Friend giving me a lift aibu?

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I can drive but at the moment I haven't got a car.
My friend passed her test 7 months ago and started inviting me for tea and she was very enthusiastic about driving.
3 times we've gone to a friends house (she's drove,20 mins each way ) I've have her £10 petrol money each time.
Last week she invited me for tea,she drove to mine.
I said leave the car and we will walk into town and she said no I don't mind driving.
Sunday we are going away for the weekend and she wanted to stay at mine the night before ,then drive us to train station next day,so she didn't have to rush over the morning or going away.
I said of course but my boyfriend will be here but the spare room will be made up with new sheets etc.
She said no I won't stay if your boyfriend is here,tell him not to come over or you will have to get to the coach station on your own (45 min drive )
I said I didn't want to do that.
Then she started throwing in my face the fact she's drove us places lately.
Just because I don't have a car doesn't mean I don't do her favours.
I will go to town for her if she needs things,I walked to kfc to get her food.
I've lent her over £300 8 months ago and she hasn't paid a penny.
Got her a new outfit for her birthday night out.
Here she is having the cheek to say to me "I'm not a taxi"
I never think she is,she takes me somewhere once in a blue moon and always for tea or friends (where she's going )
Aibu here ?

Why are you going away “for the weekend” on Sunday?

Was she expecting to sleep in your bed if your boyfriend had not been there? (since you said “he’ll be here but I’ll make up the spare room”.)

Who buys new outfits for their friends?

All sounds very bizarre.

Sorry everyone I fell asleep last night.
We are going to London
Everything is paid for including transport /hotels etc
When I said " I didn't want to do that "
I didn't mean get to station alone,I meant tell oh not to come over.
I go lots of places alone so that is water off a ducks back for me.
My Uber to the station is showing between £18-£22 so I'm just going to do that.
I won't ever accept a lift again now.
Last week she suggested going to this pub for tea.
I said ok il meet you there (only 7-8 mins bus)
She insisted on picking me up and I gave her £8 petrol that day.
She didn't pay for her tea the other night after I walked in pouring rain for it.

@BuzzShitbagBobbly no she normally goes in my room as it's the double and I jump in the spare single room

@GraceSlicksRabbit we are going to see John barrowman and making a couple of days of it.
Looking at the sights.
I bought her a outfit as she had no money and wanted to go out so I just said I would.

no she normally goes in my room as it's the double and I jump in the spare single room

Jesus christ she has taken you for a right mug. You're basically paying her to be your mate.

Tell her you want your £300 back! Seriously!

When I said " I didn't want to do that "
I didn't mean get to station alone,I meant tell oh not to come over.

Ok, that isn’t how I read that. So...there’s no problem then-you each get to the coach station separately?

no she normally goes in my room as it's the double and I jump in the spare single room

Why?! Why does she get the double and you get the single-in your own house! I wouldn’t give up my bed for anyone, barring maybe elderly parents!

Stop buying her clothes, stop giving her money and stop accepting lifts. You have a very odd dynamic with your friend.

Why does she get to sleep in your bed? How have u left things with her?

Why does she get your bed if she stays over if you have a perfectly good spare bed?

I lot of this sounds as if she only agrees to things on her terms.

I think you are right to be independent about your travel. It's fair to offer to pay towards the cost of lifts but only if you have both agreed to travel that way. You can't force other people to accept lifts and then charge them/

OP, you're too nice. The reason she won't stay is she won't get the double this time. I'd be laying a few boundaries with this friend, she's a full on CF

You do have other friends op? You know this isn’t how people are supposed to treat you right?
She is taking you for a ride and you are letting her big style.
If this was my only option as a friend I’d rather have none

So you’re going away for the week, not the weekend . £8 petrol for the equivalent of a 7 min bus ride? Giving up your double bed to sleep in the spare single? Is she massively obese (caused by eating KFC and driving everywhere!) and can’t fit in a single? Has this woman hit some huge dirt on you or something OP? You are a total mug.

I'd see less of her or just stick to going to local places where you don't need to drive

I’m sorry but you’re being taken for a mug-stand up for yourself. Stop buying her shit and get your money back. And make her go in your spare room ffs!

You are going away together so I wouldn’t say anything at the moment. In your shoes I would say that your BF is coming over as you are going away, that he will be staying and if she doesn’t want to stay you can meet her at the station, be breezy and positive.

After your trip away challenge her about a repayment plan for the loan. Next time she stays say you want your own bed and she is in the guest room.

Fucking hell, she honestly sounds horrible! I'd be getting my £300 back and then withdrawing from the friendship.

What did you lend her £300 for?

So she sponges off you and she’s telling your boyfriend and you what you can and cannot do. Dump her or you’ll end up as her slave!

And forget the £300, it will be cheaper in the long run.

Bloody hell OP stop throwing money at her!

no she normally goes in my room as it's the double and I jump in the spare single room

OP there is another thread running at the moment where the OP’s dp has offered some random friends the OP’s own bedroom when they come to stay rather than the perfectly nice spare room. It is a unanimous thread (rare, as we know) saying wtf?! Why on earth would you offer your own bedroom to visitors? That is what the spare bedroom is for!!

Seriously I would play really nice and get your money back then kick this cow into touch. You are like a frog in a boiling pan of water - she has slowly edged you into the position where she is totally taking advantage of you. What a manipulative and ghastly person - just take, take, take.

In the nicest possible way OP, wake up!!

Wow - she saw you coming.
Step away from the CF!

What exactly is she bringing to this friendship?

Yeah I would be messaging saying that you're needing the money back.

Absolutely taking the piss out if you. Extreme costs for petrol money, dinners, outfits and then bloody sleeps in your bed and you lie in the spare room. You're off your head to be putting up with this.

Good luck in getting it sorted

she normally goes in my room as it's the double and I jump in the spare single room....I bought her a outfit as she had no money and wanted to go out
You're a cheeky fuckers dream!
She already owes you £300, she should have used her drinking money to start paying you back - instead you buy her an outfit!

Regards the lifts etc, she sounds like one of those cf's who 'insist' on picking you up/driving because they want the convenience of driving - and they know you'll feel obligated to pay towards their petrol.
I used to have a 'friend' like that years ago.

She's so entitled with her demands and sly, devious behaviour and i can't believe you've been letting her get away with it.
I'm glad you stood up to her this time.
Next stop - she sleeps in the spare room or goes home.
Don't let her talk you into accepting any future lifts that you could do without - you'll be her eternal cash cow.