshly). Almost all the couples clutch each others hands on the sofa and cling on to one another for dear life when they're trundling around the countryside with lovely Alistair, Nicki Chapman or Jules.

Do you think it's a bit cheesy? The Obamas, the Macrons, Harry & Meghan, the Clooneys - all serial offenders.

Of course I want to hold my wife’s hand, also like it when while family is in a line holding hands but you need quite wide paths.

You sound like my sister. She cannot understand why DH and I go do the shopping together or sit together watching the same things on tv. We do the school runs as a couple of DH isn't on shift.

She however likes the time away from her BF and says herself that they "don't need to be around each other 24/7!" Apparently I must be needy. Personally I think her way is so sad. She sees her DP for a short while in the mornings and for a few hours at night after work. She deals with the kids while he does his own interests and hobbies. She will sit and watch her tv shows in the living room at night while he watches football in another room. On Weekends he either takes the kids out for a walk while DSis cleans the house or he goes off to do his hobby alone.

I've told her straight, I actually like my DH and we want to spend time together otherwise why would we be in a relationship at all?

You say cheesy like it's a bad thing

You say cheesy like it's a bad thing

Yes, I'm yet to hear a reason why the OP thinks it's wrong for couples to act in a 'cheesy' way with each other. It sounds like a complaint from a teenager about their parents showing affection to each other in front of them.

I am not personally a hugger or a hand holder but I think it's heartwarming to see affection between couples (as long as it's just hugging or handholding)

@SandyY2K next time you quote me please do so completely with the emoji that I used in my original post, ta. Here's the emoji that demonstrated my comment was rather more tongue in cheek and really didn't deserve what you put

I feel rather bad for you actually OP, you're missing out on one of the small everyday joys of being with your loved one (I'm sure that sounds cheesy as well )

My DH is far more affectionate than me generally - he often tries to kiss me when we're out and about but holding hands is perfectly normal and nice.

Holding hands with your partner is lovely (or indeed your child!). It's a great gesture of affection without being inappropriate, also a lovely way to show people support in difficult times (bereavement etc).

DH and I are very touchy feely and we have been married almost 14 years. We often hold hands in public, hug and playfully smack each other on the bum. I don't care if it offends you.

You ok hun?

YABVU - holding hands is a nice simple way of showing affection or support. How do you maintain your relationship OP, please share.
On another matter what is this “escape to the country”. I am late forties now, should I be watching?

"You don't need to show affection in public, do you?"

No, but I don't see how doing so is a negative. I don't think the world is improved by less obvious affection...

Thanks, HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend
I'm putting you down as a YANBU

I’ve reported it fortunately I’ve already voted YABU

Past teenage or under 60 is cringe! Makes me think women are making sure everyone knows their partner is taken.

But why is it cringey for some age groups and not others? Makes no sense to me☝️.

I didn't mean to use that emoji.

Lol hardly. My husband holds his hand out for me to take it and I think most people would say he's the better looking out of us.
Seems to me like the people who think it's cringey are the insecure ones. Probably thinking others must think that about them if they were told told hands.
I think it looks weird if you don't hold hands personally but i wouldn't think negative of anyone for not holding hands. Like Theresa May and and husband.. they look like colleagues! Meh

Sigh...we never hold hands anymore. There is always a child there instead. We need to hold hands more, it feels weird when we get the chance to. Thanks OP, I'm going to hold DH hand today

On another matter what is this “escape to the country"

A guilty pleasure of many a MNetter. Best watched on iPlayer so you can fast forward through all the tedious bits where the presenter tries out a local craft.

Agreed

Thanks OP, I'm going to hold DH hand today

Happy to help you re-connect!

I've been known to hold my wife's hand in public. I've even squeezed her bum on occasion. I've even snogged her on a park bench and slipped her a finger while our son was adleep in his pram.

PDA are a beautiful thing.

I think it's daft