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To wonder why people have to post on Fb when they are on holiday?

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Lovemusic33 · 05/06/2019 15:51

I mean FFS enjoy your holiday and step away from your phone / social media.

So, a relative is on holiday, somewhere really expensive, hot, all inclusive (yes I’m jealous), they go on holiday quite a lot. I have had to look at every meal they have eaten, every trip they have been on, every cocktail they have had and photos of every waiter that has served them. I mean, surely if your on holiday you should be having fun and not sat on your phone taking photos of every morsel of food you eat??

And before anyone suggests I hide their profile, I just have 😁, I’m just miffed at why someone would be on Fb all day whilst on holiday?

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ReanimatedSGB · 05/06/2019 16:21

I'm more likely to post a few pics when I get home, though now I have more advanced tech than I used to, I sometimes add a pic or two the day I take them. But it's nearly always things like a lovely view or interesting building. Or maybe a really spectacular dinner. I see it as the equivalent of postcards, really.

gamerchick · 05/06/2019 16:22

It always makes me cringe when people countdown to holidays, post saying they're at the airport and then while they're away. It's just a big klaxon to getting your house knocked off imo Confused

FannyFeatures · 05/06/2019 16:23

Seems that it's not a myth after all,Guidance on social media and home insurance.

All of my FB friends are people I know well and talk to in real life so it's not that I wouldn't hear about these things otherwise, I just don't get the need to tell everyone, everything and quite often i'd rather enjoy the moment without a screen in my way.

Not a holiday but I took my daughter to a show recently, expensive tickets as they were a birthday gift and we had to ask the woman in front of us to put her phone down as my daughter was basically watching through her screen because it was being held in her line of vision. Between that, the constant selfie taking and the filtering/captioning and posting I don't think she or her DC saw much of it!

Cheeseandwin5 · 05/06/2019 16:24

And before anyone suggests I hide their profile, I just have 😁, I’m just miffed at why someone would be on Fb all day whilst on holiday?

As opposed to why someone would be on FB all day whilst they should be working you mean??

You sound insane.
Your relatively is on holiday and want to share what they are up. Instead of being happy at their good fortune you seem ooze vile and jealousy. If you dont like it , then just dont look/unfollow.

The80sweregreat · 05/06/2019 16:26

This is it : people only give the good bits of their life online.
The bad is airbrushed mostly.
Holidays are never perfect : something always goes wrong or it's not as great as it looks! Big pinch of salt is needed I think.
About most things.

icantthinkofanothernewname · 05/06/2019 16:26

🙄I've drastically reduced what I post on SM. Instead we share pictures on family wats app groups so the people who we really want to see the pictures can see them.
No one else really matters. Or cares.
I used to post a lot, but actually sat and thought about it one day and realised how crazy it actually is!!!

LaurieFairyCake · 05/06/2019 16:28

I do that 🤷‍♀️

I don't post on Facebook in everyday life as I'm too busy so of course I post when I'm on holiday - it's literally the only time I have free to post cute photos of dd, the dogs, dh

I was on holiday at Easter. I posted a photo every day of the cream tea I had - my mates all rated them. Was fun.

FannyFeatures · 05/06/2019 16:28

Eliza, I was talking about people I know personally who have the most perfect holidays, lives and family. On FB.

In real life, not so much. Yes, they may be in the moment when they post these things, that's not false. But only sharing the good times and editting out the bad is.

IDSNeighbour · 05/06/2019 16:29

I use facebook a lot on holiday (and when not on holiday). I go on long, travelling type holidays by myself and don't have a partner or children to keep in touch with. I'm not one of these people who travels to meet other solo travellers - in fact, I actively avoid them. I love being by myself but I don't want to feel completely cut off from the 'home world'. Posting on facebook and interacting with people makes a trip more enjoyable for me - I don't feel like such a lonely recluse.

