In having a little ugly cry at ds's pre-K graduation?

[solargain]

He's going to big school in September. They just had the sweetest little ceremony with gowns, caps and gave the Mum's roses.

I burst in to tears when he gave me the rose (him growing up is very bittersweet) and one of the other Mum's said afterwards that she thought it was ridiculous that I cried!

God, some of the responses on this thread!

That sounds lovely OP. I had a little cry today because I went to meet a friend's newborn, at a cafe where our same group had been to meet DD as a newborn. And now all these toddlers were sitting in highchairs eating bananas and pointing at dogs, and I realised how much she had grown. I had to excuse myself for a minute .

Or maybe do go to Rome and get it out of your system to leave that poor child a bit of breathing space.

Fucking hell, you're a sweetheart aren't you?

Your post made me tear up yanbu

What just a graduation ceremony? Why wasn’t there a prom as well? Surely you hired him a Limo and and a Tux?

I adore my ds (and he nearly died of meningitis at 10 weeks old), but bloody hell “graduations” from pre school make me cringe!

solargain

your posts are a bit.. intense.

It's ok to chill out a bit, your child doesn't need so much pressure! For his sake, and your own, breath.

Crikey, how did we win two world wars?

Not sure we would win them today

What's an ugly cry? (Misses point of post 😂)

I honestly think some MN’ers are bullies. These responses, knowing OP’s background to motherhood, are vile.

I feel you OP. I'm not a huge crier but I was at my kid's parents evening the other day and was sat looking through his folder and where he had :progressed" was when he finished his snack and pushed his chair in the table and scrapes the last bit of his snack into the bin. Hes 20 months and I just envisioned him doing this and had to stop myself crying. I know.... I don't get it either my kid also had a really tricky time for the first 6 weeks of his life and I have these moments where he's not doing anything particularly incredible and he takes my breath away.

Come on, people can express an opinion -that they have been asked about! - without being a bully.

Honest opinion was given. Would most people tell you to your face in real life? Probably not, there's no need to be rude. Would they roll their eyes behind your back, of course they would.

The answer to the OP's question is Yes, YABU. Don't ask if you don't want to hear the answer 🤷

I actually hate the ridiculous cap and gown graduation thing for four year olds, the ceremony really doesn't translate to that age group. I wish they'd do something more age appropriate - that just seems designed to go on instagram.

That said I think the other mum was being a miserable old cow. It is emotional seeing kids move on and some people are more demonstrative than others.

Pre-K?

@MummyParanoia101 yes pre-K. Why the raised eyebrows? That's what it's called.

Which posts were intense?

I was lucky to have him and he's lucky to be here.

Where on earth did you get from any of my posts that he's 'under so much pressure'?!

I have no idea what Pre-K is? Are you not in the UK?

Pre kindergarten. No I'm in the States.

@solargain
Why is crying ugly?
I’ve had a cry this evening with my DD, beautiful girl almost didn’t get to take her home and being bullied by a ugly brat at school☹️

The Leavers’ Song used to get me every at end of year assembly every year. Even when it wasn’t one of my kids leaving.

Many happy times we’ve had and many songs we’ve sung
Go from here with confidence for all the years to come

All that brave optimistic potential. It would bring a stone to tears.

Pfft having a little cry at an event that brings home to you your child is growing up doesn’t mean you’re putting pressure on your child for goodness sake! That’s a bit of a weird reach.

I understand people finding it a bit much but the women described in the original post and other posters on here are coming across as rude I think. So in my opinion YANBU OP

I'm in the US and in my city, Pre-Kindergarten is not available to all children aged 4. Apparently, it is only available to children whose parents work for any of the US military branches, children whose first & home language is not English and to children whose parents are in receipt of specific benefits. Because I didn't meet any of those requirements, my youngest child (the other two went to school in England) did not go to Pre-K.

However, my sister's daughter did back in 1993 and my sister was a mess. I attended the Pre-K "graduation" of my granddaughter three years ago and all the other parents were ugly crying too. My English husband was completely confused as to why there was even a "graduation" in the first place so I could only imagine what was going through his head. Personally, I don't understand it either but who am I to minimize what others are feeling? The OP put it into perspective just how much she had gone through to get to that point with her child and that it's one step to a journey where they're learning and becoming more independent from us.

My youngest child graduated from high school last week so that particular journey ended and a new one is beginning. What did my husband do? Yep, he ugly cried throughout the entire ceremony and sobbed heartily when her name was called. There were 750 students. You could only imagine how many tissues he went through. Next, it's her moving away 1500 miles to university and another journey begins.

Congratulations OP on your (not so) little one's first steps to big school!

DD is doing this in a few weeks. Its Greatest Showman themed and they are clearly going to sing "a million dreams" as my lil girl has been practising to Alexa. The practise made me tear up so the actual event......I will be blubbing.

Not at all pathetic op.

Aw thank you! I'm glad I'm not just a massive melt.

Ds's songs were no way near as sweet as all of yours, they recited bear hunt () and sang 5 little ducks!

As he'd been in the same class with the same teacher for four years (and has known her since he was a baby) and she's moving away I think it was especially emotionally charged.

The director was crying, dh and his parents and sister all had a little tear too.

I actually love the American's openness with feelings. Where I live isn't all California though, they're probably the most British, stoic and stiff upper lip of all the States.

I'm finally coming to terms with not having a much wanted second baby and have been trying to sort out his old baby clothes and that's not helped at all this week! I should have left it a few weeks and had a stiff gin first.

I actually didn't get very far, I got half way through the newborn stuff and stuffed it all back in the cupboard.

Lol yeah that is a bit sad. How did you cope when he had his first tantrum op?

I am not British and I still find the sobbing a tad much