CF gift giving

[PedroThePonyCowboy]

What are your friends and family like when it comes to gift giving for birthdays and Christmas? Any cheeky f**ckers who take the piss? My Sil would always ask for (without being asked she would just say I want this for my birthday and give a link) expensive makeup that costs about 40 to 50 pounds. She would then get me and dh cheap crap in return. Once it was a notebook for dh that cost about 5 pounds maximum. Dh never even uses notebooks, its still sitting in a drawer 4 years later. I put my foot down and said no more when she asked for 2 makeup products totally about 60 pounds for Christmas, I now pick the gifts for her that's similar to the crap she gets us. It just amazes me how cheeky some people are. Are they aware they are taking the piss? Do they feel entitled or something? I would never ask for an expensive specific gift even if I was asked and I would never ask for expensive gifts and buy something crap in return.

My (richer than the queen) in-laws gave me a regifted food hamper recently. It’s funny. The sell by dates were all up very soon after, so I think they’d received it from their lawyer/accountant a year or two earlier 😂

MIL is a passive aggressive bitch and we dislike each other. One year she bought me a book about interior design (I had literally just finished renovating our new house).

I’ve decided that I’m not going to even think next year. I’m going to buy the same thing each and every year. It means jack shit 😆

@TowandaForever
I bought a whole box of them from a wholesaler and it was 12 227g bags

We didn't do a wedding list and didn't want anything other than for people to join us. Certainly wouldn't have expected anyone to contribute to the wedding itself and I've never even heard of people sending out birthday and Christmas gift lists. What planet are they from?!!

My Mum always asks what I want for Christmas though. This year I suggested and received a nice quality dustpan and brush from Wilkos. I was dead chuffed.

My friend is and her husband make milllions between them. He has yearly bonuses of over a million.

Last year I bought a gorgeous joules scarf she wanted £65.00 and another present all together was £100 for her.

I received an £8.00 jumper from asda in the sale.

This year I will be scaling right back on her presents.

It is frustrating it seems the more you have the tighter you are when coming to spen it.

My MIL once gave me some chocs wrapped in tissues, they were unwrapped and she had saved them from when she stayed in hotel and they put a choc on bed. They were mottled too, due to heat!

I am sorry to say,that all these issues,re buying gifts and what you are supposedly to pay for them,is out and out ridiculous,and is a very poor reflection of people who ask for special expensive things.

Whatever has happened to people,who should just accept and thank others,for what has been given to them..

I once went to a lovely countryside wedding many years ago, and the couple had a small holding, and after me asking about a present, the friend said,, oh,,we would love two new chickens, wow,that was so lovely I thought.

My CF sister and her daughter who has morphed into a CF, asked about lovely genuine Australian Ugg boots.
I bought them a pair each, took up half my luggage space on my visit to UK. But fashion had changed in the 3 weeks since they asked, and now both liked the ones without buttons.
So I saw both pairs posted on niece's ebay account for less than I spent. I was really upset after the effort.
(then saw niece wearing a cheap GBP10 pair a few days later. The ones I bought cost about GBP120 each.)

Never bought them another gift.
They are a poisonous pair.

Oooh..

Not a gift I received or gave but...

Recently my sister was acting as my PA (a paid position not a family favour!!!) at a conference weekend at a nice hotel (not NAICE nice but you know.. not nasty, free cookies on check in nice)..

She decided that between my room and the adjoining room that my friend was staying in, she could take all the toiletries then hang out the signs saying we wanted our rooms tidied and they'd replenish the toiletries too.. and she could then swipe that lot as well...

These were to be gifts for the neighbours who had fed her pets for the weekend.

She did not tell us any of this however, and friend asked for her room not to be cleaned, I ended up going back to my room for a nap so took the 'tidy me' sign off the door, so rooms not done..

Then that evening whilst rushing to get ready to go out with both of the bathrooms occupied by us trying to shower, we realised theres no toiletries... errrrrrrr...

She had to empty them all out and give them back, and had the cheek to grump and bitch at us for using them all up.

Apparently its HORRIBLY unfair of us to want to use toiletries in rooms we've paid for, because she's too tight to buy her pet minder a bottle of wine!

