To ask why you didn't/don't want children?

[alfie22]

I'm in no way judging anybody who have decided not to have DCs.

But I am genuinely intrigued for the reasons why after reading a thread about somebody's DD not wanting children.

What are your reasons for not having children? Would there any be "what ifs" further down the line?

I imagine many parents have seen this thread but very few have decided to post on it constantly over several days while insisting they're not actually that interested or bothered by the discussion. I don't doubt that many people would hide the topic but I very much doubt you'd be one of them.

I’ve stayed because I’ve been attacked for something very innocuous people usually do to defend themselves

I have no desire to do that again and regret posting in the first place

I’ve stayed because I’ve been attacked

Where have you been attacked?

Oh god really
I can’t be bothered to say

I can assure you I will not go near ‘child free’ topic has not been fun

I can assure you I will not go near ‘child free’ topic has not been fun

Oh dear, that's the toys out of the pram

Eh no

I just thought it’d be interesting, as I said, I’m completely the opposite with my experience

But it was just kind of painful so I
know - a mistake!

Oh god really
I can’t be bothered to say

I'm genuinely curious about where you feel you have been attacked. If you choose not to say how then that's on you. However, I can't see what has been said that has warranted you posting for several days, on a topic you don't care about, just to defend yourself.

Because people keep addressing me

And I was interested but then got embroiled, felt I should clear it up. So tried

Anyway I’m still posting because I’m explaining myself then someone will come in with a sarcastic comment (like below) which is fairly irritating

But I’m going to watch Chernobyl which is excellent

Given that MNHQ are trying to reduce the number of topics at the moment, I doubt they'd be receptive to new topic suggestions.

Because people keep addressing me

They're replying to your comments, which is surely the point of a thread? They wouldn't respond be able to respond if you were to stop posting. However, this still doesn't address why you think you've been attacked.

Given that MNHQ are trying to reduce the number of topics at the moment, I doubt they'd be receptive to new topic suggestions.

Fair point. Shame though.
The idea's starting to look even more attractive.

And I've got children!

Because people keep addressing me

You called a poster who didn't address you directly 'wound up' and 'odd' (in an attempt to create less division??) And then another parent with an older child (who also didn't address you) posted that this thread has put them off having more children and again, you responded to them and questioned their stance. Those are two examples off the top of my head and I'm sure there's more.

Surprised you’re counting so closely but

The wound up one was a parent so no division

The second I was interested and did you see my response I was very polite and said it made sense - go back and read it.

And I've got children!

This is a discussion forum it’s not ‘questioning someone’s stance’ to ask a question on why they feel a certain way out of interest. If it’s private fine but the poster talked about how they felt and seemed ok to do so.

I’m amazed that that’s the crime anyway

If I responded to a post asking questions of a doctor with "I've been in hospital so my opinion is...", I'd expect to be attacked because I'd be completely brainless. I cant see any difference between that and what you've done for days in this thread.

You must really think I have bad intentions

Some of the strongest emotions I’ve felt are to do with trying to have dc, not all easy, so the interest came from the difference, in not facing those emotions. It was never from an ill-intentioned place. Sometimes (although very rarely for me) you get caught trying to clear things up

Ok fine I made a mistake
I shouldn’t have read stuff that was making me feel that it sounded different, not commented.

A PP said: However, I can't see what has been said that has warranted you posting for several days, on a topic you don't care about, just to defend yourself.

And you replied: Because people keep addressing me

I was just pointing out that this isn't the case. You haven't simply been 'defending yourself'. You're also now saying that you'd welcome a childfree section so you could hide it and never have to see any related discussions. As if you haven't willingly posted on this thread several times over a few days instead of just hiding it.

Yes the sarcastic comments provoked me into replying I admit

@MarshaBradyo earlier in the thread you have said some really interesting things. However, you have now kind of hung around here on this thread for a long time telling us all how pointless this thread is and how you've been attacked. Yes, some other posters have been defensive. Mostly due to them being really, really pissed off with the boring and repetitive comments from other posters such as questioning why childfree people deign to pollute the site.

I’m trying not to hang around!

I feel better for posting the last few posts - I don’t use mn like this puts me in a bad mood.

But I know I’m posting loads right now - to say ok I get it I shouldn’t have said it. I take it back.