Dentist in tesco tackled me

[Spiceb]

Shopping with 3 year old yesterday. Stopped by the raisins. Old woman came up to me and said "excuse me but please don't buy them. They are terribly bad for teeth" I must have looked incredulous because her husband stepped in to say she was a dentist

Aibu to think go away and let me shop in peace? I'm a sensible grown adult who can make choices

oh please - I can't believe it's a real moral issue whether or not to tell someone not to eat raisins. Really???

First world problems and all that.

@RiversDisguise

Why so determined not to see that the OP is ageist?

@GeorgeTheBleeder has it absolutely right:

That is not what ‘old woman’ usually/often means on MN

And in this case it was obvious that the use of the word 'old' was to convey the usual MN stuff about the woman being interfering and nosey, etc. The age of the woman was nothing to do with the post.

The follow-up post from another poster about her 'elderly swimming instructor' confirms it. The age of this woman was also nothing to do with the anecdote.

OK, as a young person with huge dental problems, I wish she had done this to my mother. It's not funny when you're still young and you get told you need dentures… Or you can't afford very expensive dental treatment…

Yes, there are worse things for you, but if I could go back and have healthy teeth… I would gladly do it.

@Hellokittymania

Presumably your terrible teeth issues for which you blame your mother were due to general dental neglect eg not brushing your teeth properly, fizzy drinks, excessive sugar and... raisins?

My dentist told me raisons are worse for teeth than haribo !! However this was in an appointment.

I mean...she’s not wrong but it is a little weird she felt the need to tell another person what they can and can’t do. My dentist warned me that most dried fruit is worse than a bar of chocolate because of how sticky it is on teeth. But that was at a dental appointment with my children not walking round the supermarket.

There's a difference between a logo issue and a health one.

As the woman had no idea how the raisins were going to be used and by whom, it was none of her business. Old or young.

If the child was seen having them as a snack, then it would be fine to warn that the OP should be careful about them.

As it was, she was very unreasonable to tell the OP not to buy them at all.

the number one reason for child being admitted into hospital in the UK is tooth extraction not falls not car accidents not infections but preventable tooth damage I have retired as a dentist tooth damage is not caused by 4 chocolate buttons or 3 Haribo on a Sunday afternoon or a glass of squash with dinner or a glass of lemonade at a birthday party but it could easily be caused by a mini box of raisins per day or a whole pack of haribo per day or a 500ml of fizzy pop /juice smoothies milkshakes daily etc
I still would not tell you in the supermarket but I have seen parents hide sweets under cereal boxes when they see me in supermarket or explain at great length it is not for Susie but 8 cousins coming tomorrow

I'm incredibly petty so even though I know she is right and they are awful for teeth I would have opened a box and given them to the child in front of her, this is how awful of a human I am but I can not abide unsolicited advice, has she nothing better to do than Raisin Patrol

In all seriousness I actually don't buy raisins at all any more after a dentist told me how bad they were (a dentist I paid, not just a random one)

How ridiculous. My kids ate their body weight in raisins. They had sweets too.All teens now none of them have a single filling- they brush their teeth night and day without fail.

Surely a dentist would realise that good cleaning is actually the key thing in preventing tooth decay. Our dentist doesn't ban anything other than continual fizzy drinks. She's fanatical about brushing though.

Am I being dark 31 and this is why you shouldn't presume things.

I imagined a much more physical encounter. Ooops...

I love raisins btw. Especially in tea.

, oh the joys. Ta for the advice, last time I checked I'm the parent. Byeeee. People love to give advice wether it's asked for or not. I just laugh and smile now. No point annoying yourself about something so minor. Pour a glass and have some cake.. but brush your teeth 😂😜.

Teacup, exactly.

Am I the only one that expected the OP to have been actually tackled by a dentist? Very rugby in the supermarket?

The OP may have been planning on making raising cookies....

I personally put raisins in my breakfast. Idk... Is that really worse than putting haribos in yoghurt? Interesting... I guess I'll have to Google that one. (I am however assuming that everyone brushes their teeth after breakfast.)

I’m going to go against the grain and say she was just trying to help you and your little one, plus the nhs in the long run ..

"I would start shrieking that I had been attacked by a grapist."

** made me chuckle

It is odd that no-one goes up to smokers to tell them it's harmful

I have gone up to young teenage smokers (with some success).

But I wouldn't raise the topic of this thread in a supermarket!

She's right. I'm sure her intentions were honourable.

The thing is with advice, you can listen and not take it. The reason you are cross is because you have a guilty conscience me thinks.

It's not the raisons that are bad in themselves. It's eating them on their own in between meals where they get stuck and sit on and in between teeth and the sugar will erode teeth.

I would have laughed, put raisins in the trolley and said "Haribo next!"

Theres such a thing called minding your own business. However well meaning she might have been, she should keep it to the confines of her dental surgery.

Ageism though...!