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Monsters in law?

105 replies

Monsteres · 15/06/2019 17:05

AIBU to be annoyed that the PIL have decided to "pop in" uninvited!? Got a 3 month old have PND and this isn't just a cup of tea pop in they've driven 12 hours and will have to stay in the house with us, theyve brung their 3 dogs and are always rude to me when visiting (having digs about my weight, the house, our dogs, my cooking etc) and I just don't want them here! We said we'd let them know when we could make a free weekend so they could come visit but they've just decided to come up anywauly, meaning I've had to cancel all our plans for the weekend now, I'm absolutely raging! Is it just the PND or is this out of order?

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sneakypinky · 15/06/2019 17:07

I would be severely pissed off too.

TidyDancer · 15/06/2019 17:07

Why are you changing your plans for them? This just reinforces to them that their actions are acceptable. I would carry on regardless.

Aquamarine1029 · 15/06/2019 17:08

My husband would be directing them to the nearest hotel, because his life wouldn't be worth living if he didn't.

WhiteRedRose · 15/06/2019 17:09

Ask them what hotel they've booked and if they mind leaving by 6pm as you have plans with friends. Be an arse back tbh.

PurpleDaisies · 15/06/2019 17:09

Send them away. That’s ridiculous

mbosnz · 15/06/2019 17:10

Three dogs?! Um, no. Sorry, this is neither a hotel nor a kennels. You'll need to find both. Or turn around and drive home again.

LagunaBubbles · 15/06/2019 17:12

Why did you cancel your plans? Confused

FudgeBrownie2019 · 15/06/2019 17:12

Nope, stay busy and leave them alone in the house (if you dare). Your weekend doesn't have to be spent with rude people, certainly not in your own home.

Aquamarine1029 · 15/06/2019 17:12

I wouldn't allow those three dogs anywhere near my 3 month old. This could be a very dangerous situation.

chargedup77 · 15/06/2019 17:14

Can your husband tell them to leave? Does he have your back? Xx

SnuggyBuggy · 15/06/2019 17:15

No and next time don't cancel your plans, don't lift a finger to host them and keep the dogs outside or in a crate if they have one.

Nip it in the bud, better a big fall out in the short term than them making a habit of this.

Morgan12 · 15/06/2019 17:15

Does your mum live near you? Because I would honestly leave if your DH doesn't tell them to. Fuck that. Three bloody dogs!

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Monsteres · 15/06/2019 17:17

@FudgeBrownie2019 wish I could leave them in the house but MIL decides to "help" by going through all our stuff and re arranging everything 😫

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NavyBlueHue · 15/06/2019 17:17

Seriously. Tell your DH to grow a spine and tell them they’ll need to book in to a hotel.

That’s beyond rude of them. YANBU.

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Monsteres · 15/06/2019 17:19

We have 6 dogs ourselves but I trust them (as much as you do with any animal) with our DS but they've got a puppy and a terrier which can be snappy I shut there's away but they always let them out and then go "oh no woops"

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mbosnz · 15/06/2019 17:20

Well tell him that he's sorting out beds for them, sorting out where the dogs will go, entertaining them and feeding them and making it very clear to them that if they ever do this AGAIN, they WILL be told to turn straight round, and drive straight back home, without so much as a cup of tea and a sit down.

I'd be beyond furious. And not lifting a bloody finger.

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Monsteres · 15/06/2019 17:20

DH has my back he's going to have a word when they get here as he wants to talk to them in person not over the phone, he's pulled them up on their behaviour before as has his brother but it just seems to go over there heads

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kalinkafoxtrot45 · 15/06/2019 17:21

Don’t change your plans one hot. It’s incredibly rude of them to descend on you like that.

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 15/06/2019 17:21

One jot I mean!

Seeingadistance · 15/06/2019 17:22

Be out when they get there.

Sexnotgender · 15/06/2019 17:22

You’ll have 9 dogs in the house Confused that’s INSANE.

SnuggyBuggy · 15/06/2019 17:24

Also next time don't let them in.

Malyshek · 15/06/2019 17:24

You're being totally reasonable and they're being dicks. I'd turn them away.

Have your husband meet them outside. Don't let them in. If they get inside the house you won't be able to kick them out again. Also if some of the doors lock I'd definitely lock your bedroom and you son's, and put away anything fragile/private.

prawnpatrol · 15/06/2019 17:24

This is probably the worst I have heard! I would pretend we are not home.

Chloemol · 15/06/2019 17:24

Just carry on with your own plans and tell them thanks for visiting, sorrywe cant host you, gets a b&b you can stay in if you don’t want to drive home