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to be actually scaed.. help (genuine)

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ArtOfGettingBy · 03/06/2019 22:33

Last night at 4am, DP & I were woken by a phone call on his phone. He answered and someone told him 'I'm going to kill you, i'm going to slit your throat and sleep with your mrs'.

This evening, another call from the same voice 'is this (DP's name), i'm going to come and smash your house' and then DP put the phone down.

Both calls from blocked number. We called 101 but because it's not a significant amount of calls, they won't start an investigation yet and to just ring 999 if anyone dodgy is outside.

DP has gone to bed and i'm fucking petrified. We have done nothing to no one which would cause death threats. Part of me wants to believe it's just someone being stupid with him/us but I can't help worry someone is going to come.

How do I manage this anxiety in the meantime?

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Whywonttheyletmeusemyusername · 04/06/2019 01:00

Why is the phrase "sleep with your Mrs" odd to everyone? Plenty of people I know speak like that. I agree its probably a prank website thing OP, but ur DH is a tool for going to bed and leaving you awake and panicking

visitorthedog · 04/06/2019 01:15

It’s the ‘sleep with’ bit I think, not quite in line with the rest of the threat.

Chimpd0g · 04/06/2019 07:17

how terrifying, hope you managed to get some sleep

Sarcelle · 04/06/2019 07:29

The caller asked if your DH was DH. If you know somebody you would not need to ask.

Hopefully this is a prank but I felt scared reading it. If it is a friend having a laugh, they are knobs.

frangipan · 04/06/2019 07:47

Most of these prank apps have voice changers too. I know it’s really frightening but it’s probably a sick friend/work colleague/acquaintance/total arse Angry

BeautifulWintersMorning · 04/06/2019 08:14

"sleep with your Mrs" doesn't sound odd to me. Sounds like something some South Londoners would say. Seems a strange prank. Is it possible your dp slept with someone and it's their angry partner?

JaneyJimplin · 04/06/2019 08:21

Did they phone again OP?

StealthPolarBear · 04/06/2019 09:25

This sounds horrendous. I appreciate the police can't do anything but I'd like to think they've got uou on some sort of priority list so if a 999 call comes through no time is wasted.
"TheDarkPassenger

It’s a website. My friends did it to me"
Ex friends I assume? Anyone sick enough o do this would be no friend of mine. Its not a prank, it's threats to life and safety.

FilledSoda · 04/06/2019 09:41

I'd put money on your dh knowing exactly what this is about.

Relightmyfirepit · 04/06/2019 11:24

How long have you been with your partner? In your previous thread at Christmas about being homeless you didn’t mention a partner so just wondering if it’s quite a new relationship and maybe you don’t know him as well as you think?

ijustneedhelpwithsocks · 04/06/2019 11:55

It's a prank call. What you've described follows the script. At 20 years old I'd imagine some of your mates might be quite juvenile and find this kind of thing funny.

fecketyfeck21 · 04/06/2019 12:11

for someone who threatens to 'slit a throat' i think they would have said 'rape' as opposed to sleep with,' rape' sounds more terrifying imo.
perhaps you could change phone numbers if possible even if using a different sim for a few days.

fecketyfeck21 · 04/06/2019 12:13

is it possible your partner is cheating and the other guy has gotten your number from the ow? just a thought, a revenge thing.

AdaShelby · 04/06/2019 12:19

The reason I find sleep with your Mrs strange is that it's at odds with the rest of the call.

Slit your throat etc is very violent and I'm sure we can all think of threats on par with that meaning 'sleep with'

How are you OP?

SparklyMagpie · 04/06/2019 12:25

@fecketyfeck21 that is exactly what I'd been thinking

Whywonttheyletmeusemyusername · 04/06/2019 12:28

Ah yeah, makes sense. Hope you're ok today op and had no more calls

Becathourus · 04/06/2019 12:30

Sorry op, I would be just as worried and anxious as you are, I think all you can do is wait a week and see if they phone again- but I'd advise not too say anything, not even hello on the phone and see what else they say.

And not to scare you any further but like others have said lock and triple check all doors and windows and even check hiding places in your house (sorry I've watched too many stalker films where they've been lurking in the wardrobe all this time)

I'm 99% sure this is just a silly joke from someone you both know or even kids from a work colleague. Perhaps he could ask other people (colleagues, friends and family) if they've also gotten these phone calls?

Asta19 · 04/06/2019 12:34

As a pp pointed out. If someone was really going to do these things then they wouldn't warn you first! Take sensible precautions but try not to let the fear take over. Otherwise you are letting them win.

Victormeldrew1 · 04/06/2019 12:35

I just did prankdial on my partner and you have to put a number to call off so they can see who's calling so it wouldn't be a blocked number

BlueMerchant · 04/06/2019 12:35

I'm sorry but I really believe DH knows what this is about. Him slinking off to bed also rings alarm bells and although you socialise together etc I'm sure you don't know what he is doing 100% of the time.

Didntwanttochangemyname · 04/06/2019 16:05

Why would a prank dial app even exist? Who needs it? Fucking weird!

Original poster
ArtOfGettingBy · 04/06/2019 17:55

Hi everyone.

No more phone calls which is good

DP doesn’t know what this is about or he wouldn’t have rung the police.

Also is it that far fetched for some women to not comprehend that other women do know their partners properly and what they’re up to? I know 100% DP Has nothing to do with this or knows who it is. The only reason he went to bed is he thinks it’s just a prank

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MRex · 04/06/2019 19:30

What are the circumstances around moving into your new house? Did you change the house phone number (I'm presuming this is a house phone)?

Original poster
ArtOfGettingBy · 04/06/2019 19:45

It’s a mobile number.
Just to move in together in our first joint home

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Uzicorn · 04/06/2019 19:51

If your husband is not a criminal then this seems like a lot of drama. The chances of anyone actually following through on the threat are 0.0001%. Not sure how people can help you, you've already had advice from the authorities.