Sister annoyed as new DD name too similar to her DD

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DN is 5. I barely see Dsis and DN as we live quite far away (think 4 hour drive), so we only really see each other at christmases, weddings and finerals. DN is named Isabella.

Our DD (2 months) is called Arabella. I was aware that it is quite similar but nobody owns a name, it isn't even the same name anyway, and we barely see each other.
When we announced name Dsis was quite upset, we 'stole her child's name' etc.

It has now been almost 3 months and Dsis is still not talking to me, she's got DM on her side, DM keeps telling me how much I've upset my sister, and couldn't I have picked a different name blah blah.

AIBU to say I can call DD what I like, it isn't even the same name, and she can get a grip?

How dare you use the same 26 letters to choose your child's name!

My husband is called Edward and his brother is called Edmund.

So if they can get away with that I think you're fine.

Clutteebug that's sheer lunacy!! Reminds me of The Office USA where Andy says he was called Walter till his younger brother was born and his parents thought the new baby suited it better!

She sounds very entitled and spoiled! She is being completely ridiculous. Perhaps she wants to nickname her daughter Bella and thinks you'll do the same. Like you say, though, nobody owns a name!
Arabella is beautiful, btw, congrats!

Yep. They have some very odd idea's.

Much Ado About Nothing.

Or maybe, As You Like It...

They are not the same name at all. Totally different root names with Bella at the end.

YANBU unless your motive was to piss her off.

Or, from another of Shakespeare's plays:
"What's in a name? That which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet."

I have a Luke and if my darling sister had a Luca or Lucas I would shrug it off and think "bit weird" but imitation is the greatest form of flattery.

I have a Luke and if my sister called her child Luca or Lucas I would think "bit weird" but imitation is the greatest form of flattery.

I honestly don't get the drama tbh.
I have exactly the same name as one of my cousins (same first and surname) although we both use married names now. But within family we are still 'called' by our original names - we joke about it - I always say I'm the original!! We were both named after our fathers' mother - so she had exactly the same name as well.
I liked it - it felt like we belonged to a family.

Beautiful name OP, your DM and DSis need to get a grip.

Or, rather obviously, from another of Shakespeare's plays:
"What's in a name? That which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet."

Honestly I'd take it as a blessing that she's not speaking to you. My sister also stopped talking to me recently without so much as an argument or any well known reason why. She's obviously spoken to my mum who says she isn't getting involved but keeps hissing at me to speak to her and apologise for whatever it is I have apparently done wrong (still have no clue and mum reckons she doesn't know either but still thinks it's down to me to make the first move).
Could not give two hoots. Typical of my family to pick a fight when big events happen (funerals/babies/weddings/engagements etc).
This time I didn't bite and simply repeat "I'm not pushing her into talking to me/an argument when she's an adult who will decide if and when she wants to speak to me herself"
The reality being if she did decide to speak to me I wouldn't bother. Sometimes you realise that family or not, it isn't worth the constant drama.

Or, from another of Shakespeare's plays:
"What's in a name? That which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet."

Honestly I'd take it as a blessing that she's not speaking to you. My sister also stopped talking to me recently without so much as an argument or any well known reason why. She's obviously spoken to my mum who says she isn't getting involved but keeps hissing at me to speak to her and apologise for whatever it is I have apparently done wrong (still have no clue and mum reckons she doesn't know either but still thinks it's down to me to make the first move).
Could not give two hoots. Typical of my family to pick a fight when big events happen (funerals/babies/weddings/engagements etc).
This time I didn't bite and simply repeat "I'm not pushing her into talking to me/an argument when she's an adult who will decide if and when she wants to speak to me herself"
The reality being if she did decide to speak to me I wouldn't bother. Sometimes you realise that family or not, it isn't worth the constant drama. I can barely deal with my mother let alone my sister. I would quite happily cut them all out but if I'm honest I'd miss my dad a fair bit. I don't speak to any family except Mum and Dad and occasionally a second sister. Keeping them at a distance is much better for my own mental health. Sod everyone else.

I honestly don't get the drama tbh.
I have exactly the same name as one of my cousins (same first and surname) although we both use married names now. But within family we are still 'called' by our original names - we joke about it - I always say I'm the original!! We were both named after our fathers' mother - so she had exactly the same name as well.
I liked it - it felt like we belonged to a family.

Can see why she would be a bit miffed but sounds like she is taking it too far

So weird she’s reacted like that to a completely different name. Especially as she’s chosen such a popular name for her DD - she’ll have children with the same name around her all through nursery and school.

I’m guessing she has form for this kind of overreaction and your mother is usually supports her for a quiet life?

My husband is called Edward and his brother is called Edmund.

Parents medieval historians?

It’s a totally different name

I have cousins that are Lara and Zara. Their mothers are sisters. No one cares because they’re different names.

Some people are WAAAAY too precious when it comes to names...

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Love the name Arabella - so ethereal!

I feel a children's book coming on ...... 'The adventures of Ethereal Arabella.' With a pic like this.