Put own dinner on plate?

[Naughty1205]

Just wondering, if you made dinner and it was ready to plate up in kitchen, but you were juggling a few other things at the same time: if you asked your partner/dh would he mind plating up his own dinner, in case it got cold, as I just wanted to finish x,y, and he said 'I would mind actually, yeah', not joking, he wasn't impressed, (by the way x, y was me trying to finish school lunches for 2 and just put stuff in sink etc) He has no form for this, I'm a sahp and felt terrible. Not sure if I'm leaving out any back story but feel he has totally lost respect for me. Thanks for reading.

Why do people say "pots" like "I'll only put my own pots in the dishwasher from now on"

Totally missing the point I know but it's just such a weird phrase- do you mean plates, cutlery etc? Or do you actually eat from a pot? So confused.

OP leave him he sounds like a massive bellend. Why do women put up with overgrown manchilds like this?!

Was you not going to be sitting down to eat with him anyway? I'd hate to have someone pottering around while I'm trying to dish up my own dinner aswell as their own, would rather just do both myself and eat together
But he shouldn't of spoke to you like a twat regardless of how much faff it all sounds.

He's a twat, the right answer would be let me help you sort that stuff and let's both sit down and eat together, otherwise yours might get cold.

Wtf. Don't understand why u even needed to ask him for help if he was in the same room and could see you were struggling why didn't he just on with it?! My DH ain't Perfect but Jesus it's called team work isn't it?!

* you freeze pillows and duvets? What? How on earth do you do this? Do you have a chest freezer? I'm genuinely very impressed by this and you.*

Yes, a chest freezer in the garage, we have a “spare” set, so we take his out to defrost the night before, then we wash and freeze the “old” one the next day.

Every 4-6 months we buy 2 new sets, as as you can imagine duvets are not designed for weekly washes.

Beds get hoovered every other day, as they harbour dust mites.

Loads of people upset about 'plating up'... but references to 'dishing up' seem to be fine. Whats the difference? Why can you say one but not the other?

We tend to 'put out' dinner in our house. Or, if one of us is joking about, we'll say 'We're serving now'.

WOW! Just fucking WOW. I’d find it VERY hard to do anything else for him after that pig ignorant, entitled reaction. He’s a user.

What a loser. I'd bin the dinner if I got that response.

A similar situation happened between my mum and dad last week, he told her "no problem, love". He's 70 y/o and has had 2 strokes.

BadTiger 'plating up' is a professional catering phrase, made popular with the general public through Masterchef etc.

In the context of your own home it's just pretentious and wanky.

Mind you, I also loathe MNers using the word 'serve'. I'm not a servant, I don't serve anything in my own home. 'What's everyone having for dinner tonight?' 'Fish fingers served with baked beans.' Wanky.

We always dish up our own food - whoever's cooked just calls the other when it's ready and it's help yourself.

Well, I would have personally just left him to plate his up and sat down for dinner... :/

Plate, dish or serve. These may be regional sayings same as "pots" rather than plates and dishes. Why is everyone getting uptight about it and no, its not Mastercheffy to say "plate up" I used to help and with large dinner gatherings when I was in Uni years ago and we "plated up" in the kitchen before service.

yes - it's a catering term. Which has entered the public domain via things like Masterchef.

BadTiger 'plating up' is a professional catering phrase, made popular with the general public through Masterchef etc
Both of my nans was using the term ' plating up' up when I was a kid and that was over 50 years ago, so presumably they were using it long before I was born. One nan died 2 years ago at 101 so the term had been in use by her at least 80 years ago I guess!

In the context of your own home it's just pretentious and wanky
In the context my home and many others its just a regular every day term that's always been used. We are not from wanky stock!!!

I would die of shock if DP spoke like this, but if someone else did, I’d raise an eyebrow and not give it a second thought. As in, I certainly wouldn’t dish it up at all. What’s he going to do? Not eat?

I just wanted to agree with everyone else. I too am the sah parent and as such most of the day to day stuff falls on me. I usually cook all meals but have been known to not have dinner ready when hubby comes home-he will wander in to the kitchen and find something to cook (and will feed the kids if for example I'm I'll). If dinner is ready, but I am doing something else, he will dish up for
Everyone who is eating, and is quite able to dish up for himself if everyone else has eaten (for example he gets in late).
Please don't think this in normal or ok.

My response would definitely have been "oh sorry, you misunderstood me. I wasn't asking you, I was telling you that you'll have to plate yours because I have my hands full right now."

I say plate up, as thats what I am doing, I'm putting the food on the plate not remotely to do with Masterchef as someone else said my family and probably their family before that plated food.

I agree with what PPs are saying about your DH OP but I did wonder why you'd start making the kids packed lunches, or whatever it was, in the middle of dishing up people's food? Wouldn't you wait until you've eaten or at least dished up?