to be actually scaed.. help (genuine)

[ArtOfGettingBy]

Last night at 4am, DP & I were woken by a phone call on his phone. He answered and someone told him 'I'm going to kill you, i'm going to slit your throat and sleep with your mrs'.

This evening, another call from the same voice 'is this (DP's name), i'm going to come and smash your house' and then DP put the phone down.

Both calls from blocked number. We called 101 but because it's not a significant amount of calls, they won't start an investigation yet and to just ring 999 if anyone dodgy is outside.

DP has gone to bed and i'm fucking petrified. We have done nothing to no one which would cause death threats. Part of me wants to believe it's just someone being stupid with him/us but I can't help worry someone is going to come.

How do I manage this anxiety in the meantime?

Ring 999...

What does dp think?

Has he pissed anyone off recently?

I think i would not want to stay in my house! Dont blame you for being scared!

Have you contacted the police?

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Just call 999, for your own safety as worry and anxiety will make you ill

That gave me goosebumps reading that. Could it be an ex? Anything to do with work? Prank gone wrong?

Says in my post we contacted the police.

For clarification theres nothing they can do yet as it's not regular enough harrassment as it's only just started and finding out who blocked callers are is very complicated and expensive they say.

That sounds awful! I’d ignore all phone calls unless I knew the caller. Make sure doors are locked, phones are charged and you have something like a hammer to hand.

How horrible. Don’t blame you for feeling scared

What would calling 999 do? They won’t come out for a phone call. It’s likely just a horrible prank, OP, but I would feel the same.

There are apps you can get to prank call people with this scary stuff- one of my DD aged 11 got one and one of her so called ‘friends’ had got the app to request a call to her number. They told her they were watching her and we’re going to kill her family in their sleep!!!! I spoke to the school and ‘friends’ parents. It’s awful!

‘Sleep with your mrs’ is an odd choice of words.

Your DH hasn’t been mistaken for someone’s OM has he? Sounds like a pissed-off husband.

Does your dh genuinely have no idea? I’d also be really scared

The only person we know of that it could be is one of his ex's who is a nasty piece of work. But it's a man talking and it's not her boyfriends voice (different accent) and unlikely to be him now as they've been together longer than DP & I.

But it's not really a move she'd make, which makes me worry more as DP doesn't think it is her.

Sorry for typo’s- I’m honestly knackered and not just illiterate

Jesus Christ I'd be bricking it too!! That's horrendous OP some people are so bloody nasty.

They obviously had his number and knew his name.

Honestly if you and your DH truly believe these might be real threats then I would call 999.

Does your DH really have no idea why he’s getting these calls or who they are from?
No people he has recently fallen out with? Someone he has crossed at work? Recently given his number to someone? nobody in his past that’s dodgy or thinking it’s really funny?

Could you stay elsewhere for a few days? I mean I know that doesn’t really help the problem but getting some rest and being able to face this with a clear head would help.

The police must be able to give you some more advice?

There are plenty of ways to alter a voice OP, some are quite convincing.

If it really is an ex who is prepared to do that, it wouldn't surprise me if they altered their voice with an app or something else

ArtOfGettingBy I do think it might be someone he knows with one of these apps. But I’d be taking a baseball bat to bed with me if I’d received a message like that. It’s really very horrible for you x

A threat to kill your DP and rape you is really serious stuff, OP. And if they are using your DP's name, then it isn't some malicious prank that's come through to the wrong number. Someone has reached their intended target.

This is a direct threat and the police need to be persuaded to take it seriously. If you see or hear anything suspicious, ring 999 immediately. And tomorrow, I'd file a report and get a paper trail of the harrassment on record. Try to record any calls that do come through, or divert them onto voice mail and store them as evidence.

How absolutely horrible for you. There are some twisted people out there

There's really no one he's crossed. But he just thinks 'let someone try to attack me, i'd get them first' kind of attitude. Well I'm bloody scared!

Police have given all the advice they can at this stage.

I wish I could stay somewhere else for a few days but i'm broke and can't afford to travel from my mums to work each day as I only live by my work and don't budget travel.

Does DH have any mates that might like a sleepover for a couple of nights?

Failing that a big fuck off dog?

That's awful OP.

I hope these calls stop, but please call 999 if you see or hear anything suspicious.

You've got this.

@MarieIVanArkleStinks It definitely is serious which is why i'm so worried. It is logged with the police but they can't open an investigation based on 2 separate phone calls apparently.

If you’re friends with someone on FB you can get their phone number that’s attached to the account pretty easily, could someone from his distant past be bullying him back for example?