Overheard 'D'H calling me fat!

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Overheard him on the phone to his sister talking about his diet and telling her that he really needed to make me see I should be dieting too. He generally complained that I don't look like I did in my twenties.

I do have a bmi of 26, and could make some changes - I was thinking makkng time for more exercise and not depriving myself though.

Im supportive of the changes he wants to make and wouldnt make him feel bad about putting on a bit of weight. Aibu to be annoyed and not want to speak to him? He doesn't know I heard him.

That's so mean! I could never talk like that about someone I cared about. OP you are not being unreasonable. I'd talk to him, tell him what I'd overheard and how hurt you were. 1 point over the health range - who does he think he is - the diet police? Is he obsessive about anything else?

How is it relevant that I've been busy for a few hours?

You’d be surprised how many new posters start a thread that’s a bit controversial and never check back in. It’s definitely a thing OP.

Personally I don't see anything wrong with what he did. You weren't supposed to hear. It was something he felt and he wasn't making fun of you or being deliberately insulting. He was also talking about it in context of him needing to do the same.

You are overreacting. It's ok for you not to agree with him but you don't have ownership of his thoughts.

I would never say anything to my sister about my wife's weight.

But only because my sister weighs twice what my wife does. She'd probably start a thread on here about it.

Kate he said she didnt look like she did in her twenties

You do know that H.G.Wells The Time Machine is a novel not a manual right?

Or are you expecting the OP to invent one. You cant stop ageing.

I see the MN disordered eating posse are out in force. It's so tedious.