To wonder why people have to post on Fb when they are on holiday?

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I mean FFS enjoy your holiday and step away from your phone / social media.

So, a relative is on holiday, somewhere really expensive, hot, all inclusive (yes I’m jealous), they go on holiday quite a lot. I have had to look at every meal they have eaten, every trip they have been on, every cocktail they have had and photos of every waiter that has served them. I mean, surely if your on holiday you should be having fun and not sat on your phone taking photos of every morsel of food you eat??

And before anyone suggests I hide their profile, I just have 😁, I’m just miffed at why someone would be on Fb all day whilst on holiday?

there are no photos of the destination 🤣 it’s just photos of what they are eating and drinking and photos of the hotel staff. I like seeing photos of destinations. A friend recently went to Japan and the photos were amazing and interesting to see.

Different people are interested in different things. Is that really news to you? Or do you expect everyone to only post things that you are interested in. There is some irony in that.

I think it so that burglars know they’re away

How?

Fragile egos? It's the fragile egos of those posting that's the point, needing 'likes' for every single thing they do.

FB is fundamentally narcissistic. No-one posts anything without wanting a response to it.

Less is always more, as far as FB is concerned. A few well-chosen photos at the end of your holiday - lovely. 300 mainly crap photos of every random thing - not so much.

I would worry about being burgled too. It doesn’t offend me if people choose to post, in fact a friend of mine does this regularly, and her reports are very detailed, so I feel like I have been there anyway 🤣!

I can still enjoy my holiday and post or scroll through social media when I’m on holiday or on a day trip, as I’m in quite a few facebook groups that are very active and I’ve made a few online friends that I enjoy chatting to most days. Having said that, I don’t tend to post photos of me on the beach or by the pool etc, as I don’t think most people are particularly interested, and also I don’t want to advertise that my house is empty for a week, so I’m not sure why people feel the need to do that, apart from to rub it in that they’re away maybe!

mooncup so people enjoy seeing photos of half eaten plates of food rather than scenery?

That's an interesting point @ohyesiam, I'm not sure if it's a myth but I was told by a family member that home insurance companies are actually using social media to invalidate claims of burglary/theft if the policy holder has posted that they are away from home for a period of time as this akin to advertising that your property is unoccupied.

It’s so that everyone knows their house is empty while they’re away. Always amazes me how many people do this. Why would you let everyone know you’re away? Put photos on social media when you get back.

I do think dinner pics are awful ' it's a lobster, big burger , chips' whatever.
I don't really care , but I know that some people are doing it to be ironic so I can forgive those ones!

It does get a tedious when it's constant. A couple of pictures is nice but often you see so much of other people's holidays you feel you should have air miles.
For the record I'm not jealous of people in AI hotels in hot places, other holidaymakers and sunburn are not what I want from a holiday.
A family who I really like in RL have taken a year out to go travelling, after three days, over 100 pictures and lengthy blog posts from each family member I'm ashamed to say I unfollowed them. I'll hear about their adventures when they get back in 6 months time!

Because they are bored? Because they don't want to talk to their spouse?

I use it as a diary. I'm a single mum so there's no other adult to share/reminisce with. I love when my Facebook memories come up and remind me of those special times with my kids.

My Facebook friends list is pretty concise too so it's only people I know currently and stay in regular contact with.

I agree with the OP. Surely if a holiday is that amazing, you wouldn't have time to fanny about on fb?

I share a lot of pics on Facebook. Basically I use it to store my photos so if I lost my phone I’d have them somewhere - and if one of my friends wants to comment on something or like something that’s nice too. I like the “on this day” feature as well - I like to check everyday to see different memories pop up.

Mumsnet seems to hate Facebook but I really enjoy it. If you don’t like something it’s easy to just scroll past or hide it. I only have about 50 people on mine though, I only add people if I would actually stop and speak to them if I passed them on the street!

Absolutely, Fairylea. I've posted before that the way some people talk about their FB friends just makes them come over as sour and unpleasant and I do often wonder if the friends under discussion ever have an inkling IRL that people they may well think kindly of are bitching about them and putting them down for the way they use social media...on, err, social media.

I like FB, I like my FB friends, and I like seeing what they've been up to and where they've been. That seems like a revolutionary concept given the prevailing attitude towards FB on MN, but then I appear to be one of the lucky ones who received the memo that FB is optional.

How is posting about what you get up to on holiday any different to posting about what you get up to the rest of the year? You do sound pretty jealous, and you also seem to have a problem with the concept of Facebook. In which case maybe don’t be on it?

I’m on holiday. All inclusive. Hot. Moderately expensive. I’m posting on social media. I don’t give a shit if people don’t like it, they’re very welcome to mute me! The various grandparents and other family members are really enjoying seeing what their DGC are up to so it’s worth it for that. Plus I’m currently lying on a sunbed under a sleeping toddler so not much else to do RN anyway!

It takes 30 seconds to post a picture of status so hardly indicative on how much fun someone is or isn’t having on holiday!

I like seeing what my friends are up to, but then I am only friends with people who I actually like so maybe that helps!

What's superior about using or not using social media? Those who like to, use it, those who don't, don't. I don't use my FB and don't look at it. I was there in the early days of it when it was just a novelty of accepting randoms as friends so I'm stuck with a 'friends list' of hundreds when I only know about five of them in reality.

People get so sensitive and defensive when something they love to do isn't heralded by somebody else. I don't know why that is?

OP doesn't sound miserable to me, drinkygin, just a bit jaded and bemused. It's not very nice to call people miserable and jealous, but I'm guessing you know that which is why you did.

I used to enjoy seeing people's lovely photos. Said to a friend that they seemed to have had an amazing holiday by the look of the photos. She said it was a disaster from beginning to end and everyone hated it. Interesting how people project themselves on media!

Not on FB anymore but I do get twitchy when people post a photo of me on their page without asking. Saw a friend last week who asked if we had enjoyed our night out.... grrrr

I don't normally but we recently went to Canada and Alaska- some of my friends asked me to post lots of pics because they'd like to go there too so they could see what it's like. I think I would have anyway because I was so blown away by how incredible it was I wanted to show everyone!

@mooncuplanding You aren't supposed to post about holidays and nice things because there are others that can't have them, remember.

My favourite are the people who tag in everywhere. 'X is at Croydon bus station' OK good to know! I guess people like to show off or just imagine everyone's more interested than they really are in the miniature of your life.

that’s my point exactly, I don’t care, I’m sure most people don’t care so why keep posting?

Isn't that the point of social media? To share what's going on in your life, to share funny things or to share news?

I mean, if you don't care, don't comment. Clearly they care, and so do the people who like/comment on their posts.

I find it hard to get worked up over what other people post on their own social media pages.

I know a woman who is a compulsive facebooker. Just as OP says, every meal, every airport lounge, she puts on Facebook. She comes across as not very interested in you: her audience on Facebook are more important. You are just the backdrop to the story she’s telling. She’s not very fun to be around.

They want everyone to know how interesting and exciting their lives are... Instead they look like dullards who are usually painting a false idealistic picture of what their lives are

How is it false if they are actually on holiday or doing the things their pics depict.

My DB and SIL are like this, they post everything and with a million hashtags but the funny thing is, in person they barely talk- just sit on their phones- boring!

They take a million pics with DNephew all smiling then both retreat to their virtual world