to be actually scaed.. help (genuine)

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Last night at 4am, DP & I were woken by a phone call on his phone. He answered and someone told him 'I'm going to kill you, i'm going to slit your throat and sleep with your mrs'.

This evening, another call from the same voice 'is this (DP's name), i'm going to come and smash your house' and then DP put the phone down.

Both calls from blocked number. We called 101 but because it's not a significant amount of calls, they won't start an investigation yet and to just ring 999 if anyone dodgy is outside.

DP has gone to bed and i'm fucking petrified. We have done nothing to no one which would cause death threats. Part of me wants to believe it's just someone being stupid with him/us but I can't help worry someone is going to come.

How do I manage this anxiety in the meantime?

I think your husband knows more than he's letting on IMO. Going to bed and leaving you worried isn't the norm. I think this is something on his side and I don't think anyone is going to harm you at all just scare mongering tactics to scare him.

Won't help much tonight but do any of your friends have a dog you can borrow? Doesn't have to be a big one, but as an alert. Might help you to sleep

Who called 101? Did you speak to them or your dh?

Does your DH work somewhere where his clients might be pissed off with him? Anything like social work, law, healthcare etc?- but you can get crazy people anywhere.

I think if I could afford it, I would book into a hotel or AirBnB for a couple of nights. If you can't, I would double lock all doors, maybe put something heavy against your bedroom door and keep a phone to hand, just in case. Hopefully it's a sick prank.

I know it is very scary and I’d probably be terrified if it was happening to me, but reading it from an outsider’s point of view it sounds like stupid kids getting their kicks. What does your partner do? Is he a teacher or anything to do with kids/teens? Does he have any nephews or nieces who might find it funny to do this? Or any kids on your side of the family? It is very likely to be a couple of daft kids who are egging each other on to make the calls. And using some kind of voice changer.

It's a prank and your DP is probably behind it to make himself look like a tough guy who can 'take anyone on' which is why he's so unconcerned.

Are you ok OP?

Hopefully just a prank

I’ve heard those prank calls and they can refer to your name. I heard a recording of a prank phone call recently; it was someone accusing the receiver of being a pervert. As someone said above, it allows you to respond by using long pauses. It sounds so genuine. I did think however that it says at the end of the call, or you receive a text, that confirms it was a prank call via X....

I could be wrong though!

It’s not nice whomever it was, and it is definitely not nice to feel so scared.

It does sound like a nasty prank, but if you’re still worried tomorrow get yourself a couple of baby listeners and plug them in downstairs. Not too close to the doors or windows as you don’t want to be disturbed by people walking past. I bought a couple of cheap ones so I would be woken up by anything unusual downstairs. I won’t bore you with the details, (asshole disturbed neighbour) but I’ve slept sooo much better since, as they’re super sensitive.

You mentioned the caller said your DPs name but you didn't say whether they said your name?
If not then that would sway me slightly to think it's somebody that knows your DP but not well enough to know your name as they referred to you as "the mrs"
Prank or not it's quite disturbing what people find amusing in their spare time 🙄

Hope you’re okay OP. It’s probably a harmless prank but I’d be terrified.

I think you should answer it next time. Maybe ask them a random question to see if they are real or a recording? If they’re real, ask what your DH has done wrong. They might just tell you.

We had this happen once. My husband just said “Come over. I’ll be waiting.” The calls continued for a few weeks then just stopped.

Obv. turn the phone off at night, or set to silent or voicemail.

Hope you’re okay OP. It’s probably a harmless prank but I’d be terrified.

It's not harmless, though is it?

I agree it's a prank. And someone could maybe use this app and give them your husbands name which makes it all the more convincing.

Can you set the phone so it doesn't accept any unknown numbers?

You say ‘I’m broke’ op? Is your dh broke or could he give you money to cover transport to work from your mums for a few days? It most likely is a prank but I’d be terrified too!

Another vote for prank call.

Hmm. Sleep with your Mrs sounds iffy to me.

Has your DP got any previous?

I've read another thread of yours OP. You say your dad has been abusive?

I'm sure the mobile and fixed line phone operators can find out the numbers that these calls orignate from and it their being sent on anon pay as you go phones can block them off the networks!

If they wanted to of course!..

It’s odd that the caller said ‘is this xxxx?’ - maybe the caller doesn’t know your DP?

If your OH thinks he can 'take anyone on is there a chance he's picked on the wrong person and not told you?

I'd be happier if he was awake and reassuring you.

Not sure I understand why having a hammer to hand is such a ludicrous suggestion under the circumstances

If you have a hammer, or knife, as another poster suggested, then any intruder bigger and/or stronger than you (very likely if you’re a woman) will take it from you and use it on you.