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To wonder why people have to post on Fb when they are on holiday?

211 replies

Lovemusic33 · 05/06/2019 15:51

I mean FFS enjoy your holiday and step away from your phone / social media.

So, a relative is on holiday, somewhere really expensive, hot, all inclusive (yes I’m jealous), they go on holiday quite a lot. I have had to look at every meal they have eaten, every trip they have been on, every cocktail they have had and photos of every waiter that has served them. I mean, surely if your on holiday you should be having fun and not sat on your phone taking photos of every morsel of food you eat??

And before anyone suggests I hide their profile, I just have 😁, I’m just miffed at why someone would be on Fb all day whilst on holiday?

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Proseccoinamug · 05/06/2019 17:17

Because they want to?
Perhaps they are enjoying themselves in a different way from you.

MorondelaFrontera · 05/06/2019 17:17

why do people go on facebook at all?

If you restrict your contacts as real friends and family you actually like, it's a great way to stay in touch.

It's also an even better media for haters to gossip and bitch behind people's back, what can you do.

The80sweregreat · 05/06/2019 17:18

I like fb as I can keep in touch with people and some posts are just nice.
I don't participate much myself though. The soap forums are good fun.
It's just not to be taken too seriously in my opinion!

Crushedvelvetcouch · 05/06/2019 17:18

I have a friend who posts evety detail of her admittedly, seemingly very nice life on FB.

In her case it absolutely comes from a position of deep insecurity.
She grew up poor amd neglected, in and out of care and was a figure of ridicule amongst her peers as a a teenager.
So now as she and her husband run a successful small business she posts the minutiae of every holiday meal, trip to Costa/Prezzo/Harvester, shopping trip etc.
She shares this with all the people who used to ridicule her in a 'look at me now' show of her relative success.
She is notably, the only person amongst my 350 odd friends who behaves in this way on social media, she craves the validation and I hope she finds adequate comfort in it.

So OP, some people need others to see their good times as a means of validating their life choices. I don't necessarily think there's anything wrong with it and if it doesn't sit well with you then don't look at their posts.

herethereandeverywhere · 05/06/2019 17:19

I post lots when I'm on holiday, it's all part of enjoying the experience. I use it as a sort of online diary.

I really couldn't give a shit whether my posts make some bitter old acquaintance jealous or bored - and given the ability to unfriend and unfollow they can always step away.Smile

Conks · 05/06/2019 17:22

Facebook is meant to be used for the thing you’re moaning about. What do you use it for then?

FannyFeatures · 05/06/2019 17:24

I think it's a massive leap to get from the OP not seeing the need for what is essentially an online food diary to her hating on and being jealous of the poster.

It's nice to see people enjoying themselves and it's lovely to see new places and the experiences they've had but that's a completely different thing.

Idontwanttotalk · 05/06/2019 17:24

I agree OP. Even taking loads of photos on holidays is at the expense of just enjoying it for what it is. Posting them on FB is more of a reflection of how they view themselves and a need for validation.
I can't think of anything much more boring than having to look at someone else's photos.Yawn.

ValleyoftheHorses · 05/06/2019 17:24

Maybe my FB is broken because it’s mainly a stream of adverts. I like it when a friend's holiday photos/ day out/ pictures of children or pets appears!

Idontwanttotalk · 05/06/2019 17:27

"I think it's a massive leap to get from the OP not seeing the need for what is essentially an online food diary to her hating on and being jealous of the poster."
Me too.

redcarbluecar · 05/06/2019 17:27

I like seeing my friends' holiday pics - FB is a good place to share them. It does get on my nerves if there's a constant drip feed (as opposed to the odd little cluster) so if that happens I might unfollow the person for a while, but generally I enjoy seeing what they're up to and pics of nice scenery, people etc. It's kind of part of the shared experience we enter into by choosing to be on social media.

Squirrelblanket · 05/06/2019 17:28

I love seeing holiday photos. I get it that not everyone is interested, but I don't think everything we post needs to be fascinating to everyone else. You are never going to please everyone. For example I'm not particularly interested in the hundreds of photos people post of their kids but it doesn't bother me as I can scroll past without making a drama out of it.

I post pictures while I'm on holiday. Mostly while I'm chilling on my sun lounger or waiting for my husband to get ready to go out in the evening. It takes 30 seconds and doesn't stop me enjoying my holiday.

You sound really bitter and jealous.

PonderingPanda · 05/06/2019 17:33

I post a lot of photos on FB and tag/check in places. I do it for myself so l can look back at what l have done - an online diary really. I don't expect anyone else to look or comment but if they do then that's really nice

RasberryRoyale · 05/06/2019 17:38

I know someone who did this on her honeymoon! Every meal, every glass of wine, pictures of their legs and feet whilst sitting on a lounge chair, every activity from different angles. Selfies every day.

