To lie to everyone about this trip?

[QuestionableMouse]

I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable.

I'm at the end of my tether with various family things. I've just had a week of stressful exams and I'm at the point where I need some time alone.

I've booked myself a night in a Travelodge. I'm not even going to a different town just hiding from my family for 36 or so hours. I'm telling everyone it's for a course at work and I'll be miles away. I'm planning a pamper/relaxation session with some good food and a film to watch.

Aibu?

I used to dream about having a little flat that I could go to once a month for a night or two. It would all be neat and tidy, I could watch what I wanted on TV and no one would wake me up by jumping on top of me

I'm currently single and have noone depending on me. Hiding from my parents (both have life limiting but not serious illnesses that require many medical appointments) and my sister (who I provide childcare for two or three days/nights a week... For a 3.5yo and a 11mo baby... I love them both to bits but they're hard work.)

The exams have really taken a lot out of me. I had a three hour one on Thursday and have been shattered since.

I'll be contactable in case of need.

Don't worry, I sleep just fine. A Premier Inn would have been nicer but it was £100 ish per night compared to £35 for the Travelodge.

All of you similarly in need feel free to steal the idea.

Who are you actually lying to? I could do this and fib to the kids if I was desperate for sleep but I couldn’t do it to DH.

What if something happened to you? What if someone from work rang home? I set quite a low moral bar for most things tbh, but unless your DP is aware and on board I think it’s a bit shitty.

Just seen your update-ignore my post and bloody enjoy!

That’s a lot of childcare for your sister. I’d be hiding permanently .

My first thought was "what an amazing idea".. but then I thought if my other half did then:

1. I'd be fuming/suspicious that he lied
2. I'd be guilty he felt he had to go about it that way

Who would you need to lie to? Would you have to lie during (whilst there via text etc) the trip and after (how was the course etc)?

Also.. would not pick a Travel Lodge - nothing but bad experiences there and I travel quite a lot for work.

OK just seen your latest post - ignore what I said and go for it!!

Enjoy your time away, and when you get back think about dropping some of the childcare you do for your sister, it sounds exhausting!

I'm single.

Parents have their own house (I live alone) but someone always wants me. I need a break from it. I'm getting snappy and I'm constantly shattered. I know people will tell me to work on my boundaries and I will, but I need a break first.

Work only have my mobile number.

I'm okay with the tiny risk of something happening to me. I'll have my phone on me and I know the area where the hotel is very well.

From your update it sounds like everyone wants a piece of you and your time, but you have no time for yourself. Do it OP. You need a break.

Why can’t you just shit the door at home and not answer eh phone if you live alone anyway?

Can understand escaping from your own kids and DP and washing pile etc but you are going away for a night when you live alone?

I dont get it

Have you seen the episode of Miranda where she does this? Make sure you don’t give the game away by popping home to get all your clothes to put in the trouser press, or accidentally hire an escort 😂

Oh that is totally different, go for it and enjoy!! If money allowed I would turn it in to a spa night away!

I don’t think you shut shit the door 😂🤣

What a good idea!
You might want to do a couple of nights

Stiffasaboard she’s still entitled to get away for a night just because she lives alone

@Stiffasaboard

Because if I'm at home I'll get pulled into doing something. I'm a people pleaser and struggle to say no to things.

But if I'm in Doncaster* i'm not there to be dragged into things, if you see what I mean?

*I'm not really going to Doncaster but weirdly enough work do sometimes hold courses there.

No, they'll be no shitting on doors taking place.

Thank you, I was worried I was BU but I'm an introvert at heart and sometimes just need to get away from everyone.

Not too worried about it being a Travelodge, it's a new hotel and I've only heard good things.

Why have I never thought about this?! Genius!

Sure I have a course coming on next month.

When DS was a newborn I would day dream (at night during all the feeds and lack of sleep) about doing this.

I'd book a 2nd night if I were you, really recharge your batteries. You can tell your family at the last minute there was a booking error by your work with the date of the course or transport!

I hope you thoroughly enjoy it.

Omg not unreasonable at all. I might do this.

I can only really stretch to one night at the moment. (though I do have four days booked for Scarborough in September.)

Reminds me of the Miranda episode when she pretends to go to Thailand but is actually in the hotel down the road! Enjoy it OP, relax and sleep

Do it. I'm in a similar situation and did this earlier in the year - took myself to Bath for the weekend. It was fabulous.

Planning another 'sanity break' soon.

Try a bit of pampering while you're there - new book, face mask, couple of magazines, nice chocolate, bottle of wine etc.

Thank you! I'm planning on raiding the supermarket on the way and getting some nice snacks. And maybe a bottle of pear cider 😂

Don’t forget to treat yourself to a hotel picnic. Your favourite snacks...maybe even from M&S