To lie to everyone about this trip?

[QuestionableMouse]

I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable.

I'm at the end of my tether with various family things. I've just had a week of stressful exams and I'm at the point where I need some time alone.

I've booked myself a night in a Travelodge. I'm not even going to a different town just hiding from my family for 36 or so hours. I'm telling everyone it's for a course at work and I'll be miles away. I'm planning a pamper/relaxation session with some good food and a film to watch.

Aibu?

If I ever win euromillions I'm opening a sanctuary for frazzled MNers to do just this. I'm often tempted to do the same thing

Me too, but it would be pods in the woods - little wooded huts with plush cushions blankets tea coffee and wine!

Somewhere there would be a camp fire (optional) for low noise level chats

Yep, a hotel picnic sounds fab. I haven't been eating much due to exam stress too so some lovely snacky bits sounds fab.

There's also some good restaurants very close to the hotel so I might book into one of those for tea. (or I might just order pizza 😂😂)

Oooh great idea!

I'm loving the pod idea. May I suggest king size beds for maximum comfort?

Do you have a partner/husband? I’d much rather my partner was honest about it tbh. If I found out they had a night in a hotel and lied about where they were would make me question a lot.
Im quite surprised at the responses here. You’d get very different answers if the post was about finding out that your partner had lied where they were.

Ignore me, I need to learn to read follow-up posts before posting.

Yeah sorry, I didn't want to write a novel in the first post. I didn't mean to cause confusion.

I’ve been on that course. It was bloody good.

Fingers crossed no one spots your car in the car park!

Do iiiiiiiit

2-3 nights sounds better

Glad to hear you enjoyed it. 😁

I vote the secret get away place is called 'the course' 😂😂😂

You may!

Fab idea! Enjoy! And make sure you check in at the first available opportunity (if your room isn't ready they will mind your bags whilst you go out to explore/have coffee/lunch/gin), and check out as late as possible. And after you have checked out, no need to go home immediately. I think you will probably need to make sure you fully understand everything you have learned on your course!

I do it a couple of times a year. It's great. Mine isn't to escape drama just people.
Once I've checked in I don't leave until check out, and just binge watch stuff and sleep.

Next time park your car on the next street over, close all the blinds, and hide out in your own house and pretend to be away. It's cheaper and probably more comfortable.

If they pop past and hear the TV on, you had it on a timer for security reasons, natch! (Obviously to do this successfully they can't have keys to your house).

And THEN, develop some boundaries to keep some time for yourself.

At this rate I'll bet you don't even have time to date.

Check in is from 3pm but I might go to the cinema first. I've been wanting to go for weeks and stuff just keeps getting in the way.

I've paid for late check out too, planning a sleep in which I never get lately.

@HypatiaCade

Yep, it's something I'm working on but it's a work in progress. I'm a real people pleaser and find it hard to say no. I'm getting better but find it so hard.

I'm not long out of a long term relationship so I'm off dating for a bit now anyway.

I used to do this occasionally. We live near a very busy airport and I would get a cheap room deal somewhere, buy a picnic and bottle of wine from the M&S Food Shop and hole up for the night. When a family member was mentally ill being able to leave it all behind for just one night was heavenly.

As someone else has said, make sure your car is well hidden....... it really would be a shame if it was spotted.

Good luck OP! Maybe see if you can book a good therapeutic massage as well as go to the cinema. Enjoy! 🌹🍷

Actually tell them you are in Doncaster. No fucker is going to want to track you down there...!

Seriously, it's a good idea. Sometimes when you need headspace it's better to be away from your normal environment. This way you can totally relax and not be tempted to put the washing on, paint the spare room, pop to your parents etc.

You sound at the end of your tether. When you get home how will they contact you? Leave the answerphone on.
Don’t pick up your mobile.
If they can’t ask then you don’t have to say no.
And if the childcare is too much? Blame work. You don’t have time.
Nobody else is putting you first. So you have to. Good luck OP.

Given your family clarification... Go and never look back... and try to book in regular “work trips”.

and my sister (who I provide childcare for two or three days/nights a week... For a 3.5yo and a 11mo baby... I love them both to bits but they're hard work)

Please say you are payed for this. That's a lot of hours

Does travel lodge have baths? If so don't forget a nice bubble bath. A glass of something nice - those mini bottles of champagne have screw tops - but take a decent glass.

Have a lovely time.