Why can't I say people's names???

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This seems so weird. I've never said my mums name, never called her 'mum'.
My ex used to call me out that I never said his name in years.
Now current DP has made a comment about me never saying his.
It's something that I feel genuinely uncomfortable with - but it only seems to be people close to me, I'm fine in passing!!!

Is there something wrong with me?

My husband rarely says my name.

So much so, when he does say it, I really don't like it.
He says it about once a year.

I say his about 20 times a day 😂

I'm the same, and DH rarely used mine. We call our kids by various nick names too, to the point they've become more like their actual names.

I’m weirdly like this but only with partners - it just doesn’t feel natural so it’s always a nickname. It then feels really odd to refer to DH by his name in conversation with others.

Never had it with anyone else though (other than boyfriends). Very odd!

I do this!

Sometimes it feels really weird to say someone's name I know it's strange but I can't explain it.

Pretty much the only people I don't do it with are my kids. Maybe because I named them.

On the reverse, I am a massive over-user of people's names & I apologise to everyone on the thread.

I even do it in texts I feel weird not using some kind of name, but I'm not a hunner.

I have recently tried to use a generic 'love' a bit more. I sound like a builder.

I’m the same, so’s my partner. We both use the kids names though, and we all get ‘full named’ when we’ve done something to warrant it .

I'm the same, it always feels awkward and unnatural somehow

So, the question is - what the hell is wrong with us? 😲😬😆

A friend of mine once asked me why I never say her name. I wasn't aware of it, but now I have to make sure that I say it. I don't have a 'problem' with anyone else though. DP rarely says my name. He just starts talking or asking a question.

Oh thank christ, I thought it was just me!

I force myself do it, but it always sounds weird to me.

I'm the same. And I don't like it when my husband says my name (to me, he can say it to other people). We have a term of endearment that we use.

I do this, but strangely only with my M&D, absolutely fine with anybody else.

I notice that DH also does this to me, but absolutely fine with anybody else. Weird.

My DH is like this! It's so odd, my mum and our DS have picked up on it! He's been like it all the 15 years I've known him, he will never say my name, or anyone else's to them, obviously he will about them when talking about someone, only if he's talking about me to someone who knows me. If he needs something he'll just shout out what he wants to say, he won't call my name. He doesn't know why he does it either or even why it's weird.

If you train as a teacher, learning names quickly and using them regularly can be seen as part of good behaviour management techniques. I now find it almost a bit aggressive to use names in a more casual setting - like you are putting someone 'on the spot'. I thought it was just me who didn't use names!

And he doesn't use pet names!!

DH and I almost never call each other by our names - we have a ridiculous pet name that we always use, to the extent that it’s really really weird when I am forced to address him by his name when in front of other people. Or when he calls me by my name - only in front of other people.

I'm the same, fine with my parents and my daughter but have rarely used partners names when talking to them and the same with friends. Talking about people is fine. I have suspected for some years that I am on the spectrum, I also have trouble making eye contact but I didn't know that this could also be a sign. I am pleased that I am not the only one who avoids using people's names, I thought I was just weird!

I have no problem using other peoples names, but find it weird to use my own. In my job I have to introduce myself a lot and I still find it weird. I have no idea why!

I’m the same! I’ve found it’s worae with people I’ve been introduced to suddenly or remotely If that makes sense? So I met my boyfriend online and I didn’t really use his for about 8 months, of a friend introduces me in passing to someone then leaves, I won’t use their name

Me too! My husband gets a fright if I ever say his name. I rarely do though as it feels wrong so revert back to calling him 'oi'! Same with everyone else really. Something about saying names makes me feel twitchy.

??? EH?

I used to be like this too, It took a long time to start calling people by their names, but I do like it when people call my name and I expect it of them (hate pet names, love, Hun etc)so just thought that i should do it first for them

I'm like this too, but just with partners. I have no idea why, it just feels weird.

This is me too. I am quite shy and introverted.

I'm like this too! I have never addressed my husband by his name, in over 12 years of being together It was awkward as fuck on our wedding day when I HAD to do it! And writing his cards feels weird too He mentioned it once or twice in our early years but hasn't for years now. Our DD picked up on it though and has said a few times "Mummy you never use Daddy's name!" I want to, but at this late stage it would feel weird to suddenly start doing it

I had this internet friend who I came to know in real life and I went to stay with her for weekends and stuff and she came to my wedding. I was all set to call her 'Jennifer' which was what her Facebook name was, and how she signed off cards etc, but THEN her DH called her 'Jen' and I was like "Shiiiiit what if she prefers Jen to Jennifer?" So I just didn't use anything in case whichever one I used was wrong

I've never used my step mums name or MIL/FILs names.

It's so awkward and I hate it but I don't know how to change