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Original poster

To lie to everyone about this trip?

144 replies

QuestionableMouse · 02/06/2019 20:19

I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable.

I'm at the end of my tether with various family things. I've just had a week of stressful exams and I'm at the point where I need some time alone.

I've booked myself a night in a Travelodge. I'm not even going to a different town just hiding from my family for 36 or so hours. I'm telling everyone it's for a course at work and I'll be miles away. I'm planning a pamper/relaxation session with some good food and a film to watch.

Aibu?

OP posts:
Podemos · 02/06/2019 22:35

Yabvu to not book 2 nights. Then no need to be up and out by checkout time.

TargaryenBean · 02/06/2019 22:54

Omg you're a QUEEN

EustaciaPieface · 02/06/2019 23:10

It sounds an amazing idea! I hope you enjoy it xxxx

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QuestionableMouse · 02/06/2019 23:11

Ah, thank you. I'm actually excited which is slightly ridiculous.

OP posts:
Leeds2 · 02/06/2019 23:18

Don't forget to put the "Do Not Disturb" thingy outside your room. Although, in my experience, the staff often ignore them!

SchadenfreudePersonified · 02/06/2019 23:19

You lucky bugger!

Wish it was me . . . .

PerspicaciaTick · 02/06/2019 23:28

Weirdly I had exactly the same thought today. Except I was wondering if I could spin my "course" out to be a week long Grin.

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QuestionableMouse · 02/06/2019 23:37

Do it 😁😁😁

OP posts:
justasking111 · 02/06/2019 23:48

I used to have a fantasy like this when I was really exhausted about a hotel room onto a beach. The room was all white with huge opening glass doors, voile curtains swaying gently in a sea breeze. Complete peace, just me wine, books, no clocks so I had no idea what the time was just slept when I wanted and woke when I wanted for a few days.

EleanorReally · 02/06/2019 23:53

couldnt you go somewhere grander?

ReadyForActionRyderSir · 02/06/2019 23:54

What do you have planned for dinner?! And what film do you have planned to watch? Excited for you Grin

Fab idea, hope you get a good rest

EleanorReally · 02/06/2019 23:56

sorry, just read thread Blush, please enjoy yourself, watch a good film, have a lovely meal, have a good comfortable sleep.

EleanorReally · 02/06/2019 23:56

i bet you miss your kids while you are away Wink

Ilovemypantry · 03/06/2019 00:27

I’m still not sure how the family OP wants a break from will know if she is at her own home or in a hotel. If the mobile phone is still in action and she is contactable, what’s the difference?

Bluerussian · 03/06/2019 00:28

Sounds wonderful!

yearinyearout · 03/06/2019 01:02

Couldn't you have saved the money and stayed at home? Whilst still telling them you're on a course (being picked up by colleague so car being there would give nothing away)

Happynow001 · 03/06/2019 01:24

If she's at home though OP would be trapped indoors and might be spotted going to/from the cinema- which is something she wants to do. Also means she can't have a relax and mooch round the shops as she might be spotted. Or anything else in the area. Being in a completely different, far off location is far more liberating as she also can't hear them Knocking on her front door.

Also OP if you can bear it do a temporary block of their numbers on your mobile so you don't have to be aware of them trying to call or text you (and this get into your head) and designate their email addresses as spam so you don't see them in your IN box. Just remember to unwind those as soon as you are "available" again. If you can't bear to block them temporarily then put your mobile on silent whilst you are away.

itwaseverthus · 03/06/2019 01:51

YABU Upgrade to a Hilton if at all possible and order the steak to room service, have a massage and drink wine in your PJs. It's the only thing that saved me from a breakdown I swear. Enjoy!

hazell42 · 03/06/2019 07:50

I took 8 weeks off work and told no one. Left the house at the same time every day and spent 8 hours doing exactly what I wanted.

I read books, drank coffee, went walking, and to the cinema. I wasnt doing anything that I would be ashamed for them to know about but just wanted time off from being everyone's first line of defence, if you know what I mean

I absolutely loved it and plan to do it again in the future. I'm even considering some fictitious business trips.

I should add I don't have a partner, just 4 teenage and adult children who treat me as their personal assistant and think I should be flattered to fulfil their every whim. They are fantastic kids, all things considered, but they have got used to being considered first and it doesn't occur to them that they could give some of that back to their mum who works like a bugger for them

MissB83 · 03/06/2019 07:52

This is like my fantasy. Do it!!!

Happynow001 · 03/06/2019 07:53

Wow Hazell. That sounds wonderful - you must have felt mentally lighter for the Freedom! 🌺

Verily1 · 03/06/2019 07:58

You need to stop the free childcare for your sister.

You are young free and single.

Have you considered relocating?

flapjackfairy · 03/06/2019 07:58

I do this on a regular basis though sadly only in my mind.
But in my case I am snowed in in a cottage in Scotland miles from everywhere and sitting by a huge window watching the snow fall by the glow of a real fire.
Ah bliss ! See I feel more relaxed just imagining it !

thelikelylass · 03/06/2019 07:59

I remember a comedy sketch where a business man was on the phone to his wife saying he was working late. When the camera panned out he was just sitting on a chair alone in a great big yellow storage container, sighing happily. Now that's genius! Avoid high monthly big yellow storage fees,OP, and enjoy your break.

MalloryLaurel · 03/06/2019 08:00

I fantasise about doing this.