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Original poster

To wonder why people have to post on Fb when they are on holiday?

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Lovemusic33 · 05/06/2019 15:51

I mean FFS enjoy your holiday and step away from your phone / social media.

So, a relative is on holiday, somewhere really expensive, hot, all inclusive (yes I’m jealous), they go on holiday quite a lot. I have had to look at every meal they have eaten, every trip they have been on, every cocktail they have had and photos of every waiter that has served them. I mean, surely if your on holiday you should be having fun and not sat on your phone taking photos of every morsel of food you eat??

And before anyone suggests I hide their profile, I just have 😁, I’m just miffed at why someone would be on Fb all day whilst on holiday?

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CassianAndor · 05/06/2019 15:54

well, as you can unfollow I don't get why you're miffed - but they just sound like they need validation for every single thing they do, which is just boring.

Ohyesiam · 05/06/2019 15:56

I think it so that burglars know they’re away. It’s very generous really.

FannyFeatures · 05/06/2019 15:57

Same reason people "check in" everywhere they go, tag themselves at parties and post about their every movement and/or #memories they create with their child.

They want everyone to know how interesting and exciting their lives are... Instead they look like dullards who are
usually painting a false idealistic picture of what their lives are.

I know a few people who post constant updates and photos on their social media throughout the day and I pity their children, the only memories they will have are of that parent coaching them to get a great smile/angle/filter through a phone instead of actually enjoying their time together.

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Lovemusic33 · 05/06/2019 15:58

Exactly Ohyesiam it’s a pretty stupid thing to do in that respect.

I can understand posting the occasional photo but this is constant all day, photos from each meal time, a run down on the weather/temperature and their plans for the day.

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Fairylea · 05/06/2019 15:58

I share a lot of pics on Facebook. Basically I use it to store my photos so if I lost my phone I’d have them somewhere - and if one of my friends wants to comment on something or like something that’s nice too. I like the “on this day” feature as well - I like to check everyday to see different memories pop up.

Mumsnet seems to hate Facebook but I really enjoy it. If you don’t like something it’s easy to just scroll past or hide it. I only have about 50 people on mine though, I only add people if I would actually stop and speak to them if I passed them on the street!

Pgqio · 05/06/2019 15:58

Some people are just like that. I don't have fb but dc do. Occasionally they'll remark on some nonsense a friend of mine has posted or the ridiculous amount of check ins they make, it always amazes me how different a fb persona can be from rl. I'm pretty glad I'm not on it because I think it would impact on some friendships.

adaline · 05/06/2019 15:59

Why do you care how other people spend their holidays?

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 05/06/2019 15:59

Pictures of the plane, the sea, the sunset, their outfit... If they were climbing Everest or exploring Antarctica it might be interesting but otherwise...

lunicorn · 05/06/2019 15:59

I think your jealousy is getting the better of you and they are a little insensitive and maybe not that good at assessing what people want to know about them

It's a hard new age to navigate. Traditionally we have been a more self effacing society, not really the type of people who show off what they have. But social media has made us narcissistic..I don't know what the answer is. Maybe just focus on ourselves and be mindful about what we post, but live and let live
Personally, I never tire of other people's photos, but I'm nosey like that

Fairylea · 05/06/2019 16:00

(When I say I share a lot I mean maybe once twice a week I will share a handful of pics.. I’m not posting what I’m having for dinner or the kids eating etc)!

ethelfleda · 05/06/2019 16:00

How dull.

mimibunz · 05/06/2019 16:01

I post on holidays. I’ve never thought “Ooh I want to make jealous people jealous!” But I have thought “This building is gorgeous. I bet Ann would love to see it.”

Campurp · 05/06/2019 16:01

I think it's the 'social' element of social media... the idea is to share things with your friends/family/acquaintances.
If you don't care just block them and go about your life I guess

glitterbiscuits · 05/06/2019 16:01

I like it. I like to see places I may never have been to, I'm glad my friends are happy

And if I post where I am it's a great record for me to look back on.

donajimena · 05/06/2019 16:01

I really enjoy seeing them. They brighten up many a dull day. I post them too but I try and put some nice scenery in rather than my lunch.

drinkygin · 05/06/2019 16:02

Op ou sound really jealous and miserable. I love seeing people’s photos of beautiful and exotic destinations.

icannotremember · 05/06/2019 16:02

They're doing it as a favour to you so you have something to feel all superior about rather than just being jealous of their holiday Smile

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Lovemusic33 · 05/06/2019 16:03

why do you care how other people spend their holidays? that’s my point exactly, I don’t care, I’m sure most people don’t care so why keep posting? No one has commented on any of their posts.

I already said I was slightly jealous though it’s not the sort of holiday I would chose (Not int sitting by a pool and eating until I feel sick) 🤣

I’m pretty happy with my life but don’t feel the need to share all the details on Fb.

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Paddington68 · 05/06/2019 16:04

Got to keep the fans happy.

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Lovemusic33 · 05/06/2019 16:05

drink there are no photos of the destination 🤣 it’s just photos of what they are eating and drinking and photos of the hotel staff. I like seeing photos of destinations. A friend recently went to Japan and the photos were amazing and interesting to see.

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mooncuplanding · 05/06/2019 16:06

What a miserable bunch you (mostly) are!

I love seeing places people go, places I might want to go to and just generally people having a nice time away from the drudgery of every day

Bitterness and envy is an ugly thing.

Don't look if you can't handle it with your very fragile egos

The80sweregreat · 05/06/2019 16:07

I either comment ( if it's people I like/ care about) or just scroll on by.
I know it's hard to do but it's what people do on social media. Best ignore or block if it's too much as you have done.

Schnitzelvonkrumb · 05/06/2019 16:07

I often wonder when someone checks in/updates their status multiple times a day or evening/takes 48 pics each time what their companion or family think or whether their conversation is really dull. I'd feel a bit offended if me and DH went out for a very rare, probably twice a year date night and he started snapping loads of pics of the food, decor, surrounding area etc and uploading to fb!!

MummyStruggles · 05/06/2019 16:07

They want everyone to know how interesting and exciting their lives are... Instead they look like dullards who are usually painting a false idealistic picture of what their lives are.

This ^

My sister is a perfect example. It's sad.

Over the last 6 months, I've come off all social media and it's liberating!

Pipandmum · 05/06/2019 16:07

I have maybe two dozen Facebook friends, people who know I’m on holiday and are actually interested in where I am. I don’t post daily but I do share if it’s something striking, amusing or a lovely view. I don’t think it’s showing off. It’s like a virtual post card!