My rule is that a post has to be (in my opinion) amusing, informative or interesting. If it's none of those things (eg my legs on a sunlounger or a normal lunch!) then I won't post it.

pictish · 05/06/2019 16:29

“I know a few people who post constant updates and photos on their social media throughout the day and I pity their children, the only memories they will have are of that parent coaching them to get a great smile/angle/filter through a phone instead of actually enjoying their time together. “

Look...no. I’m not one for peppering my newsfeed with constant photos of my kids or every activity we do...BUT what you said there is inaccurate, accusatory and judgemental. It takes seconds to take a few snaps on an phone and there’s usually one in a batch that hits the mark. It’s not a case of coaching them or spoiling quality time together at all. You have no idea what quality of relationship is enjoyed, you’re simply voicing your fantasy that places you as a better parent than they are. How dare you pity their kids!

Sirzy · 05/06/2019 16:30

That advice from the AA is just basic common sense really.

If you have a million friends and a public profile your asking for trouble. If you have a secure profile and only people you know and trust then not an issue.

Cryalot2 · 05/06/2019 16:30

I am rarely on fb.(A few so called friends just seemed to enjoy tearing people apart)
But I do post some holiday photos . Mainly scenery. And not many .
If people have a problem then please unfriend me .
I certainly do not post to show off .
Comments from others can be crucifing on social media.

Sooverthemill · 05/06/2019 16:31

Unfollow them. Then you won't make yourself pissed off at other people having fun. Posting photos and comments is sure,y what Facebook is all about? What do you use it for?

Redglitter · 05/06/2019 16:31

It's just a big klaxon to getting your house knocked off imo confused

Then that's down to poor security settings.

I do post things on holiday but more that its another way to save my photos. My settings are that only friends can see my posts/photos & thankfully I'm quite confident none of my friends are burglars

FannyFeatures · 05/06/2019 16:31

No Pictish.

This is people, family members, who I know well, hear and see enough of their lives to know what goes on behind the scenes.

Karigan195 · 05/06/2019 16:32

Personally I do because my crappy phone has poor memory so I can upload to FB then delete for the next day 🤷‍♀️

Karigan195 · 05/06/2019 16:32

Oh and my house is pretty much never empty so the security thing doesn’t matter

msmith501 · 05/06/2019 16:33

I have a couple of friends who went on holiday last year. The male of the couple just wanted to explore and relax but the issue wasn't that the female wanted everyone to see what a fantastic time they were having but some more worrying psychologically: she couldn't move from one location to another, or from one bar to another until they had received enough FB "likes" regarding photos of whatever they were doing to enable her to confirm that 'yes indeed, we're having a great rime' (cos it's been confirmed by a bunch or almost-friends, some real friends and a few strangers). I think FB can sometimes encourage people to become needy for approval / approbation.

Paddington68 · 05/06/2019 16:33

Friends of mine went to Australia, posted all over facebook constantly.
Came back to house emptied.

msmith501 · 05/06/2019 16:34

rime = time* oops

pigeonscooing · 05/06/2019 16:35

One of my friends always seems to be on holiday - constant weekend breaks all over Europe interspersed with half a dozen fortnights in the tropics, and two or three long cruises a year. OK she's retired and can do what she likes, but does she really think all of her family and friends want to see a photo of her luggage on a trolley at the airport - again?!

MorondelaFrontera · 05/06/2019 16:35

I think it's nice to see your friends nice holiday, it's easy to unfollow them if you don't like it.

Does it matter if they do it to show off, to keep photos, or just to update their REAL friends and family who enjoy seeing the photos? It's their wall, they put what they want.

It's always the risk that what they think is a luxury holiday won't appear so luxurious to others, so am actually not sure it's really about bragging.

Oblomov19 · 05/06/2019 16:36

Why do you hate FB so much? Or this person? And the lifestyle they choose to live? And how they record it? Hmm

I only post on FB a few times per year, but I can't understand your objection!

MadamMMA · 05/06/2019 16:37

I don’t get what some people think FB is for Grin

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Lovemusic33 · 05/06/2019 16:43

I have unfollowed them (read my OP).

It’s not that I don’t like seeing people having fun, there’s hardly any photos of them, mainly photos of food and the accommodation. I love seeing exotic places but they haven’t really posted any photos of outside the hotel or of them having fun. They do travel a lot, up to ten times a year, I’m not jealous, it’s great that they can do that and I hope when my kids have grown up I will be able to travel more too. I’m just fed up of seeing what Karen had for her breakfast, lunch, dinner, desert and cocktails 🤣

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