She is a bit of an oversharer anyhow but I kind of thought for her honeymoon she would be too busy enjoying it but apparently not.

Poochnewbie · 05/06/2019 17:40

I use social media a lot..I don’t see why people who don’t see themselves as superior, more interesting people who can judge those who do. People are different - use social media if you like it and don’t if you don’t. For me, I love the memories popping up. As for what I see, I enjoy seeing my friends holiday pictures, I enjoy seeing their kids, I celebrate their achievements and acknowledge their hurts because I LIKE them and CARE about them.i especially like keeping up with people who are too far away from me.
Posting a picture takes a few seconds - it hardly needs to ruins whole holiday!

HundredMilesAnHour · 05/06/2019 17:40

but does she really think all of her family and friends want to see a photo of her luggage on a trolley at the airport - again?!

I have some friends who fly a LOT. One of them travels frequently (usually weekly) for work and the partner is retired so goes along on all the work trips. This is interspersed with frequent holidays. They always used to post photos of themselves sitting on the plane. But they've upped this and recently started filming as they check-in, walk through the airport etc. And every meal. And their hotel suite. And the hotel lift. And the pool. And the car back to the airport etc. And it goes on..... Given how frequently they fly, I feel like I've seen the inside of almost every airport in the world. I love them both dearly but I wish they would do some editing.

To be honest, I just thank my lucky stars that when I travelled on the same flight as them last year, they were still in the photo stage rather than video. It was like travelling with paparazzi as it was.

But it seems to make them happy so I just click like and let them get on with it. And sometimes I comment on their posts just to prove that I'm paying attention. Wink

SolitudeAtAltitude · 05/06/2019 17:44

People are on social media because they want to share their happiness/luck

Not hard to understand.

Posting a pic on FB takes a minute, not exactly "spending all their time on their phone when they should be having fun"

Also, phones are fun (as we are all on MN you probably agree)

LimeKiwi · 05/06/2019 17:45

’m just miffed at why someone would be on Fb all day whilst on holiday

You realise it literally takes about a second to post a picture of your feet next to the pool or your cocktail, right?! Grin Hmm
You're hardly on it "all day FFS.
I love seeing pics of what people are getting up to cos I'm a nosey cow

BiddyPop · 05/06/2019 17:50

A sibling is incredibly insensitive with the number of pictures from their prolific number of holidays.

For various reasons (money, time, DCs in school, SNs...) there are far fewer holidays for other siblings. It feels like a slap in the face every time - as there is almost nothing in terms of communications generally or supporting others (except to whine about being left out of the news....aw diddums!). Holiday sibling genuinely seems to feel they don’t have a lot of breaks (on their 3rd at least so far this year Hmm)

Sorry in a grump today at more sunny photos while I have crap at work, yet again!

Blondieg · 05/06/2019 17:59

I went abroad on holiday with a friend. When she wasn't asking me to pose for staged photos with her, then retaking and retaking again she was on getting updated on her fb comments. "Oo look what so and so said about that pic" and I was left bemused wondering when we were actually gonna start our holiday rather than pretending we were on one.

Likethebattle · 05/06/2019 18:03

It takes seconds to post a picture. I like to peruse the Internet whilst relaxing so Facebook is part of it. I still enjoy my holiday and I can look back in my memories and see where we were and what we were up to a year ago, three years ago etc.

TheDeflector · 05/06/2019 18:07

I love seeing other people's pictures and knowing they're happy. Food pictures are my favourite so if you're my friend, keep doing it!

I'm disabled and I barely leave the house now. It gives me a window into the outside world and makes me feel less lonely.

If I go anywhere, it's a big deal, so damn right I will take loads of photos and share them. Then they come up on my Time Hop and I can see that life isn't shit all the time.

Wouldn't it be nice if people stopped being so fucking judgey about things that cause them no harm and have fuck all to do with them?

LadyVox · 05/06/2019 18:13

When I was at uni I got on fine with my roommates but wouldn’t call them friends, was dating a guy I was unsure of and spent most evenings home alone. I was constantly posting photos and tagging on twitter and Facebook and lived for notifications.

In the 8 years since graduating I’ve had several interesting jobs, married an amazing man and met so many great friends, go on lots of nights out and social events and holiday pretty often. My Facebook is a dead zone, I never post a thing.

As a result, based on my own experience, I believe that people who post lots about their fab lives on Facebook are actually feeling the opposite and desperate to prove to people everything is rosy.

LagunaBubbles · 05/06/2019 18:14

What's superior about using or not using social media? Those who like to, use it, those who don't, don't

Exactly. But you dont tend to get threads started by people professing their love of FB, it's usually people slagging it off, which inevitably attract people who do come across as superior and smug because they don't and look down on people who do.

TheDeflector · 05/06/2019 18:15

As a result, based on my own experience

From the experience of one person?

Pull the other one.