AIBU to tell you that you don’t need to be unhappy with your body.

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I’ve just been reading another thread where lots of posters talk about how attractive they were when slimmer, as though being overweight is out of their control!

I definitely don’t want to come across as negative or patronising, but for the vast majority of people (excluding those with health needs, of course), weight is entirely within your control!

I’ve always been moderately slim, but in the last few years I’ve lost about 3 stone. At almost 40 I’m the smallest I’ve ever been! To achieve that I;

Got into yoga.
Eat less calories than I burn (monitored on fitness tracker)
Swim and weight train sometimes.
Drink less alcohol.
Will do random, ad hoc exercise through the day, squats whilst the stirring the food etc.

So many people seem sad about their weight gain on here, but it’s absolutely a choice! If you’re unhappy change it! It’s absolutely possible

Praise the lord! Thank goodness for you OP. 💗

I'm just typing this post inbetween sit ups, press ups, lunges, squats and star jumps to tell you you're an arse.

Patronising as hell!

And a gym bore to boot 🙄

Sometimes I read posts like yours and I just eye roll. People are not just one homogenous lump you know. What works well for one person doesn't for another. Look, I was a smoker for about five years. Smoking 20/30 a day. I went into hospital and couldn't smoke obviously. It didn't bother me and I had no cravings and once I was back home I didn't ever smoke again. Now I'm not stupid enough to think that just because it was easy for me, that it's easy for everyone else. I don't judge anyone and I appreciate the problems other people have giving up. Nicotine is addictive, in the same way food is for some people.
So good for you that you've lost weight and what you did worked well for you. But don't make judgements on anyone else, it's not always the simple 'choice' you seem to think it is.

Hallelujah

I have seen the light
Praise Be
....Weight rolls off...bosom becomes perkier...hazey emits a golden glow of smug toned petiteness....

On a positive note though, she's brought out a load of lovely, empathetic posters and some hilarious ones. Quite a bit of snorting laughter going on over here

I may be fat, but at least I’m not an arrogant wanker.

I just wanted to point out how easy it is once you decide it’s what you really want

Mate. I REALLY want to lose weight but it’s not EASY. I have up days where I’m “doing it” then down days where I fall in to the black hole of self sabotage and I CANT DO IT. I have depression so please don’t preach that it’s easy, because ITS NOT. So please, don’t preach at me.

UnderPompeii
I'm just typing this post inbetween sit ups, press ups, lunges, squats and star jumps to tell you you're an arse.....yes, an arse, but a very perky arse.

I understand your argument completely and to a point I agree, my dp is a qualified pt, and he has plans for me for once DC arrives to help me get back to my pre baby weight (this was my request) so he is one for "no excuses you can find the time"
Determination is a huge factor but it's not always lack of motivation that stops people, there are other mitigating factors.

I know you've said you have children, you get up early, do it between clients, while you're cooking.
But sometimes getting up early isn't possible, work effects ability to do stuff between clients (think retail workers), while cooking some people are cleaning or entertaining dcs etc.

I'm very impressed with your mindset, more power to you with your achievements, it's inspiring

Will do random, ad hoc exercise through the day, squats whilst the stirring the food etc.

Where do you work? I have visions of you in Greggs serving pasties and soup whilst squatting in the customers faces.

OP if you have lost three stone you were not moderately slim before. You have worked hard and found something that works for you. I have a friend like you in awe of her discipline, it did not stop her husband having affairs though. We all have to plough our own furrow as best we can.

I get up at 5am and go to bed at 23.00. I sometimes fit 30 mins on a cross trainer but only on days I'm not using that time to do my hair. Otherwise, I'm sure 5-23 are normal waking hours for single working mums of three.
Yoga your way round my life!

hazeyjane ah yes how could I forget. A perky arse that's so easy to achieve.

Yeah man it's that easy

Priorities. I have a toddler and another baby on the way. I'm running my department at work singlehandedly after my boss quit 3 months ago and my useless company only got round to looking for someone new this month. Need to move house before baby arrives, but no time to house hunt. I go straight from home to work to nursery pick up to home each day. Barely have time to cook healthily (although I try) and I live on toast and marmite through the day. God knows when I'd find time for the gym, haven't been since DS was born.

I need to lose a TON of weight but right now, it's so low down my to-do list that I don't have time to worry about it.

Isn't it just amazing how us humans are all different with different bodies and tolerances and metabolisms and how some of us find things hard and others find the same things easy?

I'm not overweight which is just as well because I really detest being patronized.

I think the point is you can get fit without gym membership and all that malarkey.

I can see where OP is coming from, just not addressing it in the best way...

There are people who really struggle with their weight, regardless of their diet. But there are still people who don’t/won’t bother. Yet they still wish they were slimmer, healthier, whatever. The type of people that always have something to blame their weight on (Christmas, holidays, stress, children, the list goes on).

There is an epidemic of obesity. I’ll probably get flamed for saying this, but. The recent movement in “body positivity” isn’t exactly helping when it suggests that it’s ok to be a size 26 as long you’re happy...

My weight goes up and down and when I am on a good run it is hard to see why others can't do the same. But it is easy to see what a sanctimonious twat I am when it all goes back on just as easy.

See you again in 5yrs OP when someone else is saying the same and you are back up heavier than you were.

I so wish this thread had the buttons.

Though it made me realise we need more than 2 coz we also need YABVVU.

Have you got a dvd out?

Wow you really do get the worst example of asshole on MN and no, I don't mean the OP, most of the responses are beyond idiotic. I agree with what some of the OP says. It really isn't rocket science but I get that people have issues etc. Really though, the aggression isn't necessary.

Yeah right. Up until recently I've always been active and of a healthy weight. Up until I hit 40 and had a baby. Now I'm a fat bitch. The sleep deprivation and inability to do anything of much substance with a clingy baby doesn't help. Also the fact that you loose muscle mass and your metabolism slows down as you age.
I've started couch to 5k (I could easily run 3 miles pre baby, but struggle now), go to mum and baby fitness classes and walk with the dog and baby when I can. I eat relatively well and because I'm breastfeeding rarely drink. Guess what, I'm still a fat bitch, my baby belly ain't going anywhere and it's not from lack of trying.

Really though, the sanctimonious preaching isn't necessary.