AIBU to tell you that you don’t need to be unhappy with your body.

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I’ve just been reading another thread where lots of posters talk about how attractive they were when slimmer, as though being overweight is out of their control!

I definitely don’t want to come across as negative or patronising, but for the vast majority of people (excluding those with health needs, of course), weight is entirely within your control!

I’ve always been moderately slim, but in the last few years I’ve lost about 3 stone. At almost 40 I’m the smallest I’ve ever been! To achieve that I;

Got into yoga.
Eat less calories than I burn (monitored on fitness tracker)
Swim and weight train sometimes.
Drink less alcohol.
Will do random, ad hoc exercise through the day, squats whilst the stirring the food etc.

So many people seem sad about their weight gain on here, but it’s absolutely a choice! If you’re unhappy change it! It’s absolutely possible

Experiencing hangovers and feelings of dread after drinking? Drink less (note correct use of less).

This advice giving is a doddle!

this is nearly as patronising as the optician who told me it was easier than I thought to wear glasses!
I am not a complete idiot, and realise that you simply pick up said glasses and place on the appropriate part of your face. Sadly I can think of many many reasons why contacts suit me better (if its raining for example, or I want to do sport, etc etc)

Here, help yourself to my first ever although do make sure you're firmly in squatting position first.

You do get that some people do everything you’ve said and they are still overweight right??? Has that not actually occurred to you? I eat 1300 cake a day, swim, walk, weight train most days, barely drink and shock horror, I’m still overweight! Just less overweight than I would be if I didn’t do that.

Calories not cake!!

Life is too short to be unhappy about something that is so easy to resolve

I just wanted to point out how easy it is

Flying to the moon is easy, too - you just hop in a rocket and fly there.

Many, many things are easy in theory, but extraordinarily difficult in practice. And I say this as a slim person.

You're haven't told a soul anything they don't already know. Therein lies the inherent difficulty for many.

P.S. how can you be slim, but also able to lose three stone??

Next thing she'll be telling us the secret to happiness. Please do eff the hell off.

@ihatehashtags that typo sparked joy. Am premenstrual and 1300 cakes sounds almost enough.

I eat 1300 cake a day

I want to buy ihatehashtags book, that sounds way better than OPs

At first, I was trying to find the good in your post and think of it as a kind of Just Do It inspiration for others.
But as I read further, I thought it sounds like you have an unhealthy relationship with food/ exercise yourself.
You have always been slim but lost 3 stone? Well that sounds excessive.
You do lunges while waiting for clients and cooking. All on top of yoga, swimming, weights, bike rides etc. Also excessive.
As many PPs have said, losing weight is hard. It takes discipline, commitment, motivation, accountability, hunger - and when you have stresses and difficulties in your life, you seek comfort where possible (not just from food) not further deprivation or austerity.

I saw the title and thought, "Is the OP going to say 'Here are some tips/affirmations to help you feel more positive about your body'? Could it be?"
Not tremendously surprised to find it's "With just some will power and effort you can get skinny and not have people judging you for being a lazy fat arse who eats badly".

It's interesting how being heavy is seen as a moral failing. We look at thin people and think, "oh they are probably genetically that way". We might think about their insane workout schedule and ridiculous macrobiotic activated food, but generally we think ,"How lucky they are!" Fat people? Would be thin if they were better people.

Any do squats due to fallen fanjo, any other suggestions for whilst stirring- I know I could start a thread on mn

I always wonder where people like me fall into this. People I know call me slim but if quite like to love a stone. But I like eating what the he'll I want more.

Also, literally everyone I know who is overweight is in a perpetual cycle of dieting then regaining then dieting then regaining..

Although, like PP you really should tellvus where the smug self-confidence comes from.

This is a really interesting story about the contestants on Biggest Loser and their struggles to maintain their loss.

www.google.com/amp/s/www.nytimes.com/2016/05/02/health/biggest-loser-weight-loss.amp.html

For a lot of people being overweight is awful. Health issues aside, they are constantly judged as lazy, greedy, weak and stupid. No one would choose to live that way. If it was easy then no one would be fat.

I'm currently slim, having lost 3st since having my youngest, but have been obese before and have yo-yoed my whole life. I will have to fight to stay the weight I am and hope that I'm one of the 5% who manages to maintain it. It's hard. I hope you're one of the 5% too OP. Pride comes before a fall as they say.

I guess we could/can all lose weight but not sure if doing squats while stirring the dinner will gain any brain cells...

Well done you 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

I thought this might be a post to say you can learn to love how your body is now, how it’s amazing letting us interact with the world and how we don’t need to be ashamed of ourselves.

But no, you don’t need to be unhappy, because you can change that fat body really really easily.

I think I eye rolled so hard my eyes did a full loop.

OP when people get into their forties they tend to look haggard if they are thin

Not true, unkind, uncalled for.

Life is too short to be unhappy about something that is so easy to resolve

Oh wow its so easy! Do you realise just because you find it easy not everyone will or does? I suspect you do and this is just a goady post designed to boost your own self esteem. What is wrong with you you need to do that?

I heard something on BBC 2 yesterday about 6 out of 10 mums feeling like they can't exercise due to feeling bad about not spending that time with their DC. It resonated with me and just wondered how others felt. I feel like I don't have time to exercise, but the truth is I work ft so the time I get with my DC seems even more precious - therefore I don't go swimming, even though I love it, because the only time I get to do it is when I'd rather spend the time with 8yo ds and 2yo dd.

I have, however, just bought an exercise bike. Boring, perhaps, but means I can do it at home. And yes, before anyone says it, I know that men don't carry this kind of guilt with them.

Do those of you who exercise so much and have young children also work ft? No dig at all - I have a lot of admiration for you - it's a genuine question. I wonder how much of an impact on health and exercise having children has on women in particular.

You will feel differently when you grow up OP.

Many things will change, including your body which will do things that you are not able to control easily. You may even become less self obsessed when you are looking back on the days when you were a mere slip of a girl with a huge mirror to admire yourself in, and less shallow.

Ooooooo look at me I'm so feckin perfect I can preach to others while squatting in my kitchen.

The funniest thing about this thread is all the deluded people eating 400 calories a day whilst working out for 14 hours yet still putting on weight

I’m still breastfeeding and love cake too much.
Got a solution for me?

On a serious note, you sound a bit of a twat and think it’s so easy