Sister annoyed as new DD name too similar to her DD

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DN is 5. I barely see Dsis and DN as we live quite far away (think 4 hour drive), so we only really see each other at christmases, weddings and finerals. DN is named Isabella.

Our DD (2 months) is called Arabella. I was aware that it is quite similar but nobody owns a name, it isn't even the same name anyway, and we barely see each other.
When we announced name Dsis was quite upset, we 'stole her child's name' etc.

It has now been almost 3 months and Dsis is still not talking to me, she's got DM on her side, DM keeps telling me how much I've upset my sister, and couldn't I have picked a different name blah blah.

AIBU to say I can call DD what I like, it isn't even the same name, and she can get a grip?

Ari

YANBU. She is. Took me ages to realise we'd given the cat an almost identical name to one of my brothers and one of my nephews!

I think that your sister is quite frankly being absolutely ridiculous. It is a different name .
And to sulk is pathetically childish .
No one owns a name .

I am from a large Irish Catholic family and the majority of my small home town are the same .
There was an expectation/ unwritten rule ( my mum was the first in her generation to break it with me ) .. that your children were called after the grandparents .
My mum is one of 8 ... every single one of her siblings called 1 daughter Margaret after the grandmother!!
I am not called Margaret as mum breached the tradition 😂 I have 7 maternal cousins all called Margaret 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️
My brothers were not so lucky ... there are 8 Patrick across the cousin range including my brother ... other brother is 1 of 5 Anthony’s ( ( 3 of my aunts didn’t have enough boys after their Patrick and so we went short on the Tonys 🤣🤣🤣)
Whole naming rules were nuts in my opinion but it’s what they did then ....

How would your sister feel about that ...

It’s fun at gatherings etc 🙄🙄
Hey Paddy ... cue a chorus .. who me ??

If the two names were similar there'd be a discussion to be had about whether you should've done it. They aren't, so dsis is being an idiot.

Yanbu.

Nobody owns a name and they aren’t the same name anyhow.
Your sister needs to grow up.

I’m ttc right now and because my sibling used a name that I love and they hated (whole other story) I’ve already been warned off using said name even though I see sibling once a year if I can help it.

Sounds fine to me. They're not even remotely the same name.

I always feel sorry for the kids whose mothers have meltdowns over "you've ruined my child's precious unique name!" . Always smacks of seeing your child as a designer handbag or something. Your child is unique so who gives a stuff whether their name is?

Confession: I completely accidentally gave my DD the feminine version of a close friend's son's name. We're very close and I see far more of their family than my siblings, let alone cousins. My friend and I hadn't even realised until her son was overwhelmed with joy because he thought I'd name the baby in honour of him.

Love Ari as a NN! Although Bella is lovely there are so many. Ari is cute but can sound more grown up too

I only know male Aris, (short for Aaron or Aristotle) which is why Ari doesn't feel right to me as an abbreviation for Arabella!

I have only just realised that DH’s cousin has just given their new baby a very similar name to DS2. It didn’t occur to me to be offended. I just thought it was a lovely name (which it is).

I’d choose Ari for NN.

Totally different names! I can’t bear people exerting ownership over names anyway, but now people are claiming rights over all similar names too?! It’s absurd.

I was pretty much going to say the same as this 😩^^

If that was my sister I'd think she was a psycho and she needed help! What's ever wrong with people 🤷🏻‍♀️

I would be annoyed, too. The names are so similar - embarrassing for your parents to say they have two granddaughters both with the same name.

Are you high? How are they the same names? 😂

My daughter was named after her nan. She has an aunt and 5 1st cousins and 21 second cousins all with the same name. My son was named after his father. He has 3 1st cousins and well over 40 2nd cousins with the same name. In some cultures it's tradition to name the babies after relatives.

I don't think YABU at all. Different name, they aren't in your pocket so no confusion. Even if you both use NN Bella i don't see a problem. We have a DS and DSIL gave her DD a very similar name ( think Charles/Charlie) but no problem.

In some cultures it's tradition to name the babies after relatives

That’s obviously not the case in the OP’s family though or she’d have mentioned it.

its getting a bit ridiculous i think. now people don’t only own names but also all names with a partial overlap (in this case everything that ends in -bella), in another case every name with the same first letter...

They are different names BUT they are abit too similar for me to have ever considered it tbh. Sorry op... You sister is overreacting abit though to not be speaking to you.