AIBU to tell you that you don’t need to be unhappy with your body.

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I’ve just been reading another thread where lots of posters talk about how attractive they were when slimmer, as though being overweight is out of their control!

I definitely don’t want to come across as negative or patronising, but for the vast majority of people (excluding those with health needs, of course), weight is entirely within your control!

I’ve always been moderately slim, but in the last few years I’ve lost about 3 stone. At almost 40 I’m the smallest I’ve ever been! To achieve that I;

Got into yoga.
Eat less calories than I burn (monitored on fitness tracker)
Swim and weight train sometimes.
Drink less alcohol.
Will do random, ad hoc exercise through the day, squats whilst the stirring the food etc.

So many people seem sad about their weight gain on here, but it’s absolutely a choice! If you’re unhappy change it! It’s absolutely possible

I've lost 4st over the past year. I would say that for 80% of the past year I've been in some form of pain or discomfort as a result (including when I've been asleep).

Muscle pain, hunger pains. A square 80% of the time, on the discomfort scale between 3 and 8. Only time off for rest periods.

I'd say that's been pretty hard to live with, and it's restricted my life quite a lot.

I doubt the OPs coming back now!

Minister is right. I was in an abusive relationship and my ex used food to control me. There was never any money to buy more. At its worst I had one tea bag (no milk or sugar), two slices of bread and about a dessert spoon of sweet corn relish per day. My weight dropped to 7st 8 and I looked skeletal. My GP when I left my ex advised me to gain at least a stone. That relationship set off a huge anxiety about food that I never had before. I'm not as bad as I was but I still stockpile so I never have to see an empty cupboard again, I can't go anywhere without knowing what I will do for food (though knowing that there are facilities or I need to take pack up is generally ok) and I can't throw food away. I'm a bit overweight now and really struggling to lose it because it's not as easy as eat less. If my kids have leftovers I will eat them rather than waste them. If there is cake in the office my brain goes back to when any opportunity for free food was vital extra rations and I can't say no.

Yeah, you’re right OP, it’s totally straightforward and there are no complicated psychological, emotional and physiological factors at play. That’s why the anti obesity campaigns have been so resoundingly successful - it’s easy once you know how 🙄🙄

I'm in my 50s and losing weight. I can't eat fat because it makes me ill, and my doctor wants me to cut carbs to deal with another issue. My diet is fucking boring.

I also have a groin issue which can lay me up in agony if I over do exercises.

I'd much rather be able to eat what I want and exercise without pain.

Just don't eat all the 🥧 peeps!

You're welcome, for this entirely complimentary public service!! 😎

But do you actually have a life?

@DrCoconut 💐 for you.

I exercise about 5 times a week but have never squatted whilst I've been making dinner or stirring a pot.... I want the OP to come back......

I think OP is trying to communicate with those who are fat and unhappy. People need to stop steering the thread off-topic.

If you're fat and happy, good for you!

Oh, ok Monday.

I'm speaking out to the insomniacs...Try going to bed and drink less coffee, you're welcome.

Your body completely changes when you have children though. Obviously not everyone’s, some people come out of pregnancy remarkably unscathed but for many, it’s an irreversible change.

I lost loads of weight after having my first three DC but I still had a bit of an apron and saggy tits. Nothing I could do about either aside from surgery which I don’t have the money nor inclination to do.

It’s not always about being overweight, it can just be about your body being completely different to when you were young and child free.

Well done you. There is no doubt that being within a recommended weight for your height & body type leaves you feeling so much better about yourself.
I've been slightly overweight in the past and just felt miserable, but taking control, using will power and lifestyle changes can make all the difference. When I'm slim and toned I feel so sexy and fantastic, plus it definitely makes you look younger and gives you more energy. I'm not sure I agree that having children changes your figure, mine didn't but maybe I was just lucky.
Keep it up :)

Well I'm fat and fabulous. My boobs are magnificent. Squat off, OP.

Why are you even responding to the OP when the OP never said anything about people who are happy being fat? The thread title is clearly for people who are unhappy being fat. Of which there are many.

You're throwing insults at someone who wasn't even talking to you!

*"Why are you even responding to the OP when the OP never said anything about people who are happy being fat? The thread title is clearly for people who are unhappy being fat. Of which there are many.

You're throwing insults at someone who wasn't even talking to you!"*

@Lifecraft of all the comments here, you choose mine to focus on?

It's a thread on a public forum, not restricted solely to those sitting at home, glumly considering their paunch while idly wondering what they could possibly do to be happier and thinner and who presumably don't also mind a fucktonne of condescension.

Also: squats are The Worst.

Lifecraft - skinny, slim, average, fat and obese people have responded to the OP.

She deserves to have her arse handed to her by all shapes and sizes!

I'm quite excited to see the OP's next thread!

OP I have never cringed so much. You're an idiot

Will the op come back? I was hoping she could bring about world peace. I'm sure we're all overthinking it too.

OMG You are a true guru!

Actually OP, I've been thinking about this very thing. Gaining weight, getting depressed about the inevitability of it all. Until I reminded myself that my weight is in my control!

The OP is a troll, and probably a man who got bored with the Daily Mail comments page so wandered over here. Pay no further attention.

I don't think the OP was a troll.

Lots of hysteria on here. A lot of self denial too.

For the majority of people, you can lose weight if you eat less and move more. There may be medical reasons why some people can't, including emotional and mental health reasons, but for most people it's a lack of will and a lot of overeating. I know this because I was overweight, and now I am not. And OP's point was that if you are not happy with something, and you can change it, change it. Which is true of course.

Don't bother giving me a biscuit, I don't eat them...

If only it was as simple as you suggest. People often tslk about balance in life. Your life really doesn't sound balanced, squating at every opportunity?? I would say you need to keep an eye on that as it seems slightly obsessive!! Causing another issue not as simple as you first make out is it??