"Dh never even uses notebooks, its still sitting in a drawer 4 years later." I think you have found her Christmas gift for this year!

What does CF mean please? I keep seeing this on MN.

My brother and his wife are awful. Come November they are sending out a list for their children with Argos catalogue numbers next to each item. My dad is a pensioner and was waiting for winter fuel allowance to be sorted before he bought anything one year. Three weeks before Christmas they told him that they had bought item number xxx and yyyy for the children on his behalf. They said “so you owe us £x”. My dad said “well you’ll have to take them back and get your money back because I’ve already bought and wrapped the same things for them and don’t have my receipt anymore”. He hadn’t bought anything by that stage, just wanted to teach them a lesson. I was furious when I heard this. It was the “owe” part that got me annoyed. To my mum they said “because you’re so busy (she still works full time) you can just give us the money and we will buy the presents”. Anything that’s not on the list gets put on eBay on Boxing Day with “unwanted gift” in big letters.

One of my DH's rellies gave us a bucket filled with cleaning products.

@carla1983 CF is short for cheeky fucker. 🙂

My ex sister in law used to give us very specific lists of stuff to buy her son, and nobody was allowed to buy anything not on the list. Now they have split up we buy him whatever we like. On the other hand she used to buy stuff for my kids, now my brother is in charge of cousin presents he just doesn't buy anything unless my mum sorts it out for him! 😬 🙄

Some of the people described on here sound horrible to be around! The royal family all give each other jokey gifts, as Kate M found out first Christmas when she bought expensive cashmere jumpers all round. We send lists of - wait for it - books to individual family members so we don't get duplicates, and on top of the book, there's usually a small present of some bath smellies or posh chocolate, or home-made chutney / marmalade. When DBil and DSiL got a dog, we started giving it a small gift toy / chew bone which was much appreciated by them as well as dog. Works out well for everyone, not expensive, no over-thinking and no family dramas. Any new family member is told ahead of time how it works so no stress for them either on meeting the family at a birthday type event.

Sorry, hit send by accident - was going to add, DB's new live-in girlfriend with very expensive tastes started giving very expensive lists, but luckily they were ignored as she only gifted not-so-posh chocs. CF didn't last long..

Some of these people sound awful! I would never ever give someone a list with stupidly expensive things on..and I certainly wouldn't with the intention of buying a cheap gift back!!

We always do lists on my mums side and have done since I can remember...but the whole family will only put things on like PJ's, socks, brand of smellies the like, nothing really over like £30 as for my family the dinner has always been so much more important. My gran use to say that was her gift to us all and that was by far my favorite of the day 😊 we then have what we call 'tree' presents, so just small token gifts...no one is ever ungrateful and we always have a lovely day! Cousins, aunts and uncles all agreed no gifts for us 'kids' when we turned 18 and I think that is more than fair as we all have partners and it just gets bloody stupid in what it would all add up too!!

Me and my husband buy each other any big gifts we would like, but we set a maximum budget of £300 each as it can get easily out of hand!

As for my son, it will be his first Christmas this year...everyone has been told they are not obligated to buy him anything as it's more important to me he loves the day like I do spending it with family and enjoying the best dinner of the year 😊 those that insist like our parents, so his grandparents have been told do not spend a fortune, and buy something educational and an outfit...

I don't understand where people become more obsessed with gifts and how much they can get out of people instead of enjoying the Christmas time with family and making memories...that is priceless to me and I love it.

We don't buy for friends and they don't buy for us as everyone is in the same boat where Christmas becomes soooo expensive...so why buy gifts 'for the sake of it' 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

viques tempted to do that

Lillyringlet that's awful. Some of these story's are quite shocking, lots of CF's about

@Moanger thank you.

I am awful t buying gifts. Friends and family buy me gifts. I don't know what it is. I will do anything else. Fear of buying the wrong thing, which from this thread does not help. I don't ask for things either. People give it without prompting. I did say to my sisters to not buy me things because of the reciprocal stress of the event.

as for the person who got the box, maybe that is what they could afford? Maybe they knew no matter what they would be judged.

@FloofenHoofen you could always just give a wrapped empty box.....

Great idea MulticolourMophead she would never know either!

I could ask her if she liked her present like I did last time and wait for the fake nod and smile!